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Sorry - hey at lest your marriage is probably better then mine because of it! Though i did think i was doing all right for the most part - i mean 15 primary schools in 7 years and 13 high schools in 3 years, then going to to work and feed a single parent family so your siblings would have a better chance to learn ( by not moving all the time ) would count for a little slack - but you know how we swingers are - Peace to you all.

Yeah, when you're both in it together it's no stress and a lot of fun.

My wife couldn't cheat on me for two reasons: she's allowed to have sex with others, no preclearance required, and second, she feels the need to talk to me about everything (we're BFF ).

The thing I'm getting at is that you say if it doesn't work out then you'll knock it on the head and find a different hobby, but paying someone really isn't anything like swinging so I feel you could end up giving up on swinging having not really tried it in the first place, I sincerely wish you the best of luck down this path , my advice would simply be to communicate as honestly and openly as you can before, during and after this adventure, try and be as clear as you can about what you liked and maybe disliked about the experience, one of the biggest turn ons for Mrs scared is the bit where she feels desired by other people, the flirting and banter is a big part of that , I guess you could say that we're the kind of couple that needs a bit of a connection with the people we play with, we're not just looking for an extra cock or pair of tits to play with and that's the background where my original advice is coming from, also we have learned a lot about ourselves while doing this, and it turned out we werent nearly as adventurous as we thought we were, looking back if we had started with a full swap situation we almost definitely wouldn't have continued, Mrs scared would have had guilt issues, we've had many club visits , starting out we just chatted with others and then over time we have started to play with others to varying degrees, taking our time has allowed us to de-sensitise to certain situations and scenarios which may have been a problem if we had just jumped straight in, if you end up regretting your planned threesome I would still advise you to try a club or two and to not close the door completely

It's not about cheating it's about sharing. You need to make sure you work out your issues before you involve others.

I tend to agree, monogamists and swingers both want to believe their marriage philosophy makes for a better or stronger marriage. If you think about it, it’s the mantra of the swinging community, “swingers divorce less often”. Unfortunately, the research simply isn’t available to back up that statement. The small amount of research done has been through the lens of current, active swingers, so of course the data will Trend that direction, but it isn’t an accurate sample. Most unhappy or divorced swingers aren’t hanging around swingers forums or other places swingers gather, thus, the data is skewed. I’ve been around the lifestyle long enough to see the good and the bad, one does not outweigh the other. I have a decent amount of swinger friends that won’t divorce and put on a good front when out with other swingers, but home life is anywhere from disconnected to disfunctional to toxic, but they swing to have sex. People stay married for all kinds of reasons, and it isn’t always due to happiness and openness, even swingers. I don’t push the swinger narratives of swingers are happier and divorce less, or swingers have fewer STIs, because I’ve not seen any evidence of it. It’s a risk, and I’m willing to take it, but I could end up being one of the, not so rare, couples that one partner leaves for the swing playmate, it happens. Cheating happens in all kinds of marriages, even swinger marriages.

For the first time last night we have been with another bisexual guy whom I have been seeing for a short while. This was the first time that the wifey watched me with a guy in person. She joined the action and we both took turns fucking her and me and wifey sucked the guy, she was riding him while sucking me and he was licking her while I was sucking him off. It was a great experience. We are meeting the guy again tomorrow.

So, in other words, you're saying they should be less than honest. How is that productive for them or for the people they meet? Use different pictures and see the results?? Is this a social experiment? How is that different from posting a profile leaving out other pertinent information like, I don't know…..maybe the wife weighs 300 lbs or one of them has a social disease and a heroin addiction yet the profile reads d/d free or the posted picture is 20 years old and 170 lbs lighter. We expect honesty from people we meet to possibly get naked with. We'd be more than annoyed.

We started with me watching my wife with a single guy. They're easy enough to find, and that way you can see if you're ok with your wife and another man.