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My girlfriend Valerie (48) and I (47) have been together for a year and a half. From the beginning she had talked about wanting to bring in another woman. She had not been with a girl in years and really wanted to watch me with another woman. We talked about doing a threesome with one of her friends, but never made a move. As you all know, it’s not easy finding a unicorn. About a month ago we stumbled on a Netflix documentary about swingers that sparked our interest. I couldn’t imagine going to a swingers party. I didn’t think they really existed. I’d heard of some clubs in big cities. I figured it was a big money type exclusive thing. If not, then it was probably something you don’t want to see anyway. Through searching around and word of mouth, we stumbled across a club about an hour away. It operates every Saturday with a ‘newbie’ night once every month or two. They were having a newbie night in less than two weeks and the decision was made to give it a shot. We were both so nervous. The place allows single women and a few single men, so we were hoping that we could find another chick to get with, but knew not to get our hopes up. We figured two things would probably happen - we would meet another couple, exchange numbers, and maybe get together someday, or more likely have one drink and split. The day finally arrived. We were both nervous all day. I normally smoke a lot of weed anyway, but I really needed it that day. I put on jeans and a nice black long sleeve shirt and Valerie put on a low cut black top with jeans. Valerie, a former dancer with an already big rack, had them enlarged back in the day by a Beverly Hills doc that really knew what the fuck he was doing. Now as she’s a little older they’re even bigger and beautiful – an honest to god 36G! She’s a hot little brunette that still turns heads everywhere she goes. I get a kick out seeing guys drool over her breasts in public. The drive there went surprisingly quick. I guess because I didn’t want it to. We got to the place, which is right off the interstate across a gravel parking lot and built into a storage area behind a run down liquor store. If I made it sound appealing, well, nevermind. We waited in the car for a few minutes to see what or who might be going in. Lets do this! We headed for the door. As we walked into the foyer another couple was just going in. I didn’t see it, but when the second door opened Valerie got a peak inside and immediately grabbed my arm and ran back out the door shouting “Go”. “What did you see?” I asked “It looked like my sister!” “Your sister is in there?!?!” “No! But it LOOKED like her” “Oh no, that’s not good” “No.” We got back in the car. “I don’t know if I can do this” she said. I didn’t know what to say. After a couple minutes we got our nerve up again. Ok, let’s do this. We entered the club and made our way slowly through the crowd. The bar was pretty typical size with a pool table, a few tall round tables, and small seating area with a couple of love seats. The people? That’s harder to describe. Valerie said the place was two midgets shy of a circus. I thought that was a little harsh. I would say it was on the level of your average walmart visit. As we made our way through the crowd I tried to check out the scene without gawking. I really didn’t see much of interest with the exception of a classy looking couple standing in the corner. ‘Did you see that couple over there?” she asked. “Yeah” “She’s hot!” “Yeah, she is. Finest thing here by far” I would say there were approximately 40 people there, with ages ranging between upper 20s and mid 50s. They were about to start the tour so we grabbed some drinks and introduced ourselves to some of the couples standing around. The first floor had two saunas, showers, and about 15 small rooms with a dorm size bed, and an old tube TV in the corner playing 90s porn. A few of the rooms were a slightly larger with a couple beds or ‘toys’. The upstairs had about 15 more rooms, and an open play area with a swing, some couches, and two beds. We learned on the tour that if you would like voyeurs, then leave the door open and put the chain across. If you leave the chain off, that means you’re open to participants, but they have to ask for permission before touching. Naturally, this was all new to me. We all headed back to the bar to mingle and have drinks. Everyone at the place was friendly and respectful, and the place was pretty clean for what it was. There were a few single guys there. Harmless for the most part, but slightly annoying. No single females that I know of. After an hour of getting lubricated, some couples were starting to drift back into the play areas. We decided to take a walk around. Some stuff was going down in the rooms, with some people in the open play area hanging out, but nothing crazy yet. We headed back to the bar for another drink and then decided to check out the action again. This time the two beds in the open play area each contained 3 or 4 people getting it on. I tried not to gawk, but it’s hard not to when two women are in a 69. The classy couple was standing by the big swing. He had just whipped out his dick and his woman was going down on him. Valerie and I headed down the hallway and went into one of the little rooms. I asked her if we should leave the door open. We decided to give it a try. I pulled off my shirt and jeans and Valerie pulled off her top. I laid back on the bed, and as Valerie started to go down on me one of the single goons stopped by and asked if he could watch. “Fine” I said. He got a good view of Valerie’s ass up in the air in a thong, but after a minute got bored and wandered off. We continued and a minute later I look up and there’s this Indian guy standing there with his shirt pulled up under his chin, no pants on, and he’s jerking on his limp dick. I’m like “oh Valerie, this is so fucking weird.” “Can I watch?” I don’t answer “Can I watch?” he asked again. “Please go” I ask. Apparently someone else had a problem with him, because he later got the boot. They don’t play around here, which is good. I tried to shut the door and continue, but the little room got hot quick, and the little Indian guy had thrown me off. We got dressed and went back down to the bar and shortly after the classy couple approached us and asked if we would like a drink. We stepped out on the beer garden so ‘Jared’ could smoke and we could all chat easier. The girls really hit it off. We talked about the place and our experiences. Mine only being a couples swap (separate locations) about 15 years previous and an odd threesome. Valerie had had a few threesomes and had been in a relationship with another girl for a few years, but that was years ago. Jared and Janet had been married two years and were all about swinging. Jared is tall and thin, and probably mid 50s. Janet is about mid 40s, and probably 5’9” to my 5’8”. She’s slender with small perky boobs and a nice round butt. She has a cute round face and her hair is dark and curly which makes her look like a young Mini Driver, but not really. Anyway, conversation continued and we learned they live across town from us and enjoy 420 as well. This could work. They asked us if we would like to take another walk around the club, but they place was thinning out and we were both a little drained after a long night. Valerie slipped Janet her number and we said good-bye. The girls began texting immediately, and the conversations quickly got hot. A decision was made to get together. Unfortunately, it would be another two weeks until we were all available. Ugh, another two weeks of anxiety. I wasn’t sure what would happen that first night. I figured at the least the girls would make out, and maybe throw the guys a mouth party. Was I ready for a full-on swap? The day finally came. I had Valerie get me off that morning so I wouldn’t be a little anxious later. Typically never a problem, but the first time with someone new is always different, and I wanted to remain ‘calm’. As we got ready for the evening I continued to smoke like a chimney. Valerie started sipping a cocktail to calm herself. They arrived a little before seven that evening. We sat down in the living room with some drinks, and I passed a bowl around while Jared loaded some one-hitters. We got acquainted for a while and eventually Jared got up to use the bathroom and Janet followed him into the kitchen to ‘freshen her drink’. This gave Valerie and I a minute to talk. “You gotta stop drinking. You’re starting to get drunk and babble. They’re probably in there wondering if we’re gonna shit or get off the pot.”, I said. Shortly after Janet walked back in from the kitchen and sat down. The next thing I know the girls are going at it. My pep talk must have worked. Jared walks in and looks pleased. He asked for another beer and by the time I got back with it they were already up the stairs going into the bedroom. The girls flopped down on our California king and start making out while Jared and I stood and watched. They were both quite pleased when Valerie’s big tits came out. Bras were off. Panties were off and Janet went down on Valerie. Jared asked if I had any folding chairs. Chairs? Right then Valerie motioned for me to come over. Fuck the chairs. I pulled off my shirt and Valerie sat up and removed my pants. We laid down on the bed and started kissing while Janet went down on Jared. Valerie started playing with my cock which was still pretty soft. My heart was pounding with my mind running like crazy and things just weren’t happening downstairs. What are we doing? I decided to just lay back and relax. Valerie went down on me so I just laid there focusing on the girls’ sweet booties sticking up in the air while they serviced their men. Junior finally started to get with the program and Valerie rolled over to check on our guests. Jared started rubbing Valerie’s boob and she went to him. Janet came around and started sucking my cock that was ¾ there. I told her “Swing your ass up here”, and immediately we were in a 69 – my favorite, and I was hard as a rock. The cotton mouth wasn’t helping, but I gave it everything I had while she worked my knob ferociously. She had said she comes easily, and she wasn’t joking. After getting off multiple times, she eventually got off of me and I told her to turn over so I could get her doggy style, but before doing so I held her ass in the air while I licked her pussy a little more and then tongued her asshole. I had to hold her tight she was squirming all over with pleasure. I then slipped it in her doggy style for a bit and then flipped her over for missionary. I could hear Valerie squealing with delight and said to Janet “I don’t know what he’s doing, but it sounds like she loves it.” Janet replied “He’s not even touching her.” I hadn’t been looking and didn’t want to, but I glanced over to see Valerie just sucking his cock. Oh Valerie. A little bit later I heard Valerie say “I want Eric”. Jared immediately handed her off and I pulled her into my arms. “Is everything Ok?” I asked. “Yes”, she said. “I just want you in me”. She had the biggest smile on her face. We fucked for a while missionary, then I flipper her over for a bit before she went back over to Jared. I stood up to grab a drink of water and Janet was instantly on her knees blowing me. I just stood there enjoying the view. I then told her to lie down on the bed and dove between her legs (I really love to eat pussy) and then slid it in her missionary again. I was able to go deep with Janet, which Valerie can’t always handle. I’m not a power fucker, but Janet really likes to get banged, so I went hard and she kept getting off. Each orgasmic contraction brought her pelvic floor up and almost pushed my cock out. Janet then said she wanted to be on top. We flipped over, and while she was riding me Valerie came over to enjoy the view of my cock pumping in and out of her pussy. I was hoping I would get my balls licked but she was too busy licking Janet’s asshole. Valerie went back to sucking Jared’s cock, who was standing next to the bed. Janet got off me and turned around. I slid it in her from behind and she said “Move forward a little.” This allowed her to move forward and she dove into Valerie’s pussy – completing the human version of Connect Four. Eventually we switched again and I could tell Valerie had enough. She gets pretty sore after a while so I decided to finish while taking her from behind with one hand reaching down cupping a big beautiful titty. I don’t know how long we all went at it. By the amount of music played I would say it was an hour and a half, easy. Valerie and I laid there while the other two continued. Eventually Jared got Janet in the doggy position, and Valerie crawled underneath to lick Jared’s balls and Janet’s pussy while he plowed her from behind. I laid there enjoying the view and reached over to tweak Janet’s nipple. Another shuddering orgasm as she came hard from the being over stimulated. They switched positions and Valerie came back to me and started giving me head now that my wood had returned. Valerie and I watched them continue and then Valerie joined Janet licking Jared’s shaft. Eventually Janet pushed her ass up in the air while blowing Jared. I went around and got behind her. She probably thought I was going to enter her, but I licked her pussy some more and she got off twice more with her hips bucking around. I rejoined Valerie as Janet finished off her man. Wow, what an evening. I’ve tried to describe it the best I could, but it all became a blur of sexual positions with four adults fucking like porn stars. We all agreed the evening went extremely well. Jared wanted to keep going. They confessed to going at it once with another couple for 8 hours. Damn, and I thought I was a marathon fucker! We all got dressed and said our good-byes. It was now almost 10 so we headed back to bed. The only thing we could say to each other was “Wow!” We were still so wound up we fucked again, and again the next morning! We heard from Janet shortly after they left. They want to do it again and plans are already being made.

As a wife answering, you must be playing with the wrong people. If there is hygiene problems with wife, why are you letting your wife play with the husbands?

We LOVE TPA! It was our 2nd club, the first place we actually started to get our feet wet, the first place we ever played with another couple and the 1st place we ever swapped. It's always clean, the clientele is friendly, approach people, tell them it's your 1st time, ask questions. You'll be very welcome. Its BYOB, they have a basic buffet and a large dance floor. They have a smokers lounge, smoke free in the club and play rooms. There is a sex swing, a few rooms with 1 bed, a couple with multiple beds and there is a glory hole room that is always a stop for Mrs Doc. I didn't look at your age but there are couples of all ages on most saturday nights. They allow a few single males who are generally respectful but if someone isn't, a quick conversation with the staff and the guy is gone. You have to pre-register from their website which is how they maintain a 10:1 ratio of couples to sm. Our 1st night there 15 years ago was an APG night and was eye opening. Other swinger sites have parties as well and those are always well attended. TPA is one of the things we really miss about life in the northeast. We were "home" for the holidays and will admit that we blew off family to spend NYE at the club. We had a blast in spite of the cold and didn't get back to the hotel until 3:00. If you decide to go, stay at the HI Express or the Days Inn in Northeast. Both are clean and relatively new and only 15 minutes from the club.

Don't worry about size. Just be yourself and enjoy.

Sex is entertainment. We have both gone to movies with other people.

Our rule is that there is no rules. Of course no means no. That’s just common sense. Why have sex if you have to remember rules. We have both played alone before. The rules I had to abide by were my partners rules. I never felt comfortable with a woman who wouldn’t kiss. I think this is a ridiculous rule. Is kissing more intimate than everything else? I usually use common sense as a guide, not always. I expect my wife uses her common sense too. Let’s face it, we do this for fun and not to be held back.

Join SLS or SDC. Find a meet and greet or house party and see how it goes. Or meet a couple for vanilla drinks or dinner. You can set up a play date later. Or go to a club with the thought you will play with each other. Someone could approach you.

I certainly hope it was that and not some sort of negative blow-up afterwards!

Was that like a Motel 6 or a better brand?? If it was a privately owned franchise hotel rather than one managed by the chain, it might explain the attitude. We had a similar experience at a Hampton Inn that we had used regularly. Hampton has a policy of honoring legitimate complaints by comping the night. We used the hotel because of its proximity to a swingers club. Unfortunately, the hotel was also close to a rather seedy neighborhood and had begun to let the upkeep sink to close to the level of the neighborhood and they began to permit conduct that would normally not be acceptable in a Hilton brand. After our third complaint about noise (faulty ac unit and drunks roaming the halls at 3:00 am), dirty rooms, and a non functioning shower we were told by the manager that we were no longer welcome to stay there. When we contacted Hilton Honors we were told that the Hampton in question was not company owned, we received an apology, several thousand reward points and a weekend voucher to any US Hilton hotel. Now, when we go to that club, we stay at a HI Express a few miles away that IS company owned and we've never had a complaint about the hotel. Prior to this, we thought that if the hotel bore the name of a big brand that it was run by that brand. Oh well, live and learn.

There is a deeper truth here. It takes courage for a woman to dip her toe into the lifestyle, maybe moreso than a man. Once in, she is often shown more respect than she gets in the vanilla world. There is a gain in independence. That will change how women view themselves, carry themselves, present themselves. Take a moment to observe how your wife interacts with women who are part of vanilla couples compared to the interactions with women who are part of LS couples. There are changes in the level of reserve, and in the authenticity of the interactions. The LS is, in part, about embracing vulnerability. That embrace leads, perhaps paradoxically, to greater confidence in many aspects of life, vanilla and LS.

Agreed. Just watching is even more erotic. I seldom noticd the wives/Gfs of the men even in the same area and in some cases when they are they are very supportive of the lady. My wife kind of "fell into" one and I noticed the different techniques of the guys. All were great.

I don't think other couples have to "give up" their husbands for an evening. Having been to a few similar parties myself, I've seen the wives participate as "fluffers", or if they are bisexual, they can play among themselves. Many, including myself, find watching just as erotic and engaging. In my experience too, single guys are very flaky, unless you have a club or a group planning it for you.

This is an interesting thread. My wife loves being fucked in the ass, as do I. (I'm submissive bi, but only for physical sexual activity - oral, anal, etc, not "romantically" attracted to other men - just part of my overall submissive nature when it comes to kinky things.) We have not progressed to swinging yet, but are getting close. We are nudist though. Frankly I would be fine with just watching her with other men and that is how I think we will finally get into the lifestyle to start with.

It happens. I'd even go as far as to say that it happens to the absolute majority of men at some point in their lifestyle experience. It happens to fit men, it happens to young men, it happens to men that don't drink, it just fucking happens. It's life. It certainly happens more often in the clubs because of all the distractions, noise etc. I ask what the guy wants to do in that scenario, and go with that. Some fool around and recover, some take a break then come back, some opt for oral, it depends.

I love to be fucked while my husband watches and see me have several orgasms. Now I have a craving to take a black cock bareback and have the guy empty his load inside me so my husband can have a feasts of cum. I never really though I wanted a black cock, but my husband wants to see me take a very large black cock bareback so why not? We are going to a local adult theater and I am sure I will get 1-2 black cocks plus all others. I want to be gangbanged hard and fuck several guys THEN my husband can have a turn after he eats me.

Id like to comment on this post. I am one of the guys that struggles with this. I can get hard for my own wife without a problem, but, struggle with anyone different. It's incredibly heartbreaking to a guy and me. Especially since couples are hard to come by. The opportunity don't exist often. I thought alcohol might be the concern, but, we gave up drinking and the concern still exists. The problem is psychological. Clubs are challenging environments. Your put on the spot to perform. A new partner is a total mystery. You don't know her expectations. If she will enjoy you. Guys need to have confidence for their penis to work. If you can't relax, you won't get hard. It's hard to relax with new partners. I've even had my penis not get hard on cialis and Viagra. The scenario is a recipe for failure until a guy acquires the confidence. Some never do. I am afraid I won't either. I am getting to the point where I may no longer look for a female to play with. I'll just enjoy guys doing my wife. I never fail to get hard for this scenario. I hate this as I feel I am being left out. But the frustration of disappointing the lady is adding up. So, ladies please be understanding. You may be disappointed. But I bet not as much as the guy is. It is something he has to deal with long after your done playing.

I am a big supporter of Viagra and Cialis. One at a time, of course. I am also a proponent of kindness and sympathy to the guy with erection problems. It is a disappointing experience and a little kindness and patience often pays off in a revived member.