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A dinner is about getting to know each other and, hopefully, allowing attraction to grow. It's not about feeding everybody. If possible, sit at a square table with the men opposite each other. This gives the best interaction. If you don't want to feel bloated after dinner, eat less. Perhaps a salad? Good luck and have fun!

We like to meet people for a vanilla dinner if we have not met them before. If we invite a couple over to our house, we have drinks and light snacks, then play, then go out to dinner. If it is bitter cold or we feel we have a just f’d look, we’ll make dinner at home. A LS friend advised us on this order. He said you don’t want food sloshing around when you are having sex.

Sometimes group sex is simply fodder for a couple's time alone. Really, swinging in general is no more than an extension of couple sex. If it's hot to think about it, if your sex drive goes up during the hunt, if the anticipation causes tingles, then the goal is met. Group sex is icing, and as sweet as you want to make it.

Encounters during group sex tend to be fast and furious. Fast does not allow the time that is needed for reaching orgasm. But let me ask? Why are you equating orgasm to success? If you are having fun during your group sex, could you consider that sufficient?

We have not frequented the clubs for lack of anything local but have attended swinger events within our traveling distance. It seems to be more common for her to receive more of the attention from the males but somehow I have had better play results with my limited connections. We have the rule of asking each other as a courtesy and that takes away any finger pointing and tension that could arise later. In fact we both know that we are free to be present if the other finds any playtime. Nothing to hide, just getting pleasure from seeing our partner getting pleasure. Took a gazillion heart to heart talks to get to that point.