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I am still exploring and learning about my bi side. Normally I woul give a funny answer to this question. Is there any bad oral sex? My answer is if I was the only one who gave you oral a year or so ago the answer would have been yes. I was very hesitant. I should have been better by just doing what I want someone to do to me. It should have been easier than the first time I gave a blow job. I only knew what I saw in porn and by instinct. It took practice to get better. I think not all of the oral my females have been great. Some have been. Oral sex like all sex can get better when your partner understands what you like.

Just a thought, anything you attempt in life you first must be taught how to do what you’re attempting. You’re taught how to drive a car, read a book, use a computer, and the list goes on into infinity. In this society the only education we receive regarding sex is from porn and trial an error. Most of us think we know what we’re doing, but the truth is that’s just an assumption, and you know what they say about assuming anything. Luckily for me I met the woman that became my wife fifty years ago and she took pity on me by teaching me how to please her. Also, the lifestyle was an excellent teacher, any time she was with another person that sent her into mass ecstasy, as soon as I could I found out how they accomplished that and place whatever they did into my repertoire of techniques. So, to answer your question, I don’t think it’s a male or female question, other than two people of the same sex in which most often the use of what one finds pleasurable is what they use on the other, it’s a question of being taught how to please the person you’re with. Being a pleasurable and talented sex partner is an acquired talent, the person that takes the time and effort to learn how to give pleasure is the best lover.

We have a mixed marriage. Atheist and agnostic.

Though I am fine being in the same room being alone with another man is a completely different experience. I think the first time I saw my husband with someone there was a very strange feeling and I was the one who pushed for it. He didn’t want to have sex at first. He was happy to watch me and my girlfriend. I needed him to do it for some crazy reason. He was very hesitant. He thought I would be upset. To me not wanting to watch is a normal reaction if it’s the way you feel. It is one of the humps you need to accept if you want to swing.

Sometimes group sex is simply fodder for a couple's time alone. Really, swinging in general is no more than an extension of couple sex. If it's hot to think about it, if your sex drive goes up during the hunt, if the anticipation causes tingles, then the goal is met. Group sex is icing, and as sweet as you want to make it.