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When the kids were young teens, we'd leave them at home for a few hours while we'd have a date night. The first couple of times we came home the kids were still up and watching tv, the shep wanted attention and needed a walk, there were phone messages and dishes in the sink. The frisky mood dinner had instilled in my ex-wife rapidly dissipated and we'd end up going to bed dis-satisfied and not a little grumpy. So, one Friday night, after a really nice meal and a bottle of champagne (those bubbles were the only thing I ever discovered that nearly always made her clothes fall off). We pulled off on to a road leading to a clearing in a state game land. We kissed and laughed a bit and I got a couple of buttons undone on her blouse, enough to see a bit of boob encased in black lace. We played for a bit but the console of the 73 Grand Prix got in the way so I suggested the back seat. She quickly agreed (I was surprised) so I came around to the passenger door and opened it. She stood up and slipped into my arms and we started to kiss. I ran my hand up under the back of her dress and under her panties, fondling her ass for awhile and eventually sliding her panties off with surprisingly no objection. Kissing all the while (that woman could KISS), I finished unbuttoning her blouse and reached around to unhook her bra and found her pink nipples hard as pebbles. I slowly removed her blouse and bra and there was my proper Methodist wife, the mother of two teenage daughters, standing in the woods with her nice 34b's aroused and exposed. As I started on her skirt, she stopped me and I thought the fun was over. But once again, she surprised me. She pushed me back a step and said, "I don't want to drop this on the ground". Holding onto me with one hand, she removed her skirt and was standing naked in just her sensible wedges. I was further amazed when she turned her back to me and neatly folded the skirt. I hastily dropped my pants without care for the ground and as she bent into the car to put the dress on the seat, I got an enticing view of her firm ass and her moist pussy trimmed in light reddish-gold hair. I couldn't resist and slipped my dripping hard cock into her. Again, I was surprised when she moaned and thrust back at me. We were naked in the woods at twilight on a warm June evening in Pa and I'm fucking my wife from behind. I thought it couldn't get much better but it did. She disengaged, folded the front seat forward and climbed into the back seat placing her left foot on the back of the console and lying there open and smilingly inviting. We fucked in the car with the dome light on (another surprise) and it took no time before we had both had cum. Completely out of character, she wasn't done. She want me to go down on her which I did to another orgasm. By that time, I was stirring a bit so she sucked me (usually reserved for my birthday treat or our Christmas Eve fuck which, interestingly enough, ALWAYS involved champagne). Once I was hard again, she then climbed on top and inserted my dick back inside her and slowly fucked us both to another orgasm. When she finally rolled off an nestled up against me she said quietly, "I wish we had a little more champagne". Epilogue: Those things happened less and less frequently until, like a long opened bottle of champagne, our marriage fizzled out. I wonder if she ever thinks of that night and the couple of similar nights that followed that summer.

It is important that when you go out to meet other swingers in person (whether at a club or on a date with just one other couple) that you bring your “A” game and that both of you are in top form. If you’ve been fighting or are having a really bad day then you may want to reschedule the meeting, unless you can find a way to put all of that behind you. If the vibes between you as a couple are bad, couples that you meet will pick up on that. When you do go out, do so without any expectations of what the night may bring. If you’ve seen pictures of the other couple you plan to meet, then you are justified in expecting them to look reasonably like their pictures. Overall, the fewer expectations that you have, of the couples you meet or of the night overall, the more likely you are to enjoy the evening. Also, keep in mind that you are to some degree responsible for the expectations of others. In other words, if you have given them some reason to expect certain things, then beware. Unless you know for a fact that you intend to have sex with them that night, do not give them any reason to expect it. If you don’t look reasonably like your own pictures then don’t be surprised when they walk out on you before dinner arrives. Keep the alcohol to a minimum. In all swinging encounters, whether first meeting or not, you should keep alcohol consumption to a minimum. There is nothing wrong with having one or two drinks as you might normally when you are out for an evening, but be careful not to over-indulge, as this is probably the number one cause of regrets when it comes to swinging. Even if you don’t end up playing you don’t want to come off as someone who doesn’t know their limits or who can’t handle their alcohol. Remember to exercise discretion when meeting other swingers in public places. Just because you are there to establish whether or not there is a mutual interest in having sex together, does not mean that the entire restaurant needs to know about your past escapades or experiences. While you may choose to be open about your lifestyle choice, most swingers are not. So keep the sex talk to a minimum (and a very low decibel) until you are in a private place. There are a million other things you can discuss when you first meet, so try to focus on those rather than strictly on sex. You will be nervous, but just remember so are they. Your first meeting with another couple is a lot like a blind date, except now there are three or four of you who have to hit it off. Take it in stride and remember to bring your sense of humor. I would suggest having your first meeting at a restaurant, coffee shop or bar; someplace public, but quiet enough that you can easily talk to and hear one another. You may want to opt for a bar or coffee shop to have a little more control over how much time you have to spend with them, in case you don’t enjoy their company.

We have been swinging for 15 years and have found that nearly all the rules we first had have disappeared including the MUST wear condom rule. We do insist upon condoms on the few occasions a year when we go to a club where, in the heat of the moment, in a group, selectivity may be impacted. At clubs, we always use condoms and will walk away if a guy even tried to slip it in bareback. That has led to a few tense moments. With good friends or at parties where we know and trust the host, we go bareback. Mrs Doc loves the different feel of each uncovered cock as it enters her. As for cumming, she absolutely knows when an uncovered dick cums in her and it often sets off another orgasm for her. I much prefer the feeling of thrusting deeply into my partner as I cum inside her. Its way more stimulating, intimate and satisfying than cumming in a latex tube.

Regardless of how much discussion has gone into the idea of swinging beforehand, one of the most common worries that a couple faces is the green-eyed monster. They worry “what if...?” What if I can’t handle seeing my husband kissing another woman? What if I get jealous at my wife paying attention to another man? What if everything else seems fine, but I lose it when I see her having sex with someone else? Won’t it be too late to go back at that point? Can we possibly undo that kind of damage? The key to dealing with jealousy is being secure in who you are and in your relationship. In trusting yourself and your partner and in knowing that at any time you can walk away from this lifestyle and all that it entails. No one is 100% secure in whom they are, so there is always a small risk of jealousy occurring. Jealousy is a perfectly normal emotion that can come in many forms. It is an emotional response to the fear of losing something or to someone else having something that we want. The key to dealing with jealousy is to understand what you are risking and just how much of a risk you are taking. Having a strong relationship based on communication and trust will go a long way to helping you deal with any jealous feelings that you may encounter. Jealousy is based in insecurity. It is the feeling that you could easily be replaced and it can take many forms; anger at seeing the one you love do things to someone else; anger that they are taking away from the specialness of your relationship; and worry that your partner might be enjoying something with someone else more than they enjoy it with you. Jealousy can also take the form of feeling left out, feeling that your partner is having more fun or enjoying swinging more than you. The key to dealing with any feelings of jealousy is communication. Make sure that your partner knows and feels that they are the most important person in your life and that no one will replace them. If you feel there is some special touch or action that should only be yours as a couple then make it only yours as a couple. Some couples find kissing to be too intimate to share with others, so they develop a “no kissing” rule. Other couples are ok with everything except having sex with other couples, so they stick with “soft swinging”. Many issues related to jealousy can be dealt with before they even appear by dealing with the worries before they become issues. Other times you may not even think about a jealousy issue until it has popped up in your face. Just remember, there is nothing you can’t work out together through communication. Of course, if you don’t communicate the problems will only grow worse. The best thing you can do is bring up the issue as soon as you feel it. If you feel yourself getting jealous about something stop and talk about it, even if it means you stop in the middle of what would have been your first swinging encounter. Your relationship is more important than any swinging encounter will ever be.

Wow, looking back at my original post on here I did eventually run into my ex-girlfriend and one of the couples from church at the klub. Alas, the lovely woman from work moved back to India. Sometimes I think, who needs fantasy when my reality is this hot.

I've often wondered.... surely, somewhere out there in the swinging universe, sometime, a single guy has masqueraded as a couple and made a date with another couple, planning the old bait and switch, only to turn up for the date to find... another guy with exactly the same plan. If it has happened, how perfect! And if it hasn't- well, it should!