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My wife and I have been nudists since 1973. We are usually at least partially nude at all time around the house. I have shot a great number of fine-art nudes of my wife over the years and have started posting them on Flickr. My wife and I have also both posed nude for figure drawing and figure photography sessions. For a few years my wife was a nude model at a university where I taught. We have also been interviewed as nudists for local newspapers in Maryland.

We were excited when we first planned it, but by the time we got to the day of I think we were both just going because we'd arranged the sitter and made the plans and etc, etc, etc. As for mixing it up... I'm not sure what's "up" at this point. We swing. We've done group sex, same room, separate room, those kinks that interest us. I'm not entirely sure where we can go from here... but it will be an interesting conversation of us to have.

Where to begin? First of all: all of our homework and preparation for Hedo was worth it. We weren't shocked by anything that we saw there around the pool. We also fit right in with the group we went with, even though we weren't as wild as some of them were. We hung out with them and laughed, drank, and told stories the whole time. My wife and I deepened our connection with each other and it was absolutely wonderful to spend time with her around the clock with no kids and no responsibilities. The first night we were there we were approached by a couple. They were relatively new like us. We had some drinks, hung out in the hot tub, and wound up in the open air play room. Neither of us anticipated going this fast into debauchery, but we had good chemistry and they accepted our boundaries. We started off side by side with our spouses. Somewhere in the middle the other wife rolled over and started kissing all over my wife and BAM.... she had her first girl on girl experience. She was surprised how much she enjoyed it. The rest of the experience was just touching, feeling, and being with our own spouse. The second night we met up with the same couple and went back to our room. About 3/4 of the experience was good, but it seemed a little off this time. Rather than be about the two ladies, it seemed like the husband was quick to transition to my wife. At one point we all thought he was about to 'go for it' in terms of penetration and I stopped everything and reminded him we weren't doing that. So we resumed. Well.... a few minutes later (I find out afterwards) he desperately whispered twice into her ear to 'let me fuck you'. It was so low that I couldn't hear it, and neither could his wife. I could sense something was up though...I really don't know how. It was the way he was kissing her -- like he was almost a little too much into her. When we were done the other wife got up and got them the hell out of there very abruptly. I think she sensed something too. The rest of the trip we exchanged passing niceties but didn't really hang out with them. Very very weird. Overall the trip was fantastic! The aforementioned experience did nothing but strengthen the communication bonds between us. I have to admit that I was surprised that her sounds of pleasure didn't bother me at all, but seeing him kissing her like that did. Remember that boundary that everyone says usually gets tossed out first? I'm not sure I can toss it. At least I have to think about it some more. My wife didn't get to see me kiss the other wife so she's not sure if it would bother her or not, but she definitely knows that it would bother her to see me have intercourse with another woman. If she knows that without us trying it -- then we definitely do NOT need to try it. Trust your gut! What has happened to us over the past two months: -- we now openly talk about sex to each other, and we do it a lot. Before she didn't really want to talk about it unless we were having sex at that moment. -- she has discovered that she is a bit of an exhibitionist. She didn't want to have sex in the daytime at the pool (understandable), but she LOVES to do it in the playroom. We will be extending our membership at the Trapeze in Atlanta. -- she has discovered that girl on girl in the right situation with the right girl is totally hot, and she likes it. Our adjusted boundaries based on what we have learned: -- girl on girl is a yes. In fact we think for us it should kind of center on that and the husbands just touch and feel -- intercourse is out. We are a soft swap couple methinks. That's ok. That first night went just about perfect for us. -- kissing is out for now. I don't know if it was the situation or not but it made me uncomfortable. Thoughts? could it have just been the situation? -- the wife of any couples should be highly self confident and own a room when she enters it. That might sound strange but we think it could save some intimidation for the couple of my wife's very energetic and confident personality I'm sure I'll think of more and will follow up. Thoughts? Suggestions? Questions?

I never had that problem with my wife - if she found the guy attractive, that was good enough for me. Since I almost always asked her why she found that particular guy attractive, I had a good idea of what floated her boat. Every once in awhile she surprised me, but that was fine by me.

It's very easy to fall into the cuckold thing from here unless very clear boundaries are set and enforced. It is actually much easier for you to learn more about becoming her Dom than allowing someone else to assume that role. We would steer clear of allowing another person to take the place you should be in (as her first and foremost).

Ok people... This next week or so is about to get crazy. We are meeting a couple on Saturday (second meeting-first was just dinner) to have drinks and do some dancing the night before our flight leaves for Hedo for the week. So Saturday night we are staying in the same hotel and seeing where it leads. Then we go off to Hedo until Friday. It's about to get real.

Hopefully we won't completely vanish off the face of the planet like the orgy couple a month back.

I would respectfully disagree. I would define swinging as including a married or committed couple (even if one doesn't choose to participate.) If both people in a sexual act are not in a committed relationship, I would define it as 'hooking up,' or 'casual sex.'