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We are not big into swinging sites or posting looking to meet other couples. We met our first couple by chance. We were truly virgin to swinging, they said they were. We didn’t have to decipher profile meanings and guess who we were meeting. Our attraction was social as well as physical. We already had social fun before it went further. Other than my husband it has been the greatest sex since we were married. My husband is still the best. It was exciting and he was romantic. They aren’t close to us meaning we don’t play often. We checked out swinging sites. Most couples want same room play. From what I read men enjoy watching their wives. I won’t say anything negative about this. It’s just not for me. This forum gives insight to people who post. Some posts are too far fetched, some are sincere. The forum isn’t a hook up site per se. you just might find the right couple by reading posts.

Well, since you play in a small community, you're likely to get caught. If you go to a club 30 minutes away, you're getting away from your small community. The chances are slim (but not impossible) that you'll bump into someone you know. And remember, if somebody recognizes you at a club, you're going to recognize them. If they out you, they'll out themselves. It's really not a worrisome as it seems.

So this morning we started talking about the idea of having Mrs. E pick up a new playmate in a bar over the long weekend. It felt like a great idea when I was fucking her, then I was going to drop it, but she brought it back up again on her own tonight and we're game. When we did something like this on vacation, it was after a half dozen duds when prospective vanilla playmates realized there was another man in the picture and scattered. We'd like it to be a little less drawn out than that, and I know a lot of couples here have had some fun this way. Any advice on how to approach this and introduce the idea?

Because two penises and balls rubbing. What do you think about ?

For the guys. When there's more than one cock do you look at other cocks and would it bother you if say 2 of the 3 cocks are bigger? Seeing your wife get fucked by a much bigger cock than you?

On occasions I view some vanilla family and parenting boards, which are populated primarily by women. Sometimes there will be a thread about nonmonogamy, like "my husband wants to swap with another couple," or "I want a threesome," etc. (The replies fall into three general categories: "We do that - try it," "We don't do that but have fun," and "Just thinking about that is despicable.") All understandable except the few who reply, "I used to ........... (have threesomes, swap, do anal, give blowjobs), but now I'm married and he better not even bring up the topic or I'll kill him." Some women say their husbands don't even know about their wild past sex life. To me, how can you not discuss an important part of your past (and present and future) with someone who is supposed to be closest to you? How can you deny your mate at least a discussion of giving him his fantasies? Another topic was about not going to bed mad. Sounds like a good idea if you can pull it off, but in our poly family the dynamic is different. If one of us is mad at someone in the family (we're all lovers except the guys), that person will go to bed with someone else. Two advantages: the other person will talk some sense into you, and you can still have sex without thinking you're giving in.

We are brand new and have never done more than talk about swinging, but the talks are serious. My biggest hold up is that we live in a small conservative community and we don't want it to be known to our family and friends that we are doing this. We would be going 30min away to a club to start, but chances are we will at some point run into a friend-of-a-friend or what have you. I don't think our situation is all that unique, but idk. Do you find that most people are not openly swingers? What, if anything, do you do to protect your privacy?

On SLS, vanilla sites, and everyday life I have come across married men pretending they are single. Often I can filter these guys out quickly but looking for tips from others. I like to be sure I am having honest fun.

Do you avoid contacting someone because they have a screen name you consider undesirable? On the other hand, are some screen names a turn on? I have avoided people because their name grossed me out or seemed utterly stupid. For example, Cumbubble. My husband looks at a lot of single guy profiles who I think might be interesting and says, "REALLY?!" The latest was MrCumtastic, which for some reason doesn't seem as bad as cumbubble, to me. There was a couple with the name OrganicChemistry. I thought that was a really hot, smart name. I wrote them a note saying I knew organic chemistry was hard, but satisfying. I just couldn't help myself, and included a nice message telling them I admired their creativity and profile. They didn't respond. Actually, it was worth it for my own amusement, since so many people never respond anyhow. We did meet a couple with what I consider the worst profile name of all time. They were really great. I noticed when they joined a new site we're on they didn't use the same name.

Would like some thoughts on what I am experiencing. We’ve been swingers for the twenty years we have been together. I’ve had numerous women over this time, i constantly am kinda let down over the other wives I get. I don’t compare them to my own but am constantly seeing hygiene, are mega overweight, are missing teeth, have mental problems, etc. it’s come to the point that I enjoy watching my wife with other guys more than us doing a swap. I am curious if other guys experience this as well? I feel anxiety in some ways that I don’t get to enjoy myself with other women, but, have also accepted this is the way it’s gonna be. For your info, we are a 50’s aged couple. Thanks for your thoughts.

Hello. Welcome to The Swinger's Board! We've done Dp and DVP. Once you are able to accomplish a double penetration, coming isn't usually an issue. Maybe after you have done it a dozen times, and know how to start and continue comfortably you can reach an orgasm. In the beginning, it's more of a total and literal cluster fuck. Trying to stay hard while giggling is difficult. You can't go into a DP thinking "Oh, this is going to be SO hot". It's best if both guys know each other pretty well and there is no homophobia. Everyone has to have a open mind, be uninhibited and able to laugh at failure. Once everyone is rocking together and all is going well, there is still going to be one guy who is struggling to keep the party going. You can always tell a difficult position when it isn't even that easy looking in porn. If you watch, you will be able to see a guy who's thighs are on fire, a guy who has trouble staying in or staying hard. Honestly, in the dozens of DPs I've been involved with, I came once. And the other guy came a few minutes later. Never together. She on the other hand, came and came and came, every time.

This is a perennial concern. Here is the situation. 1. What happens among consenting adults is a lot less scandalous than the usual reported behaviors: cheating, sex for money, etc. 2. Taboo becomes mainstream over time. For example, going to a nude beach or resort used to raise eyebrows. Not so much any more. People are increasingly open about various aspects of sexuality. 3. A bit of discretion goes a long way. So there are really two issues. 1. You might run into someone you know at a swing venue. Or someone who knows someone you know. They are there at a Swing Club or event for the same reason. There's no percentage in 'outing' you. Just have a plan--quietly acknowledge their presence (so they know that you have spotted them), exchange a simple "good evening" and move on. Pretend they are not there. 2. You find a couple you like, you end up seeing each other and you are at a restaurant or some other public place and someone you know (co-worker, neighbor, pastor) comes up to you and says" hi". Just introduce your new friends. If asked how you met, give the standard response "Oh, John and Mary are friends of friends." Bottom line, be respectful, be discreet. People pay you little mind. It's especially true if you're a little older and fairly conservative in dress and manner. Candidly, your biggest risk is outing yourselves. People will ask why you're so bouncy and happy on Monday when they have had an ordinary weekend. Just smile and respond "quality time with my spouse!". Most swingers are not openly swingers for the simple reason that potential playmates might be concerned about being outed and steer clear. Once and again, discretion matters.

Profiles are advertisements. When you go to McDonalds does the Big Mac look remotely like what you see in the ad? Have you ever met a couple that looked better in person?, were younger than what they said?, thinner? Taller? That being said there are plenty of truthful profiles too. You are correct that posts are more telling than profiles. So what do you think of our posts? We are close lol.

There is a concept in nuclear strategy that also applies to swinging: mutually assured destruction. No one would “out” you because it would out them. 90-99% of Swingers are in the closet because it is a scandalous hobby. We’ve met people we know at nudist and swinger events. After some nervous laughter, we move forward. We would never out anyone and we hope for the same courtesy.

I didn't really understand what was bad in the story either. If you're all fine with what happened in the end, then what's wrong or bad about it?

Just give it time. Yes it's not what you hoped for, but you got some 'lessons learnt' out of it and, truth be told, nothing horrendous have happened. I would park it for now, then in a month or two, if you both feel like it, go to a club or a social with the view to just watch (which is exactly what most couples do initially). Then if anything more than that happens, it's a bonus. Watching can be fun and a huge turn on, and your standards can go pretty low if you just watch lol

I am not trying to be a smart ass but please tell me where this went bad. You are using your wife and this other guy to fulfill your cuckold fantasy. Sounds like it went well for you. I used to be a long term play partner for a couple just like you. He would arrange all of these cuckold situations for me and the wife to act out. At times he would leave the two of us alone when I came to visit them in their home, other times I was invited over to their home while he was at work, and I was even allowed to spend the weekend with her once when they were on vacation but he returned home. Eventually, this created problems for the three of us. The wife and I became really good friends and I started viewing it as more of a poly dynamic than anything else. Especially since I ended up becoming one of his close friends and they started involving me in their personal affairs. However, as the relationship progressed I noticed that the husband would exert his position of power as her husband whenever he started to feel uncomfortable. He was never willing to travel to me or allow her to travel to see me alone. If I bought her sexy clothes she would not wear them for fear of disappointing him. If I invited the two of them to go to events with me he always said no and being the good wife that she was she would rarely opt to do anything unless he said yes. I put an end to the relationship because I was fully aware that the husband was using me to fulfill his cuckold fantasies but was unwilling to admit to his wife what his true intentions were. She had told me and a friend that she was no longer romantically attracted to her husband but didn't have the courage to tell him. Also, she told me that many of the men she had been with were because she wanted to be a good wife to her husband but given the choice she wouldn't have had sex with them. The whole situation became very uncomfortable and awkward for me. The point I am trying to make is one that has already been stated. Be careful what you ask for.

Okay, so now you know everything not to do, it can only get better (seriously, it can't get worse). Don't waste a bunch of time emailing and texting, you will learn more about them in 5 minutes in person than 5 years of email and texts. Don't plan on playing on the first meeting. This takes the pressure off so you can take some time and see if you are all a match. If when you meet, it's not a match, (politely) leave. It isn't going to get any better. Too much of anything is too much...drugs, alcohol, whatever, is not going to lead to a good experience. I know when you are just starting having a bird in the hand, but as you found out the wrong bird is worse then no bird. Learn from this, give the wife some time to recover, and then try again but with this new knowledge to help. As for your wife needing to get 'messy to get involved', it sounds like she needs to be able to trust you more so she can let her barriers down. Just a thought. Anyways, sorry to hear it went south, but try again and we wish you success.

It's not gay if it's a three way: Ok, back to our regular serious programming. D

Having done it a couple of times with my wife and our close male friend, I can say it was a lot of fun for all three of us. If you are having sex, do what you enjoy and don't spend your time worrying about what others are thinking. Just remember that the mere fact that you are fine with and enjoy non-monogamous sex just for the fun of it means you are doing something a majority of the population does not approve of.

Using Viagra, or actually Sildenaful. It works, comes in 20mg tabs, so i can take the 40 or 60mg dose that works ok & save the extra. (100mg is the recommended maximum dosage.) Thirty tabs cost me $31 & change at the grocery store pharmacy. Powdering the tabs can speed up results, tho there are practical limits to that as well. Ordinarily I have results in 30 minutes. Crushing the tabs speeds it up to twenty minutes, maybe fifteen. Its kind of subjective, & there is the psyche factor.

Of course, after I ordered Cialis from Canada, my insurer accepted the appeal from my urologist for Cialis. So I went from 400 to 212 to 40/month. It’s the only prescription drug I use!

Kissing either set of lips after there's been cum inside them is a great experience. I don't mind it a bit.