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My GF and I have watched several movies where a woman or man fists another woman. Now my GF really wants to experience this with me doing her. We have tried and are very close after working for the last month but we can't seem to find a lube that is very slippery and doesn't dry out. Does anyone else do this activity and how did it go and what did you use for lubricant? How long did it take before you accomplished your goal? We have talked with another couple and she tells me the orgasms she has from this are like no other. Anyone?

We took a break from swinging for a few months so we could work on our communication skills. In the last little while we put our profile back on a swingers site and have gone out on a few dates with other couples. What I am finding is I struggle to be attracted to the men. I am a curvy, sexy and feminine looking lady and my bf is a nice looking, tall and sexy guy. We meet couples and I am not in anyway attracted to the man and my bf seems to be willing to have sex with anyone who is simply female. It shocks me actually, some of these ladies are definitely not his type, overweight, or just not that great looking. I myself cannot just have sex with someone I am not attracted too but my bf is game for anything. So you can imagine I am always the kill joy who says no while everyone else is up for it. To me if the man is not as attractive as my bf then why would I go there? Isn’t this about just sex? And if so, I think I need to be attracted to make it fun and sexy otherwise to me it is mute. I would rather go home and ravage my bf then have sex with some so so guy I am not attracted to. I work hard to keep myself fit and attractive and I feel a little put out when my bf has no problem having sex with someone who just doesn’t look after themselves. How on earth do you even bring this up with your partner with our coming across as arrogant?

Contrary to many men of my age, I find that I come rather quickly. Just some intense oral from a new partner can bring me close to the edge. I usually ask the woman to stop and we move on to something else. Condoms do slow me down. Any other techniques? I have heard something about pressing one's penis. I am happy that I can come. My wife has had multi-hour torture sessions trying to get other guys to come. She is attractive and skilled, so it is not her, IMHO.

Sounds like you need more work on the communications skills to me. Per your post, for you it's about sex so why not just have sex with the BF, right? Are you in this for you or for him? It sounds like you are in it to appease him and could easily step out of the lifestyle without any misgivings. If that's the case you probably shouldn't be in it to begin with. Be in it for you and both get on the same page or get out! Perhaps for him, like it is for many of us, it's about variety. Perhaps he wants to watch you with others and is willing to TOFTT in order to be able to do that. Is that something you are comfortable with? If you could back out of the lifestyle and allow him to remain is that something you can live with? The bigger problem may be that you don't know how to bring it up at all. That indicates a communication problem. If you were communicating you'd know what he is thinking, what he wants from the lifestyle, what his tastes are and why. It may feel uncomfortable bringing it up but is that more uncomfortable than seeing him fucking women you don't understand his attractions to or that you feel are beneath him? Bottom line is...We All Like Different Things...If you want to be in a relationship with this guy you are going to have to be open to what he likes instead of projecting on him what you think he should like. You should absolutely expect the same in return. The only way to figure it all out is TALK.

Just slow down. I don't like distracting myself from the moment. Squeezing or pressing doesn't work for me but I've heard that advice as well. I like to focus on what's going on, take it all in. My advice is pay attention to what you're feeling and back off the edge quickly if it feels like you're even getting close to it. Pull out and rub or slap her clit with your cock. Go back down on her for a quick break. Anything to ease that initial intensity even a quick position change. Do it in a sexy way to keep bringing her along. If she has any experience at all she'll know what you're doing, most likely she'll take it as a compliment that she's so hot(maybe you can even tell her that which will pay dividends) and she'll appreciate the effort. It only takes me a minute or two to get over that "oh shit this feels too good" feeling and I'm able to last as long as I want. You mentioned condoms. Extra strong condoms can help because they are thicker but stay away from the ones with the delay stuff in them. You'll put that on thinking it's works right away and go balls deep and finish before you get started. Best case is you'll get off the ledge by your own doing and then won't be able to cum. If you aren't using condoms ask her to taste herself on your cock.(I find many, not all, women like to have a taste but most don't like to suck a cock with a condom on) The time it takes to move to that position and back may be all the time you need to get off the ledge. If she's assertive I like to let her get on top because I rarely cum that way. Another position is jockey(man on top straddled the woman's closed legs). You may imagine this would be too intense but it is more like coital alignment, it limits the ability for long deep thrusts and is more of a grinding position that will stimulate the clit nicely but doesn't overstimulate me. Whatever it is you are doing pay attention to what your body is telling you and back off quickly. It usually only takes a couple of minutes and you can be fucking as long as you want. Also...Practice, practice, practice. The more in tune you are with that feeling the quicker you can learn to deal with it and get past it.

"In fact, the majority of men in the lifestyle will probably tell you that sharing their wife with another man is an act of love and devotion, enabling their spouse to experience things that are not possible in monogamy." Not us!!!! It's just not that complicated or spiritual. We like a bit of variety, we like orgasms and we like sharing them with friends. Our recreational sex has nothing to do with an act of love or devotion. It's FUN. The love and devotion is what we have at home when sex actually means something.

Greetings, In medical parlance, "indolent" is used to denote a situation that is slow-growing and not immediately problematic. In other words, something a patient 'lives with' but not a substantial threat or cause for discomfort. Most people with arthritis would be described as having a chronic condition, however owing to the pain it would not be described as indolent. Cold sores (herpes) would be described as chronic and recurrent. A small benign fatty tumor such as a lipoma is considered chronic and indolent: most people just live with them until they find their mere presence to be a nuisance. Hope this clarifies.