Update -- We are taking the advice and going to Trapeze (to play with each other in the back ultimately) for an evening in February prior to our Hedo trip. We also tagged along with a group, got into said group's secret Facebook group, and have been chatting it up with all of them. They are all VERY nice, and totally helpful. I think the combination of all of this will make the Hedo trip a lot of fun rather than a lot of nerves!