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The house party dynamic is always dicey. When we did house parties, we often saw couples splitting up--easier to find 1:1 than 2:2 matches. That doesn't get to what makes someone attractive--or not--at a party. What seems to matter most is how quickly and efficiently one can build a connection and establish interest. Introverts have to put on their extrovert faces, and extroverts often need to tone down their style. While it's true that the traditionally attractive folks are going to get some initial attention, that usually is insufficient to close the deal. What seems to matter the most are (a) confidence and (b) how you make your potential playmate feel about themselves. Bear in mind, a house party is a fantasy of sorts. People adopt personas that they would not use in ordinary life, and there is a distinct beginning and end to the party, much like Cinderella and the ball: if you're not playing by midnight, might as well pack it up and go home, etc. As for how you make your potential playmate feel about themselves, here is where the splitting can work to advantage. It's pretty easy to see the usual dynamic -- often there are dominant men who circle around "the most attractive woman" in the place. A glance around the room will reveal their significant others who have been to some extent abandoned. Strike up a conversation with one of them. It should be about them, not you. Listen to their comments, their feelings. The reason is simple. The outcome of "That most attractive woman" thing has only one (initial) male winner. If it happens to be (the lady you are talking to) spouse, she will be feeling vulnerable. More likely her husband will not be of interest to that "most attractive lady". Yet you have already endeared yourself to a potential playmate. There is some likelihood that your social graces puts you ahead even head and shoulders above-- the other men in the room : if she intends to play at all, she wants to be treated like the lady that she is. It is a truism that women run the lifestyle. It is not a truism that "Barbie" of "Ken and Barbie" is calling the shots--actually, it's all the rest of the ladies in the room.

I just read this on another site. "The sexiest curve a woman has is her smile" Yup!

Please take the travel warning seriously and avoid traveling to Mexico, I am trying to reserve at Desire and is fully booked for the next two months!!