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@GoldCoCouple, The Onion is a satirical/comedy "news" site. Unless you knew that, and your reply was a satirically straight response to their satire... in that case, carry on D

We feel that the ultimate goal of sex is orgasms and for us as swingers it's sharing orgasms. Mrs Doc enjoys when her partner gets off and if it's a new partner, she gets a bit smug if it happens quickly! She's only disappointed if the guy is done when he's cum and has no interest in hers. If you reload as quick as you get off, she'd wait. She says there's a fine line between a good boink and a mindless pounding. That line is usually defined by if and/or when the orgasms happen.

Just slow down. I don't like distracting myself from the moment. Squeezing or pressing doesn't work for me but I've heard that advice as well. I like to focus on what's going on, take it all in. My advice is pay attention to what you're feeling and back off the edge quickly if it feels like you're even getting close to it. Pull out and rub or slap her clit with your cock. Go back down on her for a quick break. Anything to ease that initial intensity even a quick position change. Do it in a sexy way to keep bringing her along. If she has any experience at all she'll know what you're doing, most likely she'll take it as a compliment that she's so hot(maybe you can even tell her that which will pay dividends) and she'll appreciate the effort. It only takes me a minute or two to get over that "oh shit this feels too good" feeling and I'm able to last as long as I want. You mentioned condoms. Extra strong condoms can help because they are thicker but stay away from the ones with the delay stuff in them. You'll put that on thinking it's works right away and go balls deep and finish before you get started. Best case is you'll get off the ledge by your own doing and then won't be able to cum. If you aren't using condoms ask her to taste herself on your cock.(I find many, not all, women like to have a taste but most don't like to suck a cock with a condom on) The time it takes to move to that position and back may be all the time you need to get off the ledge. If she's assertive I like to let her get on top because I rarely cum that way. Another position is jockey(man on top straddled the woman's closed legs). You may imagine this would be too intense but it is more like coital alignment, it limits the ability for long deep thrusts and is more of a grinding position that will stimulate the clit nicely but doesn't overstimulate me. Whatever it is you are doing pay attention to what your body is telling you and back off quickly. It usually only takes a couple of minutes and you can be fucking as long as you want. Also...Practice, practice, practice. The more in tune you are with that feeling the quicker you can learn to deal with it and get past it.

If I send a polite decline to a single guy it is often taken as an invitation to ask why not and continue to convince me I am making a mistake. Then I am even more sure I didn't.

As already said by many - i would try and talk her out of it - i also understand why she wants to do it, It seems to us that self image has gone wrong, instead of wanting honor , respect for self and others, understanding, love and everything else that is worth while having - we have sold our self's to the money makers that say we are not good enough and there for need to "fix" it all. bit like the wish you were here song of the great pink Floyd, How long will we ( as a society ) be blinded by this rubbish and continue to hurt others and our selves by cutting up our bodies - To my daughters ( if you ever see this post that is ) Your beauty comes from the things you hold dear not the bits you can cut off or modify - Do not let yourself ever be fooled - you are worth so much more then a doctors car payment, and the same goes for my sons,

"In fact, the majority of men in the lifestyle will probably tell you that sharing their wife with another man is an act of love and devotion, enabling their spouse to experience things that are not possible in monogamy." Not us!!!! It's just not that complicated or spiritual. We like a bit of variety, we like orgasms and we like sharing them with friends. Our recreational sex has nothing to do with an act of love or devotion. It's FUN. The love and devotion is what we have at home when sex actually means something.

Yeah, I had the name wrong, though Tex Williams’ vibrator (1972) predated the release of Woody Allen’s “Sleeper” (1973). After I made the post (above) it occurred to me that I had the name wrong, but it didn’t seem worth making an edit. (This was 45 years ago.) Then “Prelude” popped into my head, followed by “Prelude 3”. So, after noting the reply above, I tried Googling “Prelude Vibrator.” And here’s what I found: https://www.ebay.com/i/253473847043?rt=nc But even with this bit of evidence I’m not completely certain the name is correct. The Prelude 3 could be another vibrator that followed in Tex Williams’ pioneering approach in openly marketing vibrators for their actual purpose.

I am bisexual but will happily play with a straight couple. Female play is reserved for situations where there is mutual attraction and desire for female play. I really wouldn't want to force it on anybody!

Then the two of you should both be working on helping her fix the self image problems instead of her fixing something that very few ever get to see. If her greatest self-perceived body 'issue' is her labia and this is what is causing her low self esteem...well there are other bigger issues here. BTW, we've never seen a labia that we didn't like.

We decided to skip the escort route. SLS route is our next option but still plenty of time to figure that out..update later.

How do you get her to do this? Simple. You don't. All you can do is discuss it, and have her make her own decisions. If she doesn't want it, she doesn't want it. And no, it isn't every woman's fantasy to have two men at once. Maybe someday down the road she might surprise you. But, pressuring her won't work. As others have said, improve your communication. Really work on it.

If a person is self conscience of how their junk looks, it will affect the quality of sex. I understand how it could be seen as a waste of money, but we can't put ourselves in their shoes. If one feels confident and sexy when having their panties removed by his teeth, rather than cringing at what he might think, it's worth it.

The wife calls hers "this". As in "do ya want some of this"? I prefer pussy or cunt.