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It started this way for my wife and I. We persisted and became successful beyond any of our initial expectations. But here is the thing. Forget Craig's List completely. Web sites like SLS, SDZ, and SDC are useful but the very best way to get started is to meet people face-to-face at meet-n-greet events and swing club parties. Do not expect instantaneous results. But once you get to know the right people, they will introduce you to other people who will introduce you to other people. Persistence pays.

Wife likes the feeling of getting paid for sex. She told me it just turns her on to feel she is a paid escort. I like the idea too. It turns me on when I see her a paid bitch. What do you think guys? Feel free to comment on our pics. Cheers

We find a lot of people come up with colds and sore throats on the day that we are supposed to meet other on-line couples. Maybe it’s a bad flu season. Looking forward to going to Caliente in April and Alaska (lifestyle cruise) in June. More people, people who are swingers who are looking to play.

We are moderately experienced swingers and we have these events happen, too. It’s hard to find a four way match. Here’s an idea: try a club or resort or a cruise, if the funds and time permit. This way, you will be exposed to a multitude of couples and increase your odds of finding a good one. Also, if a couple or a member of a couple is not receptive, we move forward.We move to another couple. We had a couple of situations where we gave it a second chance and it worked, but usually not. Don’t give up. It’s tough to match and we’ve tried a lot. It’s (probably) not you! You don’t know what problems the other couple has. The failures to launch may have nothing to do with you. My thought: their loss. Next!

I know a bit about the BDSM scene. I seriously doubt if you are going to be playing with this Dom's wife!!! It doesn't work that way - unless you are supposedly going to be "her sub" too and in that case you will quickly find you are both his subs with her assisting him. I would veto and drop them like a hot brick. Look, use your brain. Your wife has been letting another man fuck her for 2 years already. You have not been getting any pussy yourself. You don't say much about that, but it sounds a lot like more of a Hotwife or cuckold situation than 3 way even if you don't realize it. Now she wants to basically take that a step further in a serious direction and you my friend are going to be left out in the cold. A Dom like that who wants to collar your wife to him immediately is not interested in any kind of swinging couples relationship. Think about it man, He's a Dom! He wants your wife as his sex slave. Part of that for him is taking her from you. He is not going to let you fuck his wife!! In fact very quickly part of his domination and control over your wife with be to force her to cut you off for sex altogether. If you guys move forward with this you are never going to get to a normal swinging relationship even if and when this one ever ends. She is already the one getting everything and you nothing. She is going to be letting other men fuck her and you will not get a sniff of any other women or a couples swing. You guys need to have a very serious and honest talk about what you both really want. And while you are at it, it's probably time to ditch the guy who has been doing her for the last 2 years if you haven't already (you did say "was with us"). BTW: The "us" is a little troubling too - are you bi? You don't really give much background on that relationship which might give some insight into why she wants to suddenly become someone else's sex slave.

Isn’t prostitution legal in Canada? It’s only soliciting that’s an issue. Figure out that business model.

We get it, your honey gets turned on by the whore image and so do you, but just be sure to play safe, entrapment is not unheard of. Play the game where prostitution is legal, that might be fun? Anyway great photo post. Ever think about a Faux Prostitute video on xvid or pornhub?

Wonderful, wonderful. This is very much the same way that my wife and I make our invitations. Much wisdom in what you say.

Kay-row…Cairo, either way, I totally agree about not playing in the Middle East excluding Israelis.

There are plenty of clubs in Houston. If you don't want to dabble close to home, take a weekend, head up I-10 to San Antonio and spend a couple of evenings at Players. We've NEVER had a bad night there.

This is why we don't waste a bunch of time with emails and texting. We try to set up dinner or drinks (with no play planned) to see if there is any interest. You will be able to tell more in 5 minutes than an eternity of email and texting. Just to let you know, there will be couples that you are totally into but will not be that into the two of you. Don't take it personally, just move on. It happens. Finding the 'right' couple, especially if you are looking for a four way match, is hard, but it is worth it when it happens. It's a numbers game so meet when everyone seems interested and don't take if personal if after meeting one or more aren't interested. Find the next couple and start again.

No, hell no. If everyone knows up front and all agree, taking your own pics or videos is fun, but leaving that in the hands of someone else, nope!

We tried the online thing. Too much flirting without any payoff. Lots of time spent trying to connect with couples then you they ghost. Finally got to a meet and greet with one couple. Their pics weren't all that representative and they confided that they had lied about their age with made them several years, not just a couple years, older. Not that age was a hang up for us but what else were they lying about? During the emailing phase we explained we were soft swap only if we were comfortable. At the meeting now they telling us that separate room full swap is their preference and why it's a better way to go... After that we ditched the sights we were on. We prefer an on-premise club. Most people are there to meet and play. You see what they look like. If they look like your type you can approach. If they are receptive you can talk a bit to see if there is a connection. If there isn't you can move on to another couple. You aren't stuck with them. We see some couples regularly at our club that are just there to watch or be watched. We know who they are and what they are there for. We still talk to them if they want to talk and we don't have any dashed expectations. The hardest part about a club, especially if you are both shy or introverts, is approaching people. On the internet it's easy. You send out a flirt and if you get a response you might have something. It's really not that much harder in person. Most people in the clubs are very receptive. A few aren't but they are stuck in the corner anyway. Just walk up and say "hi". A good opening line is for the woman to comment on the other woman's shoes, hair , dress, whatever. That usually breaks the ice.

If this was easy, everybody would be doing it. In many ways, swinging is worse than high school. Then, all you had to do was like the other person and ultimately decide how far you wanted to go in the back of a Plymouth. With swinging, you need some kind of 4-way connection and after that is established you need common ground on rules of engagement. Generally speaking, the venues are better than a Plymouth but everything else requires effort and thought and some degree of trial and error.

The late Mrs. Alura had this fantasy. She decided to try it on a trip to Las Vegas, where she thought (at the time) prostitution was legal. She learned it was NOT legal and abandoned the adventure. She decided it wasn't worth the risk. I put a hundred-dollar bill on the dresser that evening, which seemed to work just fine.

We voted "no way" We don't need that kind of exposure. It's bad enough trying not to be outed being in the LS, but we have made many private videos for each other or together. We make them, play them, and then earase them. Can't let the kids come across such videos.

I would be concerned to make sure that I had a release from the club that I own all rights to the video and that they and the camera operator forego any rights. Keep in mind that when it comes to photos and video the person who takes the pictures automatically owns the rights unless there is something in writing stating otherwise. Even with that in writing, someone could hang on to a copy and attempt to use it, leaving you to try to go after them for copyright infringement and by then it's too late. (Something to keep in mind even if you are just videotaping a session privately with another couple).

When I was 20 and 195lbs I probably would have. Not now. It would more than likely end up on National Geographic.