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Comments from people that don't understand are always nice. We found that if we were very active, such as spring to early summer, we would start to get the 'same ol' feeling, even with new lovers. Limiting our activities to once every couple months, talking about stuff during sex and maintaining an active home sex life all added to the newness and excitement of a lover. At first, I thought I could do this every day and never lose interest. Over stimulation becomes stimulation becomes an activity etc.

Try a different scene. Cruise, Desire, Caliente. Or meet new people. Or take a break.

...and dispite popular beliefs, prostitution (or escorts) are not legal in Clark county (where LV is located).

So, you want to swing. You’ve had all the discussions and you think now you’re ready. But wait, how do we get started actually finding people to have sex with us? You could always ask a close friend that you are comfortable with but this is not recommended by most. Some have had good luck with it and others have lost friends by even mentioning the fact that they are interested in exploring an alternative lifestyle. The two most popular ways are placing a personal ad on one of the many different adult ad sites on the internet and attending a swinger’s club or event. Both have their advantages and disadvantages. Geographic location also plays a part in which of these will work best for you. The club route: If you live in an area where there are clubs available this is a very good option to start meeting people with. Clubs come in many different forms...Off-premise, On-premise, Socials and Meet & Greets...you also have house parties in the mix but they are not something I would recommend for a newbie. Off-premise clubs are basically like any other night club you would attend, with the only difference being that everyone there is a swinger or is interested in becoming a swinger. They are great places for new people to check out the scene, interact with others and ask questions in a no pressure atmosphere. There is a sexually charged atmosphere, lots of dancing and talking and getting to know people. No sex occurs at an off-premise club, if you meet someone for playtime you have to leave the club and obtain a room or head out to someone’s house before play can occur. On-premise clubs are the same as off-premise with the exception that sex can and does happen on-premise. Usually in rooms that are provided specifically for playing, which range from private rooms to group rooms. Socials are basically like off-premise clubs, but are usually held at a hotel that has a large meeting room or ballroom, and are usually held only once a month. You will find dancing, socializing and lots of flirting going on. Sex does not occur at a Social but the advantage over an off-premise club is that you are only a walk away from a hotel room if you happen to meet someone for playtime. Meet and Greets are basically just a group of swingers who get together only for the purpose of meeting face to face for dinner and conversation. Hook-ups can and do occur but it’s not the main focus of a M&G. All of these have the advantage of getting to see the people you are meeting right away, there’s no waiting for pictures to be sent and no time between e-mails and/or phone calls trying to arrange a time that is convenient for all to meet. Play can and at times will occur the same night you meet someone, if everyone is in agreement. The disadvantages are that you can be overwhelmed at times with numerous people vying for your attention as well as having those you would rather not play with asking to play and then dealing with having to turn them down gracefully. The ad route: Ads are a way of meeting people when you don’t live in a place where there is a club close enough to visit and/or you’re just not a club type of person. By placing an ad you are able to spell out everything that you are interested in exploring. What type of people you enjoy spending time with, if you’re just looking for a one time hook-up or if you’re looking for long term play partners. When placing an ad you’re able to tell what type of experiences you have had, what type of experiences you want to have, what you like to do sexually and with whom you would like to do it with. You are also able to search ads and find people you are interested in and contacting them. One of the things that you will have to deal with when placing an ad is answering the responses you get. Some will be from people you might have no interest in. You will have to write back and let them know. Another possibility is that you might wind up playing tag with those that you are interested in trying to find the time to meet. Also, you will have to deal with those who are not really serious about swinging and those that will stand you up once a date has been made. No matter how you decide to meet people for sexual play, be it via the ad route or attending a club, you will only get out of it what you are willing to put into it. You must be able to put effort into your search. If you’re at a club get up and talk to people, don’t wait for them to come to you. If you have an ad out and you’re not getting the response you want, look it over and see what you can do to make it more appealing to others as well as looking for those you’re interested in and making the first move with contacting them. Always remember, there is no right or wrong way to go about it. Find the way you’re comfortable with and have fun in your adventure.

So, there I am, at our local swingers club... sitting in a chair, my wife across from me. Her tits are out, her ass is in the air and the dick of a rather nice man we had struck up a good rapport with is in her mouth. And I am bored. Bored, bored, BORED! There was a time when this sight would have made me hard enough to pound nails. There was a time when the very idea of this would have driven me wild. There I was, limp, bored, actually wondering what the next episode of Altered Carbon had in store. I got up, tapped my wife on the shoulder and suggested that it was getting late. I told her that she should go ahead and finish up, but I would meet her in the "public" room. She actually joined me only minutes later and admitted that she'd been bored too. We went home, curled up on the couch and watched that episode. We didn't even consider having sex. WTF is wrong with me? Maybe it was the night. Maybe I just wasn't into it. Maybe I'm just getting jaded. I don't know.

Assuming your post is legit, the Red Rooster is a lot of fun. All different types of couples and singles. You should be able to find what you want there.

Question for you, Lionheart. When you were planning to go out, were you excited at that point? Or were you thinking to yourself, "Oh, another night at the swing club? boring." If it's the latter, yeah, you need to take a break for awhile, until you get that jazzed feeling back. If it's the former, you need to mix it up. Try something new. Best of luck!

Do not forget to use slip covers on all good furniture. it is very hard to get some stains out of a silk sofa. Deb

It works... Not as fast as he would like. It's most obvious looking at pics. He was close to 7" long and 5 around. He's 8" plus by 6"ish now. It's bigger. He wants 10" plus and I don't think that's going to happen. There's fancy water pumps, weights to hang, oiling it up and rubbing it hard and god knows what else. Maybe it he started at 20 and not 40 he'd have something by now. I'm honestly worried he's going to pop a vein