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Moon and the stars have lined up finally going out to a LS bar tomorrow night(Friday)Oldest is home from college stay at home with the youngest,fingers crossed we don't chicken out LOL.. Me (Hubby)nervous!! Wife been grinding me/running her hand over my crouch etc while we are cooking tonight.Telling me this what I'm going to do Friday night!! If she's nervous its not showing LOL.. We are not going expecting anything and have responded to couple emails about meeting other couples pretty much told them don't expect us to play on the first date etc.. Hopefully we will have a enjoyable night out meet some like minded couples that will ease us into the LS. Thanks for all the responses!!! Charlie and Ally

I can recall my wife being with 2 guys who were hung like the proverbial horse. The first was one her worst sexual experiences, because it was painful for her when he thrust into her. The second I actually got to watch and this guy was clearly aware of the problem and handled his length with great care. I actually felt kinda bad for him. Large size may make a good picture but it doesn't seem to work well in application.

Not likely for us. There is a huge amount of personality that goes into being attracted to someone. Once the connection is there you can't really turn it off. I wouldn't worry about it.

Dear Skullsaw, Virtually every guy on this site will echo Alura's message--your insecurities about your appearance do not matter to us guys. In fact, many men (I'm one of them) think pregnant women are extremely sexy. You can analyze it all you want (maybe it's the fecundity, the fertility, etc, I dunno), but analysis really doesn't explain a lot. There is a growing opinion that I endorse heartily--the skinny, emaciated look of the models and the women thrown to us by the media don't match every guy's dream of what's sexy. Again, many of us prefer something other than that. You are right about the effect of "confidence," but that will come with some time and you might do well to listen to the people you have played with so far. It is like going on a job interview and being told you can't get the job without experience...but how can you get experience without the job??? Well, one thing that is extremely sexy and attractive to men is your attitude. If you are interested in him, he will be interested in you. Good luck.

You will always find at lest one that kinda looks like "oh man why me" lol But for the most part girls are less about the cock and more about the person - and i have to say many guys are the same way when it comes to choosing a girl play partner - if your fun loving and can get hard - you got it made!!!! I tell you a little story - we once did a couple and the guy was hung - but when he heard his wife having some fun with average Joe here he lost that hard on real quick. ( there is more to the story but i'm to lazy to post it now lol )

Please, let us all know how it goes!! Like I mentioned above, married 25 years, eagerly working to meet others too! Would love to hear about your first experience.

Yes, there are couples interested in hooking up with single guys. However, the first thing you must be aware of is that there are a LOT of single guys who want into the lifestyle. Like, hordes. Most of them are single guys suffering from the mistaken impression that going on lifestyle sites or to swingers clubs is an easy way to get laid. It isn't. It really, really isn't. Joining the army of assholes sending out dick-pics and "hey baby, let's fuck" to everyone with tits is generally not a path to success. As for advice, think about what you offer - then cross off any item on the list related to your dick, your stamina, your oral skills or your manual dexterity. Every guy offers that. Every. Single. One. Instead, as ViSexual and DirtyMyrtle said demonstrate (show don't tell) how you will be respectful of the couples you want to meet. Talk about yourself, your interests, your likes and dislikes. Be honest. Show that you will listen to and respect the boundaries and guidelines of couples you might connect with. Be clear about whether your looking for friends-with-benefits or just a one-night-stand. In the end, I think the best way to stand out from the crowd is to be yourself.

I can honestly say that if I was ever attracted to a woman and got her out of her clothes, I never was 'unattracted' at that point. I really wouldn't worry about it.

First of all, yes, many couples do look for the right single guy. And, I emphasize 'right'. So you need to think about what your role is gong to be and make a profile for that. I think if I were a young single male and wanted into the lifestyle, I'd have things in my profile that show that I'd respect both the wife and the husband. Use words like considerate and respectful too.

from Oklahoma, Skullsaw. I think most people think their "bits" are not up to par, Ma'am. It doesn't seem to be your problem, so I'd suggest you swing into life! My late wife loved the months of her pregnancy. No matter what she did, she couldn't have gotten more pregnant. All those months brought about memorable experiences, including a friend who mentioned that he'd never had sex with pregnant woman. His wife had never had sex with me, so...

I have always been shy about having sex. That’s not to say I never talked. I had a friend who asked me if I ever did it. At the time I was a virgin. She kept pushing the topic knowing I had a boyfriend. I did tell her about my first time letting him get to third base. She was experienced at was like a coach. Looking back I must have sounded so stupid. Later I still remember a girl I knew came over to me with a bent finger. She knew I slept with this guy who had a kink in his dick. I didn’t know how to react. In college there were times some of my friends were very graphic about their sex lives. I usually didn’t say much. I did find the stories funny. I asked my husband what guys talked about. He said he never talked about anyone he dated. In HS the guys would brag about the easy girls. He said he knew of eight guys that were with one girl, not at the same time. Now I have been with a few men and I never talked about them to anyone except my husband. I couldn’t talk openly about it. That’s why I love this board, it’s a place to chat.

OK, compared to most of your responses, this may seem tame. But the one thing that we did when we were involved with swinging that we really never did before was to talk about sex. I mean, really discuss it seriously and openly. We were finally able to say what we really enjoyed and what we could take or leave. It improved our own sex greatly. And I'll admit that, as much as I loved that young gal I fell in love with and married, I found a woman that I thought was the simply hot as hell!

Have no concern. Others will. Women are attracted to personality traits more than to secondary sex characteristics. Outstanding secondary sex characteristics are a nice bonus but do not drive the initial yes-or-no decision.

You are fine Wall2705. You are right there with the rest of us, and feeling the exact same apprehensions I felt going in. Once you get into the LS I guarantee you that you will see some monsters, they are out there, but the vast majority of the men you see will be our size if not smaller. Also, in my experience, the couple/lady have committed pretty much to have sex with you before they ever see your cock. Now when you get down to the point of getting it out, they are probably going to pause a moment or two to take a look at it. Don't fret, while they may casually notice the size, the main thing they are looking for are medical issues (signs of STDs), and as long as you don't have a bunch of warts or something on your member it will be in her mouth before you know it, then your off to the races.

Dude, you're right there with the rest of us. According to Medical News Today, the average erect penis size is 5.1 inches. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/271647.php Mine is 5.2 inches, fully stretched, and not once has a woman complained to me about it. And do you know how easy it is to photoshop a flashlight? If your wife hasn't already told you, it's not how much you have, it's how you use it. Don't fixate on your size, just try to pleasure the woman you're with, you'll be fine.

My wife and I are at the same place in our marriage! 25 years together, last child moved away, started watching the Playboy channels “Swinger House” while having crazy passionate sex in our living room, and now, we’re working out and getting in better shape preparing to leap into the LS this new year! My wife has even expressed finding a mentor to teach her how to satisfy another woman! We’ve discussed our comfort levels & boundaries, and discovered we’re fortunate enough to have a marriage with a solid foundation that’s committed to each other’s needs. That being said, we Believe we’re ready to enjoy others in and out of the bedroom!

Sit in a circle starting with Husband 1 (H1). Next to him is Wife 2 (W2) Next to W2 is H3 Next to H3 is W1 Next to W1 is H2 Next to H2 is W3 Essentially, the husband is sitting direct opposite of the wife Now you can begin alternate fun with someone on either side of you without being with your spouse. Can be as soft or full as you want. And switch up from the person to your right to the person to your left.

Break the ice by making an alternating MF circle for oral stimulation. Keep changing the order so each combination is achieved. There is probably a formula for calculating the number of possibilities, but I don't know it. Go further and make some sort of ranking game. Or when someone orgasms they do something else.

Babe prefers single men talk to me first. Its not about permission. Its about her wanting my read on them before talking to them herself. And, honestly, I prefer not to deal with single women at all. If Babe introduces me to one I'll chat her up, but I really don't like it when they walk up to me and initiate. The reason is simple: they almost invariably pretend Babe isn't there. Couples almost never do that. If you want to play with a coupled person, take the time to make their other half feel respected and comfortable. Because, if they don't your odds of success drop dramatically. Babe and I always make a point of paying attention to the same sex half of couples we meet because you are, weirdly enough, seducing both of them. One for sex and the other to be comfortsble with that sex.

Well, this kept me entertained for days! Very well researched and well written article. Prior to reading this article, I was convinced that I read pretty much everything that there is to read about open relationships, but this article references many interesting sources that I've never heard of! Thorough work. That said, even I couldn't read it in one sitting - and I'm decidedly interested in the subject! It's a bit tedious to read, and the overall feeling I was left with when I read it all, was that, well,.. open relationships happen. I couldn't get excited about open relationships as a result of reading this article, the stories seemed cold and detached, describing the practicalities of these arrangements, but largely omitting emotional aspects and benefits. Comments from the readers were chilling - predominantly negative and some rather aggressive. Sometimes we need to be reminded what the rest of the world thinks about unconventional relationships.

We LOVE doing "that stuff"!!! Here are a few examples: We've engaged in this hobby for 15 years and still enjoy playing. Early in our exploration, we went to a pool party at a club near Harrisburg Pa. There may have been 10 other couples and a few singles naked around the pool. After awhile, the heat, adult beverages and teasing got to us and we went inside and kind of fell onto a bed in an open area just off the pool and we boinked our brains out. When we finished, we heard several comments about how hot our play was. When we looked up, there were 3 couples and a guy standing naked around the bed who had watched nearly the whole thing. All 4 guys were sporting erections so we must have done something right. Fully dressed at a swingers club in Philly, We were standing talking to the wife of a couple we knew and there were several others around us. The wife gave me a very sensuous kiss which gave me an immediate hard on which Mrs Doc noticed. She said to us, "don't let me interrupt you two" and she unzipped me and gave me a tremendous public bj while the other wife continued to kiss me. Incredibly erotic and when I came, Mrs Doc got applause from the bystanders. Our first orgy experience occurred at a club in northern Maryland. One of the rooms had 2 double beds crammed together in a rather small room. We were fairly new and were hanging with a group of 3 other couples who were much more experienced than we. They invited us back to that room with them. We said we weren't sure how far we were willing to go and all three couples were OK with that. It was so damned hot watching the foreplay and the switching off between them as they all got undressed. We got naked too and put ourselves in the far corner of one of the beds where we could play but could also watch and listen while the other 3 couples were getting it on and getting off. It was seriously erotic. We didn't engage much with the group although there were a few hands on Mrs Doc's boobs and I remember one of the women guiding my dick back into my wife after I slipped out (for a newbie, that was REALLY hot). As we were reaching our climaxes, we were being caressed but not demandingly groped by several people. They were gentle and un-intrusive but it was such a turn on and we came like crazy while they watched and urged us on. As we were driving home that night Mrs Doc said, "OMG honey, THAT was fun. Maybe next time we can get more involved with the others". I don't know how "normal" any of this is but we've shared lots of erotic experiences with others over a decade and a half. There are very few things we haven't tried, most things at least twice and we've no regrets. OP, your wife's fantasies are nothing to be afraid of. On the contrary, she showed a lot of courage and trust to share them with you. I hope you find the courage and trust within yourself to explore those fantasies with her. She sounds like a lot of fun.

With me being a Domme, I'm into strap-on sex with guys.