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My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for several years now, though we do a lot of separate swinging. There haven't really been many issues, and we're very much in love and committed to each other. Today, however, I ran into a new situation that I'm having some problems with, and would appreciate any help or advice anyone has. My wife was just with this guy who has a massive dick, like seriously huge. The first time they were together it actually hurt her really bad. The second time though she had an incredible experience and came three times. Now, I'm average in size...about 6.5" long and on the lower end of average in girth. This is the first time she's been with anyone this large, and she described how the sensation of him hitting her deep inside, though initially painful, just sent her over the top with pleasure. Now, one part of me is of course incredibly turned on by this. And part of me is happy for her, I mean, shouldn't that be the idea? And I do trust the situation in all other aspects. However, part of me is extremely insecure and jealous. Realistically, I can't possibly give her that sort of stimulation with what I'm packing. She's never even been multi-orgasmic before today, so...I'm feeling pretty inadequate. My fear is that she's going to enjoy sex with him so much more that our sex life is now going to pale in comparison, and just not be nearly as enjoyable, and as it's a physical issue, there's nothing I can do about it. Does anyone have any experience with this situation? I would really appreciate any feedback, advice, or stories!

It has been awhile since our introduction here. After our first experience with a couple this past summer, we met with them two more times and enjoyed swapping partners. That experience triggered a previously unknown sexual desire for the wife. She opened a profile on a dating site and we agreed that she can meet with guys with my prior approval. Since then she has been with 6 different guys and with two of them multiple times. She surprises me with pictures and videos from her encounters and that excites me a lot. We have great sex when she gets home from her adventures and I love to enter her knowing that she recently been penetrated by another guy.This is just an update of where we are now. The forum provided us with great insight into the lifestyle.

It has been a few years for us and I still don’t like watching. I didn’t have a problem being on a nude beach with strangers and people we just met. That experience did lead us to our first swap. Looking back I still think it was a great romantic night with a man I had just met. I still question why it didn’t scare me and how I let myself give in. I wasn’t looking for something missing in my marriage, our home life is excellent including our sex life. My hang up is having sex in a room with other people. I say the experience changes completely. When we swap and go to separate rooms I am fully aware my husband is having fun. I don’t think much of what he is doing. I’m thinking it is everything I am doing with my partner. When we play in the same room I will look over but not watch. I also know I am a little inhibited in my fun. I have no problem telling my husband details of what I do and we are very open in our after talks. My husband says there is thrill watching me. He says he enjoys watching me have fun. He also like when I play with the other wife, something I am still hesitant to fully do. I read of all the men who enjoy watching their wives. Do the wives enjoy being watched and how do they feel about watching?

I just posted about watching. My husband said watching me the first time was extremely exciting. The sex I had in front of him was not that exciting for me. I felt we were putting on a show. My first swing experience was in a different room and was wonderful. In front of my husband everything changed and I felt slammed, orally and vaginally. There was no romance involved. I enjoy being romanced. I was curious watching my husband, not excited. I watched to see if she was pleased by him. I don’t know if I wanted her to be pleased but I wanted her to know that my husband is a great lover. I think I wanted her to orgasm from that point.

Watching is a massive part of the experience for us. I can't say I particularly like being watched, but I do appreciate that my husband enjoys it, so I try not to dwell on the fact at the time. I wasn't sure if I'd even like seeing my husband with someone else, let alone actually enjoy watching him. So I understand people who aren't in to it, but for both of us its most definitely same room or not at all.

Well what I want to know is what kind of spam filter does nature have? I mean it still makes around 85% of us males average size - 5 to 7 inches. Now the spam I get tells me this is not good and I should be bigger, the internet says the same and a lot of posts here tell me that it is best to be bigger ( well not directly - you just don't see many post about how great it is screwing your average husband compared to " i love big cock on some other guy and .... lol ). But still nature does what it thinks is best - WTF doesn't it ever get the messages I and the other 85% do!!! lol ok - so you're fine and all is well - if your girl is happy with you then who cares what others think.

Each to their own, the world would be a boring place if everyone liked the same things. Personally we only play together as for us thats a big part of it, watching each other. Its good to share.

For the first time last night we have been with another bisexual guy whom I have been seeing for a short while. This was the first time that the wifey watched me with a guy in person. She joined the action and we both took turns fucking her and me and wifey sucked the guy, she was riding him while sucking me and he was licking her while I was sucking him off. It was a great experience. We are meeting the guy again tomorrow.

Mr. NWlovin’ here. I would like to reach out to everyone here who has taken the time to read and post your thoughts on the matter. Your thoughts and words of wisdom has brought a lot of clarity to the Mrs and I in this matter. We’ve been reading the boards and learning a lot about this LS. We’re so glad that we found this forum, it’s a great community of people. So a great big Thank You for bringing clarity to this! I would first like to express that my initial concerns with the acquaintance still hold true today and will not change in the future after some recent reveals. I had reservations and a feeling in my gut about him from the beginning. He is a married man who I’m sure has a loving and caring wife at home who does not know of what started out as innocent flirting between Mrs.NWlovin’ and himself, and I suspect his wife would not agree to this LS. I was unaware of the flirting for sometime myself, I believe that his wife deserves the respect to know of this flirting, no matter what. Which I believe that he is responsible to communicate that in his marriage as we do ours. I also see in him something that could be seen as stronger feelings for my dear wife, (she is quite a catch you know). Either way, I firmly believe that he recently chose to behave in a way in front of myself and the Mrs that was crass and disrespectful, breaking the unspoken code of men. Innocent, friendly flirting is one thing, but you don’t, in a round about way, proposition another man’s wife. (Which Mrs. quickly put him in his place for). Also I strongly agree with the code of the community, no swinging with people you know or people who know of your friends and family. KEEP IT OUTSIDE! No need for a “head on” social collision. I have the most loving wife in the world by my side (“she’s the one and always will be”) and for myself and her the idea of a MFM is a total turn on for us. I have for many years thought this would be something I would want to experience. This is a hot fantasy for me and for her too and I know that I would love to show her off and see her being the center of attention. I’m also working on getting rid of some of those stigmas that the Mrs was explaining about earlier, it’s something I’m trying to shake off, and they are slipping away as the days go by. So in conclusion I just wanted to add a little of my thoughts to this and express my gratitude to the forum.

Thank you for this. Your perspective is exactly what i am looking for and I agree with you on all points. We are not looking to move in together or come out too all our family at all. Really it just comes down to allowing ourselves to feel. Giving each other permission to fall in "love" so to speak. Of course always keeping our primary relationship as the focus. We have never expressed emotions before and fully aware of NRE but we have been seeing them for about 4 months and things are going very well. There is nothing "wrong" with ours or their relationship at all. In fact, one of the most attractive things about them (and us according to them) is the stability we both seem to have in our own marriages.

I have, but he's still not happy with what happened?? Online sucked! I don't want to go back to that. I guess more time is required, which is unusual this way around! lol We're both fine and thats the main thing. And yes lessons were learnt.

Funny: it seems like the men always worry about not being big enough compared to other men while the women worry about being too big compared to other women

Sorry to hear that. Just keep the open lines of communication and honesty open and you never know. The problem with opening Pandora's Box is that it cannot be unopened later. Lots of spouses realize this and will choose caution instead of taking that risk. It's actually a good thing knowing that he loves you more than the idea of swinging. Let us know if anything else develops. You're still invited to stay here with us on the board.

Although the friends part slightly outweighs the benefits part, we really like that BOTH parts have serious weight. It adds an additional dimension to the relationship that just friends can and will never have. While we will get together with our FWBs and at times do vanilla things with sex not being on the table, knowing that we will and have seen them naked, seen them having sex, had sex with them, etc. means that there is a closer bond that 'just friends' can never have. We can actually TALK about sex (and just about anything else for that matter) without fear of shock or losing the friendship. It seems that sex is something that more (most) people want to be able to talk about but can't (IMHO...just look at how dominate it is in today's society from advertisements/TV/books/etc). We already have plenty of friends, but our closest friends that we can be our real selves with, that we can talk about and do (for that matter) almost anything with are our FWB. Just like swinging takes a relationship to a new unforeseen level, FWB takes friendship to a new level.

This thing isn’t for everybody, and what’s right for some isn’t right for others. For us it’s about a shared sexual experience, we don’t do hall passes or cheat on one another. Now that’s not to say that we haven’t done separate room romps because we have. We just haven’t gone out on dates without the other, that’s just not our thing. With all cases with us I’m in control of the situation and that’s just from a safety stand point. I don’t have to be close enough to hear her scream out her orgasm, but I will be close enough to hear her scream for help if she ever needs it. The one thing you said that caught my attention is that your third might have felt uncomfortable with your presence. My thought on that is that we always try to be good hosts, but we are the hosts and if he’s not into that then he’s free to look elsewhere for his pleasure. It’s up to the couple to set the rules of engagement not the third. I would also be curious to know if her meeting him without telling you about it was something that your lady is just thinking about, or if this guy has contacted her behind your back and mentioned that as something that he was interested in. I can tell you emphatically that if he is contacting her behind your back you need to send him packing. I can’t tell you what’s right or wrong, that’s up to you two. I can tell you that her meeting another man without you knowing about it has too many warning flags to count. There’s having fun, and there’s being careless, this can be a lot of fun, but it can be real dangerous if you’re not careful. Have fun and play safe, good luck to you two and I hope it all works out for both of you.

First I find the term BBC dehumanizing. I don't like being identified by my body parts. I am turned off by men who advertise themselves by their endowments or brag about their skills. If there is chemistry and we are having fun I would have no problem taking a ride on average, with your wife's permission and perhaps her participation.

Excellent! I was too in awe, not wanting it to end to do anything else. We often talk about it over a glass of wine or two. Nice to see a normally shy person really enjoy herself with someone she would normally never think of in that way. I kind of knew things were forever different (better) when his cock came out of his underwear and she tugged on his underwear and her legs spreading apart just a little more for her first new sexual experience in years. I wanted to film or take pictures but was too excited. Great stuff...

GET ME A SCIENTIST! Well, you're in luck... There's one here! The answer is yes and no. For short term, the vagina can stretch and stay "larger," but it will go back to it's regular size over night. Think of the vagina (and anus) as slow-acting rubber bands. They'll expand to accommodate whatever is being inserted, but they'll return to homeostasis overnight. A prime example of this is "the gape." You have sex with someone anally or vaginally and pull out. The "hole" will most likely be gaping open because the vagina isn't a mouse-trap. It doesn't snap shut immediately after intercourse. Within 30 minutes, it will look pretty "normal" again and by the next morning, it's back to it's normal size. What can make it stay "big?" Trauma. When the tissue rips, it can repair itself with a little extra room. Your body is smarter than you are, so, let's say your wife bends over, you think you're being funny, and you ram a lubed fist up her unsuspecting vagina. She screams and beats the fuck out of you. She looks down and her vag is stretched to the point of being ripped. As it heals, it will allow for a little more room. Why? Because her body needs to fix the damage, but it's also leaving room for the possibility of this happening again. If it happens again, there will be some more room and hence, less damage to repair. Think of a gunshot. If you get shot, you'll have thicker scar tissue to cover up the wound. A major part is that the body isn't designed to repair flawlessly, but the other part is to make the wound location more resistant to future damage. This is where pregnancy plays a part. Women who've delivered babies vaginally will sometimes be "looser" forever (if they do nothing about it). That kid pulls, stretches, and rips the vagina. It may not be evident outside, but there are tears within the tissue for sure. Many women do nothing about it and they eventually shrink down to almost normal. One or two kids and the difference is almost unnoticeable. If she's a baby factory and is cranking out kids every year or two, her body is going to adapt. This does not mean she's going to have some cavernous trench twat, but she'll be "looser." Of course, all of this "loosening" can be staved off with a wide variety of regimens. The most common is kegel exercises. Next are kegel weights. Another option is electro stimulation whereby electrodes are placed around the vagina and the muscles are forced to contract. It's basically a "forced" kegel exercise. My wife does this and she finds it pleasurable, but she also uses a very low setting. Some women hate it and say it's outrageously painful. Different strokes for different folks, I guess. In the end, your answer is yes and no. Yes, they can get "loose," but they tighten back up quickly unless there's been some sort of trauma.

In my experience, when I am with my wife immediately after she's been with a guy, I can notice a slight difference. By the next day, that difference is gone. The vagina is a remarkably elastic organ.

I had talked to my wife for ages about swinging, all with no luck, but she was always into the idea when we were having sex. A few years later on holiday in Florida we met a guy who ran the local picture gallery, he took a shine to her and I finally convinced her to fuck him. Holiday fever and excitement took over and She agreed but I couldn't watch. This was half way through our time there. She told me all about it and she knew how excited it made me when she recounted the sex with him. After a lot a discussion she agreed to fuck him whilst I watched. I spoke to the guy explaining the situation and he also agreed provided I just watched, which was more than fine by me. I still remember that for me special moment. I was so nervous, almost shaking. I sat in a chair in our hotel room a little to the side, she didn't want eye contact with me she said. When the moment came and she spread her legs and he moved above her between them although I couldn't see the actual moment of penetation, when he pushed forward she raised her hips and gasped, and held his hips with both hands, I knew he was then in her. He stayed still for some time before starting. I almost came in my trousers. I looked at her face she had her eyes closed but I could see in her expression what she had just experienced. I just could not believe what I was seeing, to me it was the greatest sexual charge I had ever had. He was very good with her, aware that she and also me were so very nervous. It was the most exciting pit of stomach churning feeling I have ever had. Since that time I have watched her with many men it always turns me on, but never like that very first time.

Speaking as a wife who can squirt (mostly after good weed), I can say that it did use to annoy my past boy and girlfriends, but a secure person can accept the natural fluids that emanate from the female body. I like a guy who can cum in buckets and who can help clean us up together. I find my partners including my husband enjoy a wet ending. Just need to have a waterproof sheet on the bed that's all.

I've played with a lot of squirters, and there is one big issue with me...you make a BIG wet mess on the bed; you soak thru all the towels I laid out and that sucks LOL...I actually have a special mat that I use when I'm playing with a known squirter...and I've been with some real fire hydrants too so that mat has saved a lot of clean up time...

I am not interested in being with other women unless we end up being with another couple again and we swap. The wife and I had been discussing swinging long before we met that couple last summer but I guess that we both needed time to adjust to the idea. It was certainly a plus that our firs experience was a positive one. She never does anything behind my back, that was my most important condition when entering this.

I'm glad you've found what is exciting for both of you!

A man having a big dick needs not to stick it all the way in. A woman having a deep vaginal canal has no problem enjoying a short dick. Well, you asked.

Thanks a lot for all the awesome replies keep them coming. It's apparent that people do have different preferences concerning this, which was my curiosity. My basic concern was whether this was something of reasonable discussion with potential playmates, but you all have helped me realize that when it comes to people's comforts, pretty much anything is "reasonable" to discuss. With us, we would prefer same bed, for at least part of the time, because as many have said this allows physical contact between you and your spouse, and is also necessary if the females want to play with each other while having sex with the males. That's not to say that we're opposed to separate beds, but same bed is just more fun...for us any way.

Same room is a must.. same bed is a plus. We love the interaction so the closer, the better.