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So you would like to host a swinger party at your house. A number of things you need to decide: - Invite only people you know? - Invite people you know, but perhaps allow them to invite another couple? - How many couples do you want to invite? - Invite people you don't know? - Do you have areas in the house appropriate for play? Do you need to purchase blow up mattresses, sheets, etc.? - Are there areas in your house you don't want people in (typically closed doors take care of that)? - Are you going to ask guests to bring a snack to share? Are you serving food? - Do you have accommodations (bed/air mattress/sheets/pillow) for some people to stay over if needed? Parties we host as well as attend are typically bring your own booze and condoms. We'll supply soft drinks, water, and usually a few bottles of wine. Window coverings...you don't want neighbors and passers-by looking in. Noise...keep windows closed. So of course first you need to invite people, not much of a party without that The invite list is hard to put together as 1) There will be a number of people that decline right away, or accept and don't wind up attending for some reason and 2) If you account for no shows and create a larger invite list, you may find that EVERYONE shows up so you need to make sure you have room. Here's how we prepare, your mileage may vary: - Clean clean clean. - Prep food, soft drinks, get ice, etc. - In each bathroom have mouthwash and disposable cups. - In each bathroom have a bundle of clean washcloths, and a bucket/basket to put the dirty cloths into. You can get washcloths pretty cheap a Wal-Mart, Target, etc. - In our upstairs bathroom have towels available in case anyone wants a shower. - Clear our areas where we as going to put blow up mattresses. For us that means moving a few coffee tables. - Put sheets or comforters on any beds that are used for play. - Have towels available in the play areas for covering the bed...for the wet spots! - We have a hot tub and ask people to bring towels, but will put out extras in case people forget. - Though people usually bring their own condoms we will put a few out here and there. After all of the guests have arrived, and people have been talking a bit, but before play, we go over any "rules", bathroom locations, play area locations, etc. The only "rules" we go over is no means no (especially if your spouse says it! lol) and areas of the house not to go in. A closed door on the bedroom means do not disturb. Since we may be outside in the hot tub, remind people that the neighbors are not that far away so avoid any sex sounds!

So, you want to swing. You’ve had all the discussions and you think now you’re ready. But wait, how do we get started actually finding people to have sex with us? You could always ask a close friend that you are comfortable with but this is not recommended by most. Some have had good luck with it and others have lost friends by even mentioning the fact that they are interested in exploring an alternative lifestyle. The two most popular ways are placing a personal ad on one of the many different adult ad sites on the internet and attending a swinger’s club or event. Both have their advantages and disadvantages. Geographic location also plays a part in which of these will work best for you. The club route: If you live in an area where there are clubs available this is a very good option to start meeting people with. Clubs come in many different forms...Off-premise, On-premise, Socials and Meet & Greets...you also have house parties in the mix but they are not something I would recommend for a newbie. Off-premise clubs are basically like any other night club you would attend, with the only difference being that everyone there is a swinger or is interested in becoming a swinger. They are great places for new people to check out the scene, interact with others and ask questions in a no pressure atmosphere. There is a sexually charged atmosphere, lots of dancing and talking and getting to know people. No sex occurs at an off-premise club, if you meet someone for playtime you have to leave the club and obtain a room or head out to someone’s house before play can occur. On-premise clubs are the same as off-premise with the exception that sex can and does happen on-premise. Usually in rooms that are provided specifically for playing, which range from private rooms to group rooms. Socials are basically like off-premise clubs, but are usually held at a hotel that has a large meeting room or ballroom, and are usually held only once a month. You will find dancing, socializing and lots of flirting going on. Sex does not occur at a Social but the advantage over an off-premise club is that you are only a walk away from a hotel room if you happen to meet someone for playtime. Meet and Greets are basically just a group of swingers who get together only for the purpose of meeting face to face for dinner and conversation. Hook-ups can and do occur but it’s not the main focus of a M&G. All of these have the advantage of getting to see the people you are meeting right away, there’s no waiting for pictures to be sent and no time between e-mails and/or phone calls trying to arrange a time that is convenient for all to meet. Play can and at times will occur the same night you meet someone, if everyone is in agreement. The disadvantages are that you can be overwhelmed at times with numerous people vying for your attention as well as having those you would rather not play with asking to play and then dealing with having to turn them down gracefully. The ad route: Ads are a way of meeting people when you don’t live in a place where there is a club close enough to visit and/or you’re just not a club type of person. By placing an ad you are able to spell out everything that you are interested in exploring. What type of people you enjoy spending time with, if you’re just looking for a one time hook-up or if you’re looking for long term play partners. When placing an ad you’re able to tell what type of experiences you have had, what type of experiences you want to have, what you like to do sexually and with whom you would like to do it with. You are also able to search ads and find people you are interested in and contacting them. One of the things that you will have to deal with when placing an ad is answering the responses you get. Some will be from people you might have no interest in. You will have to write back and let them know. Another possibility is that you might wind up playing tag with those that you are interested in trying to find the time to meet. Also, you will have to deal with those who are not really serious about swinging and those that will stand you up once a date has been made. No matter how you decide to meet people for sexual play, be it via the ad route or attending a club, you will only get out of it what you are willing to put into it. You must be able to put effort into your search. If you’re at a club get up and talk to people, don’t wait for them to come to you. If you have an ad out and you’re not getting the response you want, look it over and see what you can do to make it more appealing to others as well as looking for those you’re interested in and making the first move with contacting them. Always remember, there is no right or wrong way to go about it. Find the way you’re comfortable with and have fun in your adventure.

UPDATE: Well after last night were are now a full swap couple. It was AWESOME! So 2 weeks ago we had plans to visit Trapeze with our playmates. Unfortunetely J had a death in her family and they had to travel out of state. So my buddy and i rescheduled a vanilla date nite of bowling and drinks with a group of friends. Their babysitter fell thru at the last minute. Mrs 2b and i decided to hang out at the bowling alley for a little while, have a drink, and wait for our playmates kids to go to sleep. So we head over around 11.My buddy and I go to the garage to have some rum and a smoke while our wives were in the living room drinking wine and watching a movie. After a few shots we were all back in the living room finishing the movie. It's about 1am at this point and i know my wife really gets sleepy this time of night without stimulation so I'm thinking nothings going to happen at this point. Boy was i wrong. All of a sudden D goes over to his wife, pulls down her pants, and starts eating her out. This gets my wife's attention and she starts giving me head on the other sofa. After a few J brings my buddy oct and tells him to sit beside me. We are both laying back getting blowjobs for a couple minutes then J leans over to me, and starts sucking me. My wife switches places and starts giving D a bj. This was my first time making eye contact with my wife with another dick in her mouth. It was tough not to cum right then asty that site. Also J is very talented so that watt making it any easier. They gave us nough double blow jobs and then the girls started eating each other out while we watched. After they got each other off J came to me and my wife went to him. My wife and i are both giving oral. So while I'm eating J pussy, my wife turns around to join me between Js thighs. D sees this as his opportunity as my wife's magnificent ass i200ys pointed in the air, to go for. Next thing i know i see my wife getting entered from behind. J looks at her husband, pulls me up to her missionary, and i stuck my dick in as far as i could! So we stayed at it for about 15 minutes with each other's wives and went back to finish with our own spouses. Somewhere in there Mrs2b got her MFM as well. Overall it was the most thrilling sexual experience I've ever had. All of us for that matter after chatting today with them. It felt surprisingly comfortable, effortless even. All the trepidation i had leading up to the event went away immediately. Like jumping right into cold water instead off wading. I guess that worked for me. My wife is my superstar. I feel so hot for this woman words can't describe it accurately. She mentioned this morning that this lifestyle was a longtime fantasy of hers. Well it did blow my mind, hers as well and we feeling right at home here. So we'll be sticking around. Thanx for any advice given

This site was set up as a discussion forum not as a hook up site. That is why there is no easy way to search for people in your area or with your likes/dislikes. With that said, people have hooked up through here.

I think it costs $49 to be a paid member. You want to swing, but you can’t cough up$49 to meet people? Cannot figure it out!

I have often said this. We receive a message from a so-called "free" profile and it leaves us wondering, who is going to pick up the tip from the restaurant table after out first meeting.

Welcome to this board. How about you, what answers would you give to your own questions?

Thumbs up to SW_PA_Couple! I'm kind of confused about "rules" since the premise is that you are there to swing/share/swap. I'm guessing that an arrangement has been made to meet somewhere with people you've never met before. Of course you wouldn't want to get involved with people you are not attracted to. I would suggest a meet with people you are comfortable with by e-mail or phone or the best way is to meet before in a non sexual encounter like dinner and drinks first. Then I might suggest some "rules" like if the woman doesn't like anal then no anal or if she doesn't like to swallow give her a heads up etc. I guess the only rule would be #1. BE RESPECTFUL.

Been there, done that. Once, I was on top, reverse cowgirl and had a husband and wife doing the licking. The other time it was as you described, doggy style with the guy underneath while his wife and I took care of my husband's needs. Come to think of it, both scenarios have been repeated several times. E