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Let's fuck then go to dinner maybe go another round later for dessert.

Well, it depends on your rules, what the two of you together want. Certainly a subject you should discuss before you get there. Normally, at a club, my wife and I rarely played alone, and then only with specific permission. Normally, we'd find a couple. If that didn't work, we'd go off and have sex with ourselves. That in itself is pretty sexy. Every once in awhile, we'd find a guy for her and have an MFM threesome. (We weren't into FMF threesomes.) At clubs, it's assumed widely that you'll play together. But, what if she finds someone she wants to play with, and you don't? Well, either give her permission, or don't. Your choice. Like I said, this should be agreed beforehand. And if she has the permission to play solo, you should have it as well. Now these rules didn't apply to house parties, where we always assumed we'd split off. Totally different vibes in our experience.

All of the above is sage advise; and also, greasy, fatty foods lessen the impact of viagra, so. We tend to eat light before a session. And we won't have dinner with a couple or single we're just meeting - it gets too long if that first reaction is 'oh, my god . . .', we'll just have drinks.

Dinner to meet and get to know a cpl before a play date is set....plus you get time to discuss with your so prior. I personally wouldn't eat a full meal before but that's just me.

@NCfromVA Some additional suggestions: Join the Desire Resort Forums and read the trip reports, add yourselves to the "When are you arriving..." forum for June, and look to see if there is a online group (yahoo etc) you can join for the time you are there. Ditto on going with no expectations, it's a delightful, sexy week in paradise, and anything beyond that is gravy. Regardless of whether we play with others, we always return refreshed and with our relationship recharged.

We like to meet people for a vanilla dinner if we have not met them before. If we invite a couple over to our house, we have drinks and light snacks, then play, then go out to dinner. If it is bitter cold or we feel we have a just f’d look, we’ll make dinner at home. A LS friend advised us on this order. He said you don’t want food sloshing around when you are having sex.

We have not frequented the clubs for lack of anything local but have attended swinger events within our traveling distance. It seems to be more common for her to receive more of the attention from the males but somehow I have had better play results with my limited connections. We have the rule of asking each other as a courtesy and that takes away any finger pointing and tension that could arise later. In fact we both know that we are free to be present if the other finds any playtime. Nothing to hide, just getting pleasure from seeing our partner getting pleasure. Took a gazillion heart to heart talks to get to that point.

The first reaction to learning something like this is usually a knee jerk judgement. Our vanilla conditioning reacts like ninja training. Fortunately, she has had awhile to mull this over. The human in her will start to think about swinging, free, open sex. Curiosity will reign over contempt unless she is a total bible thumper or mega-prude. My suggestion, when or if she approaches you..own it.

As a single bi woman, why not? I like men. I like women. A couple that finds me attractive? Win Win.