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Thank you for the great advice and it makes sense to me. I have yet to say anything to my boyfriend about his sexual preferences as that would not be fair so I keep it to myself. However we have yet to meet one couple where he said no. I don’t think I will ever say anything to him about it but I am always amazed at his capacity to be able to get it on with all the women we have ever met. I also read a previous post like mine I think you suggested and it was very good. I think I need to try harder to simply think of it as fun and not make the physical part the main attraction. I certainly have met men who are wonderful people and great fun to be around and perhaps that is enough?

You are so right. The show when I can catch a fleeting glimpse is quite impressive with some well shaved guy with a large cock teases then enters the SO, her eyes roll and while it appears uncomfie at first she quickly takes it all and writhes in enjoyment - quite obviously as her hips gyrate and move toward his body. One guy I recall was fucking her next near me and I was most amazed at when he actually pulled out and came (1/2 liter) LOL...

The fighting in front of you seems like a huge red flag. You're probably better off not playing with them.

We are really careful not to be taking one for the team!!!!! We have always noticed that it is difficult to find couples where all 4 are in sync!!! House parties, clubs and resorts with the larger groups of people have worked well for us, so we both are happy. We both work out mucho, but our age gap seem to affect some people, so we are careful with that issue too. Julie

When we were young, sex had this taboo, secret aspect of it that made it exciting. Constant access to porn makes sex more 'regular' to the young. My brother conducted an experiment on his sons, who were born in the early 70s. He provided a constant supply of sexual material like Playboy and Penthouse around the house like they were the Reader's Digest. They graduated high school virgins, never married, never had kids, never thought of sex as more than an aspect of a relationship. They are also very well adjusted and successful. This thing where sex is so repressed is such a life killer. I can only imagine what I may have accomplished if I had even a fraction of the time I wasted thinking of and looking for pussy. Sex ed for me in the 60s...dont ask, dont tell.

If a person is self conscience of how their junk looks, it will affect the quality of sex. I understand how it could be seen as a waste of money, but we can't put ourselves in their shoes. If one feels confident and sexy when having their panties removed by his teeth, rather than cringing at what he might think, it's worth it.

Well, there’s the method used by this cowboy buddy of mine. He walked into a bar the other night and happened to see this good looking young lady sitting alone at the bar. He walked up and sat down on the stool beside her without saying a word, he just gave her a warm smile and a nod of his hat before diverting his attention back to his watch. As he was totally focused on his watch the young lady kept taking furtive glances in his direction, attempting to figure out what he was doing. Finely curiosity got the best of her, “excuse me, I don’t mean to pry but would you mind telling me what you’re doing?” With a warm smile he replied, “oh it’s nothing really, I’ve just got this hi-tech watch and I’m testing it out. It telepathically communicates with people near me and relays that information back to me.” The young lady was now intrigued, “that’s fascinating, did it tell you anything about me.” The cowboy replied with a sheepish smile, “yes mam it did, it said that you weren’t wearing any panties.” The young lady chuckle as she replied, “well I hope you didn’t pay too much for that watch because it’s giving you faulty information.” The cowboy feverishly goes through the functions on the watch for a few moments before stating, “Oh here’s the problem, the damn things an hour fast.”

Me too. I'm going to go with more demanding (hours wise) occupations???

Yes, Yes, Yes and YES. I have received invitations online (SLS) but rarely go to those. I have gone to them directly from a M&G via invitation but the one I attend most often is put on by a couple I have gotten to know over the past three years. They will post the party in HotDates on SLS and then send several of us an e-mail letting us know the date and theme. My first question ALWAYS if it is a new party is "what should I expect" and boy have I been surprised by some of the answers. One example "we expect everyone with F everyone by the time they leave." Well hell no, I don't even know you people and I ALWAYS get to decide who I F and when . . .each of us has that right. The parties I attend are not like this at all, do people "play" yes they sure do. Sometimes we know it, sometimes we don't. Lots of time it is more a dance party and M&G for later 'playing' and almost always someone is in the hot tub.

If I want tight pussy why should she not want a big cock? Since I love to watch her getting hammered really hard, the way she likes to be fucked, a bigger cock just adds to the show.

honestly the way your post sounds - i think every one is beneath you lol - And that BF of yours - i mean really? he does what? How can you even go with some one like that - the next thing he'll do is tell you its only sex and he's not looking to replace the one he loves ( only because she's so beautiful ) but just wants to have fun. Some men just don't get right? Lol ok o'm having some fun with you - I'll stop - You have every right to want and get what your looking for - but so does your husband - but your post sounds like - Well i already have a good looking husband - so if I'm to play the guy better be more then my man is - this is a red flag and you need to talk it out asap. I'm not sure how you can put this with out sounding like a .... well you know - but your going to have to other wise just stop.

You shouldn't feel pressured to 'take one for the team' if you don't want to. That said I think it's possible to be too picky, and comparing potential playmates to your long-term partner is a bit out of place here and creates unnecessary limitations. I find that people who enjoy swinging the most are very flexible, open-minded and willing to enjoy a wide range of scenarios, situations and people. However it works the other way around too - swinging teaches us flexibility, shows us how to enjoy more than one partner, one script, one relationship. Who's screening the couples, to start with? Might be worth for you to do it, in order to increase the chances of you liking the guy and being more in the mood? Also, lots of great thoughts on this here: https://www.swingersboard.com/forums/topic/57390-can-you-be-too-picky/

I continue to find it difficult to interpret peoples’ various definitions of polyamory. I’m sorry, but my understanding is that it is a long-term love relationship shared among several people. In other words, more than just multiple fuck buddies.

I had to overcome my reluctance to ask the question. It took time but I finally found a way that fit my personal style. Having already had two or three casual conversation with a prospective playmate, I will pull a hassock or chair up to place where she is already seated and while watching to see if she is receptive to the invitation, ask her if she would like a foot massage. If she says, "oh, I'd like that," and starting the massage I get reactions like, "oh that feels good" I will wait until I get to a point in the conversation when it seems right to ask, "would you like to play." This seems to work for me about one in three times. I have encountered women who do not want their feel touched at all, by anybody. Sometimes I simply perceive no kind of positive reaction at all so I accept the woman's polite, "no thank you". What has never happened to me is for a woman to say, "get lost creep," or "ain't never going to happen." So I moved eventually past that fear.

We liked your post as we had the same problem. I really wanted to watch B taken in the ass bi a man and we found a good couple to do it. What B likes to do is to eat my pussy while a man is fucking me and lick me clean after he cums, but like you said, it is not the same. I have used strap-ons with him but I wanted to see cum leaking out of his ass. FINALLY, it happened and I loved it. He was into it also and has done it several times since. Would like to chat.

Hmm..well I would be willing to "try" most anything (minus pain or water sports) to satisfy my partner. However if it was something I just wasn't into I wouldn't continue it, just to satisfy him.