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I see that this is your first forum post so I want to say, "WELCOME to Swingersboard". None of the men in the social groups with which my wife and I circulate seem, under any circumstance, to be reluctant to do oral sex on a female. It does seem odd that you have noticed this reluctance. My only guess would be that you are maybe dealing with a younger, less-experienced set of men.

Hi there. The Mrs and I are neither experienced nor novices but we are new here. After a few play sessions recently, I noticed one or two things that made me question a few things I do subconsciously. So a few questions.... We're a single male friendly couple so we do occasionally have MFM's. Are other straight men comfortable doing oral on women after another man has been there, with his mouth or cock? I've noticed that a number of men will circumvent oral on the Mrs if I have already been down there. I assume this is because of some homophobic fears, either of my saliva or my cock. What has been your experience with this? Do you allow your play partners to partake first?

We have been in contact with the couple we met and they said I should write about our first time. They are members of this group too. If you haven't read our other posts, we are a married couple who have played individually with other people but never did swinging. The couple we met told us in the messages we wrote back and forth that they enjoy the excitement of couples doing this for the first time. They assured us that there is no pressure and that we can stop at any time. We met them prior to going to a hotel to make sure they were real firstly, and that there was some attraction physically for us. Over drinks we talked about general things first and then got down to the nitty gritty. They had experience with new couples and they wanted to make sure we agreed on things. Things we should have talked about before meeting them I think. The brought up kissing. I thought it was strange but they told us some couples think kissing should be off the table. We agreed on kissing. That was easy. Lights on? Yes!! Condoms? Both women said they are on birth control. I have played both ways before and from what my wife had told me about her hook ups, I figured she had done both too. We agreed on condoms for the first meeting. These are strangers who say they have played with dozens of partners. Safety first. They did have some requests as well. We knew that she was bi, my wife isn't. There was some talk about what the wives can do. They agreed, or my wife said she would see how far she can go but no promises. They also wanted the other wife to undress us. I laughed about it, my wife wasn't sure but agreed. On to the hotel and room. They had brought some wine and we talked a little. The other woman excused herself to the bathroom. I figured she was putting on slutty stuff but she came out in boyshorts and a tee. She asked if everyone was ready and she approached my wife. It was a little to fast for her and she suggested starting with me. She started with a little kissing and worked my clothes off. I kept looking to my wife who looked interested in what was happening. I was sure if she was excited. The husband seemed to be very excited and he kept a distance. I attempted to really get started but she kept saying wait. I was fully hard and she teased me with her hands and mouth. Then she turned to my wife. I could see she was tense and the undressing started very slowly. Not too much touching. Finally the last piece off and I saw my wife squeeze her legs together. What surprised me is that she loosened up and allowed her a little play time. Then my wife said she wanted the husband and she was going to undress him. It was the first time watching my wife do anything like this. She wasn't shy with him and we didn't have much eye contact at first. She started taking him in her hand then mouth. I had this other woman in my arms watching my wife sucking a cock. She asked me if I wanted to watch or do our own thing. We watched. My wife I swear was oblivious to us watching. I sat there quietly watch and they were doing everything. I knew she was enjoying. Very strange to watch. Somewhere after they started banging, me and the other wife got busy. My wife didn't exactly watch everything I did.

I've had my husband lick me while another man is pounding me. I agree that it is a great feeling, and I usually come very quickly.

Other than the creampie scenario, we've never experienced a man avoiding oral with Mrs Doc whether I or someone else had been there or not. I'm not interested in licking someone's cum from her. That IS a line on the sheets for me.

I've never noticed any hesitations on just giving a woman oral sex after someone else has done the same for her, or even after she's been penetrated by someone else, but I think there is a lot of "it depends" involved too. Giving a woman oral simultaneous with penetration or after he's cum in her if it's bareback sex, i.e. creampie, then I think that's a bridge too far for many guys. On all the scenarios, I suspect it's a subjective mental thing on how much "separation" there is between the male and female. If her pussy had a cock in it 10 minutes ago, then not a problem. If he just pulled out two seconds ago, then problem. Where that line gets drawn, if at all, just depends on the individual and their preferences.

This weekend i got licked and fucked by the same time. It is the best feeling ever! I had my good sub licking me and my bull was fucking me.

I have to say I'm not into it either. Hate it when cum gets in my eyes and hair. I have guys asked to cum on my face and I offered to swallow instead and no one has said no yet.

We are both on here under different names, (she posts more frequently than I do) Our intrest in the lifestyle occasionally wanes but we always enjoy this site. Have a great New Year.

How we got here is a strange way. I want to thank our first couple for telling us about this forum. We are totally new to swinging not to playing around. My cheating and getting caught led to her own affairs. We finally decided to sort of cheat together. We did some googling about swing clubs. Neither of us wanted that. We found some swinger sites. My wife had been on cheating sites before. I never did dating sites. She registered on a few sites that had good reviews. I let her do the searching. She wrote a few couples and answered ads. We got scammed a few times. She had a problem with finding fakes. We met a few couples that seemed sketchy and we passed. We made dates where only the guy showed up. We stopped making hotel reservations because we always felt nothing was going to happen. My wife even suggested meeting one of her guy friends. I wasn’t into that. After all the disappointments we finally met a real couple. We met them for drinks and told them our story. They told us how they started. We joked about the fakes we both found. They told us about their first time. We laughed plenty. They were ready to do it. I had to make sure my wife wanted to. They invited us to their home. I suggested a hotel. I said I would pay. I don’t know how much to say on here. It was fine and fun. It was also strange to see my wife doing things. The couple knew to take things slow and made sure we didn’t feel too odd. The biggest turn on was watching my wife play with a woman a little. It was a first for her. She didn’t do that much herself it was more the other wife. If they are reading this, thanks.

We know this is not cheating. We have worked that out. My wife never cheated. She had sex with others with my full knowledge. You might say I encouraged her to go out when I was on the road for business. Honestly I worried who she was meeting more than that she was meeting men. Her experiences led to new things in our bed.

The thing I'm getting at is that you say if it doesn't work out then you'll knock it on the head and find a different hobby, but paying someone really isn't anything like swinging so I feel you could end up giving up on swinging having not really tried it in the first place, I sincerely wish you the best of luck down this path , my advice would simply be to communicate as honestly and openly as you can before, during and after this adventure, try and be as clear as you can about what you liked and maybe disliked about the experience, one of the biggest turn ons for Mrs scared is the bit where she feels desired by other people, the flirting and banter is a big part of that , I guess you could say that we're the kind of couple that needs a bit of a connection with the people we play with, we're not just looking for an extra cock or pair of tits to play with and that's the background where my original advice is coming from, also we have learned a lot about ourselves while doing this, and it turned out we werent nearly as adventurous as we thought we were, looking back if we had started with a full swap situation we almost definitely wouldn't have continued, Mrs scared would have had guilt issues, we've had many club visits , starting out we just chatted with others and then over time we have started to play with others to varying degrees, taking our time has allowed us to de-sensitise to certain situations and scenarios which may have been a problem if we had just jumped straight in, if you end up regretting your planned threesome I would still advise you to try a club or two and to not close the door completely

Hey - I think the thing were are missing here is her wants - if she feels safe this way then why not - the only other way for "them" to go forward is to follow every ones advice - problem is they have talked and she does not want to do it that way. This all comes from a faith based out look - the old ways hold strong one this one. To her it is baby steps for a lack of a better word - I agree that its nothing like swinging - but to her its still screwing some one other then the marriage partner - and here in lays the problem - it all sex outside of that bond. To the OP what ever you two decide please remember that your marriage and devotion to each other is what is most important - i believe that your great respect for each other will guide you in the "right way" what ever you decide that is. Best of luck

It's been covered already but by choosing a hooker you're really missing out on a lot of things that are good about swinging, it would be much better to go to a club and just go as many times as you like until you feel ready to dabble, you'll get to hear about others experiences , have good conversation and build some connections with some pretty awesome people, you're going to miss out on all that taking the route you're planning

Look at Desire Resort in the Riviera Maya, Mexico. Go and meet real people with zero expectations. Then go again and go again and keep doing that until it happens organically and everyone has an enjoyable experience. There is no finish line in the lifestyle. Go slow and have fun.

From my experience, for what it's worth, it's best to have the full range in your repitoire then be sensitive to your partner-of-the-moment's needs and desires.

Real bad idea next they'll want them "organic" and those damn veggies are expensive $$$$$$$$