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Breathe and enjoy whatever happens...and it might just be nothing more than a night out with your SO and an evening of talk (but it could be more, you don't know at this point). If you go into it thinking that it's just a fun night out, then everything else is bonus. Make sure you both know your rules and limits and don't exceed them and just enjoy yourselves...and then report everything back to us. Best wishes!

I call it gymnastics

These questions arise often, I'm a man and I understand women care about how they look especially when naked. My opinion is you could be the most beautiful woman in the world, with the perfect body, but you still won't be attractive if you have a lousy personality. A great personality is very attractive, and will usually win over a perfect body. When someone wants to have sex with you they want the whole woman, not just a piece.

Our journey. The wife and I have started talking lately about spicing up our sex life. We did some research and pulled the trigger to do a lifestyle cruise in Nov this year. Once we pulled the trigger we swapped between being very anxious to let’s hit the gym and find some sexy outfits for her. Last weekend we went to Vegas and I asked her to go to a club. At first, she was very hesitant and felt like we were rushing. I wanted to know before the cruise what we were getting into. It was my birthday weekend and she said we could go but no promises on how long we stay. We had a Vegas show to see that night and the plan was to go right after the show. She wore a skin tight black dress that had me going immediately. After the show we went straight to the car and headed the 11 miles to the club (Red Rooster). I digitally worked her to ease her nerves and mine. She was wet and it seemed to help. As we pulled close to the club which requires you to go thru an almost empty part of town that heighten our nerves and were we being crazy. We reached the club and there were 40 cars parked on the street, and they have a parking lot that was packed with more. This was much more than we were expecting. We entered with our hearts racing. I grabbed her hand wondering if I had just put the love of my life at risk. Inside was a dance floor packed with normal people having a good time. We went to the sitting area where 2 girls without tops were making out. Our nerves decreased. We continued into a room which had a few single males standing over something we could not see, but it felt creepy and I took her out. Nerves back up. We then headed for the dance floor and danced several dances. We had a large breasted blonde who danced next to us and kept taking her top on and off. My wife’s nerves diminished as she was openly grinding on my pants and allowing me to openly fondle her. We then headed upstairs where there were 4 couches facing each other and 1-2 couples on each couch. Off to the side was the couples’ area. I led my wife there but to enter you had to be naked. She said she just was not ready and the nerves started to escalate. We went back to the couches and found a seat. A couple next to us was rubbing each other. All the couples were gorgeous. I started fingering my wife and she allowed it. Then to my surprise she started rubbing me and pulled my member out and went to town. Other couples were doing the same thing. Some were watching my wife. We played with each other for awhile and then my wife said she wanted to go back to the hotel and fuck. We left the building and she exclaimed “I can do this! I am so proud of myself.” We headed back and all she could talk about was how exciting it was. We made it back to the hotel but never slept that night. While we never connected with any other couple’s that night the experience already greatly enhanced our sex life. We spent the rest of the weekend shopping for sexy outfits for her. We can’t wait til Nov… Is this a normal start? Should we expect the same from the cruise?

Well, the longest week in a long time is almost over. Headed out for our first experience tomorrow night. We are both nervous as hell. Wish us luck...

From your post above about your plans, you've got it figured out and are taking the right approach Have fun!!

Yes there are, and I told him I won't be rushed into anything

Then make sure that your love, trust and communication are as rock solid as they can be and don't rush.

We are following the model outlined by GoldCoCouple above. Night out, drinks, talk, observe, play together. Anything else is icing on the cake.

Good luck and enjoy

I would call it begging more than consenting. I was a high school freshman she was 17. Our parents were friends and i knew her for years as a older family friend. We only saw them at family things. In HS we were both on a team and she treated me like a family friend to her friends. I was shy and younger so nice that she did that. She sometimes drove me home after practice. Sometimes my mother would pick me up at her house. My first time was with her and if you read this, it took you longer than it took me.

You'll forgive my curiousity, are you both sexually experienced and howwould you rate your sexual compatibility? Hope I'm not being too curious....

Thinking about it some more, how many gay guys do you think say to one another, "Let's find a woman who will let us put our dicks in her vagina together. "?

It's a little hard to unravel this from a distance, but you mention the "lady in the street, freak in the sheets" thing. It's valid. There's a lot of cultural baggage about women enjoying sex. Our situation was the other way around, in that she had reservations and I was pretty open about it, which maybe isn't as helpful here since the gender roles aren't interchangeable. However, what helped a little bit, I think, was being able to get conversation about sex separate from talk about the relationship. Sex is what bodies are for, and it's not easy to disentangle that from a bunch of other issues, but at a basic level people have been getting off for fun from the beginning and it's normal to thrive on a little novelty. It doesn't have to "leave" anybody else anywhere. Getting past the idea that there's something morally wrong with casual sex in the first place was a big hurdle, and then she wasn't convinced until we'd actually done soft swap (oral) that we had the general idea "right" and we could do full swap without reservation and get off on each other getting off. "What if my spouse likes sex with other people" assumes that there's some reason to think sex with everybody else automatically became unenjoyable when we got married. Most orgasms aren't about romantic love and don't need to be (although the ones that are certainly great).

I think a lot of men have tunnel vision feelings going into swinging. We like to think we can bang a string of ladies and have no problem with our wives jumping on some guys dick. We focus totally on the fun aspect of it with no consideration of the peripheral feelings. Then reality sets in and the terminally hard dick is asleep. He is wondering why his wife is having so much fun with this guy. Mother nature tortures us with the need to spread our seed and the conflicting need to possess our wife. Giving her up, if even for a few hours, can bring up never before dealt with feelings. Many men come out of their first experience thinking that it was not what they expected. It can wreck the confidence. A majority of men do not understand how other men can swing. Jealousy is a strong emotion, especially if rarely experienced. Analyze your relationship and your feelings on the LS. See if this is for you or was just a life experience.

Speaking for my wife... same with her. I am "average" TBH, take care of myself and my body and she does as well. It is like sparks... sometimes you find something in common with people, maybe travel, business, sports... etc. Not like Playboy TVs Swingers... shy people interested in a big dick. Look I have played sports my entire life and have seen 1000s of guys naked. Yeah the most well hung have this aura about them. My wife has commented shyfully about some guys with the horse dick. I often worried... that if she were with this guy with the huge cock will she enjoy me? the answer is yes... because the sex between us is different than pleasure only.

Mainly: politeness, respect, friendliness, intelligence. Secondary: handsomeness, penis size. Physically I'm not too fussy now, I was when I was younger. But if had sex with old, young, and fat, as well as men with amazing bodies. It's not really that important. But if I get a free choice a handsome, 6ft+, muscular man with an extremely big cock will immediately get me. I can be a sucker for taking pity on men getting left out if they're shy, or embarrassed, or getting ignored. If they're a nice person I'll try and go to them. I remember one event I went to there was a man in his 80s watching. He was really sweet, such a nice man, I asked why he wasn't joining in and he replied no women has shown interest in him for years and he was happy watching. I took him to a private room and said he could do anything he liked to me.

Let her be picky. There are SO MANY single guys out there in the L/S, let her find the one she wants. Don't bother with strip clubs...you may find a guy but not a guy with experience in the L/S. Stick to swinger clubs, house parties, meet and greets, etc. BTW, there might be more to her not being able to find someone...maybe she is just making sure that it's going to be okay and that you don't have problems with it. Take your time, there's no rush (other than you wanting it to happen...now!). Just enjoy the ride and don't keep pressuring her to get this party started.

Haven't really thought about it until now that we've been at it for almost 10 years. My estimate is somewhere north of 100, but how far north I can't say. We stop counting a while back, and my memory is not what it used to be.

I find it easier when I don't move and let the guys do the moving. The position that's easiest for me is doggy position with the guy behind taking the butt and the other guy below me. It's not something I would ask for, but the guys including Mr. A really like it because they get really turned on from being able to feel the other guy's cock moving while inside me.

Information about house parties are visible at SLS but you have to become a Sherlock Holms to find them. You'll see in the left-hand column of your home page a link, Events. The menu that appears from this link includes a tab, Parties. The so-called "parties" listed there are not really private house parties but a mile-long list of advertisements for clubs. There is, however, a better category in which to find parties. If you click on the Groups link, another page opens and you will see three categories; Newest Groups, Most Popular, and Closest to Me. Although it is not always evident from the name of the group, many are for house parties. Some of the listed groups are not open for "public" viewing so unless the name of the group points to a profile name, you will not know from whom you should seek an invitation. One more way to search -- the Groups by Interest area, click on the House Parties link. This one too is loaded with commercial interests as well as single men who are fishing for free sex but actual party groups are here-and-there sandwiched.

Have to agree with Lionheart72 here. I am very short and petite and I tried big cocks. Most of the time it hurt because it's hitting my cervix. With a really hung guy, I actually don't need full penetration to enjoy myself. I encourage your wife to try the real thing but take it slow and try different positions. The guy does not have to shove the whole thing in each time.