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How do you get her to do this? Simple. You don't. All you can do is discuss it, and have her make her own decisions. If she doesn't want it, she doesn't want it. And no, it isn't every woman's fantasy to have two men at once. Maybe someday down the road she might surprise you. But, pressuring her won't work. As others have said, improve your communication. Really work on it.

The fighting in front of you seems like a huge red flag. You're probably better off not playing with them.

It was this past weekend. Wind, rain, flooding and downed power lines. Mother Nature’s fury and beauty. The other couple is on this board. I want to wait to post details. I tried not show my fear of meeting and jumping into bed a short time later. I told my husband and he told me.

There wasn't much good on television and they couldn't afford to go out.

We decided to skip the escort route. SLS route is our next option but still plenty of time to figure that out..update later.

"Doesn't every woman want 2 men though" NEWS FLASH: people in porn are actors! and most porn is someones fantasy. It's NOT real life but apparently you're watching waaaaaay to much of it.

I'm not saying jump into bed with someone who completely turns you off..I just don't think you should be comparing men to your husband.If they're decent looking and have a good personality, go for it! And as far as him wanting to play with every woman you guys meet...that's what us guys do lol. Don't take offense to it.

Go to the Curious About Swinging forum and read everything, especially about improving your trust and communication. Then work on improving your trust and communication. Eventually you will both be able to share your secrets and fantasies. At that time, ask if she is interested in making some fantasies become real. If she says yes, then start with some of the simpler fantasies and work your way up. Next thing you know, you're a member of the club.

Thank you for the great advice and it makes sense to me. I have yet to say anything to my boyfriend about his sexual preferences as that would not be fair so I keep it to myself. However we have yet to meet one couple where he said no. I don’t think I will ever say anything to him about it but I am always amazed at his capacity to be able to get it on with all the women we have ever met. I also read a previous post like mine I think you suggested and it was very good. I think I need to try harder to simply think of it as fun and not make the physical part the main attraction. I certainly have met men who are wonderful people and great fun to be around and perhaps that is enough?

The thing I'm wondering here is that you saw the pics of the guys before you arranged the dates, correct? If they were so unattractive, why did you agree to meet? Also for us, personality has won over looks before. People who didn't look so good in their pics won us over with their personalities and we ended up playing.

There are two parts to this, really. 1) You don't want to fuck someone you're not attracted to - totally your decision and your right, every time, with or without reason, and even if it means no fun for your partner as a result. 2) If your partner is attracted to someone you don't like and you treat them with contempt because of this, that can't be right. Unless we're talking about some extreme cases of poor hygiene or heavy drug use or something of that kind, I don't think it's kind of you to pass a judgement on your partner's sexual preferences. Again, he might not get to play with this person anyway but surely he can at least fantasize and talk about it openly, without being judged?.. Again, if this happens all the time, then the question arises how do you screen the couples to start with? Do you (the female) need to be more involved in that part?

My biggest concern initially was that things might happen that I'm not comfortable with. So for me, and in fact for a lot of people, just going to the club with the view to watch, or to play with each other only, is the best way to start. Baby steps...

I continue to find it difficult to interpret peoples’ various definitions of polyamory. I’m sorry, but my understanding is that it is a long-term love relationship shared among several people. In other words, more than just multiple fuck buddies.

For me, I was 10 and she was the 14 year old daughter of family friends. She was fucking her 16 year old boyfriend so she was "experienced". She gave me my first kiss and my first blow job. And she gave me my life long passion for eating pussy. She also gave me a complete tour of her body and I can still recall the way she looked and smelled as she lay back with her legs spread encouraging me to look at and touch her. I remember asking "where do you pee from" and she showed me. Later we would even watch each other pee, something which still fascinates me. They lived about 5 hours away so we only saw them twice per year. But every time we managed a few minutes to get our heads between each other's legs. The summer I was 14 and she was 18 she told me she was going to college in the fall so we wouldn't see each other in October as usual. She said,"I am going to give you something special". That was the first time I got to fuck her or anyone. The wife's first time was when she was 18 and in college. She was hooked immediately and started living by the motto, "if you're not in bed by 11:00 pm you might as well go home," She says she doesn't know for sure how many guy or girls she had between her legs over the next 4 years but it may have been as many as 100. If her middle school students knew what a slut Old Mrs. Ironpants is they would die.

Was that like a Motel 6 or a better brand?? If it was a privately owned franchise hotel rather than one managed by the chain, it might explain the attitude. We had a similar experience at a Hampton Inn that we had used regularly. Hampton has a policy of honoring legitimate complaints by comping the night. We used the hotel because of its proximity to a swingers club. Unfortunately, the hotel was also close to a rather seedy neighborhood and had begun to let the upkeep sink to close to the level of the neighborhood and they began to permit conduct that would normally not be acceptable in a Hilton brand. After our third complaint about noise (faulty ac unit and drunks roaming the halls at 3:00 am), dirty rooms, and a non functioning shower we were told by the manager that we were no longer welcome to stay there. When we contacted Hilton Honors we were told that the Hampton in question was not company owned, we received an apology, several thousand reward points and a weekend voucher to any US Hilton hotel. Now, when we go to that club, we stay at a HI Express a few miles away that IS company owned and we've never had a complaint about the hotel. Prior to this, we thought that if the hotel bore the name of a big brand that it was run by that brand. Oh well, live and learn.

I was 15 and it was with a slightly older man, 40 or so, but completely consensual. Some people will immediately jump on this but it was entirely my choice, and it was great.