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This is true. Even this site, which is the closest thing to free public service you will find in swinging sites, is certainly not free to run. So, we run ads, because, there is no free ride on the internet. Yeah, you can get one of those $4.95 shared server hosting plans and use some pocket change to put up a little site, and then watch that thing melt down when all your hard work pays off and you finally do start attracting a little traffic, which will then promptly disappear when the site loads at a snail's pace or not at all. There have been several new nice modern personals sites come along over the last several years. About half of them are still around, and those that are seem to be barely hanging on. "Build it and they will come" just doesn't work as a short term strategy. To have any hope of success at all, you've got to build it and then have the patience and resources to hang on for a long very slow climb. The analogy I use is would you rather go grocery shopping at a nice new shiny store with nearly empty shelves, or an older store with shelves full of good food? I'll take the second, which is why the older sites are still at the top of the heap - they've got the swingers, and they know it.

A problem for sure, which is what you might expect when mixing LifeStyle and vanilla relationships. I think I'd have a talk with him. Either he needs to keep his hands off your wife (and vice versa) or he needs to confess to his girlfriend.

Not sure why so many people refuse to pay for SLS. What does it cost, $49? I am sympathetic to the plight of those less economically advantaged than we are, but if you want to participate in this hobby, you may have to participate in (minimally) underwriting the means of communication. We have little interest in meeting free members. It shows a lack of commitment.

It’s more than frowned upon. I would say that many swingers are there. Smart people know that it’s easy to gosome other place after. Have you ever seen overt sex at the shore? We are there to have a fun day just that we do it without clothes

We go to Gunnison regularly. Overt sex is frowned upon and you may get arrested. But we have met swing partners there. We go back to a hotel or residence.

Maybe owing to the fact that there are very few practical alternatives.

Can you not just send an SLS message to them? Perhaps they could reply to you using SLS messages. But, of course, if either you or they are non-paying members you would not be able to use SLS messages.

If you don’t like it, don’t use it. If you use it, pay for it to support it and let the owners make it better. There is no free ride. They are a business, not a personal benefit for users.

We bought a lifetime membership on SLS a lifetime ago, so I'm not sure what their prices are these days, but I'd guess it ain't that damn much. If you had success as a free member, then throw the site owners a bone and buy a membership. You'll help them and you'll probably be even more successful.

If it worked for you just become a paid member. It’s not an outrageous price. A drink at a club is more.

My husband says if she asks I should say yes we do and see how she reacts. His best friend knows and has enjoyed being invited to join us. I think my husband just wants her to know so we can ask her to join us

We'll do this when we are looking for someone new. She will go into the bar by herself. I'll wait a few minutes and then go in. I'll sit away from her and pretend I don't know her. We'll wait for guys to start flirting with her. Sometimes it's a hit. Sometimes it's a miss. She'll look at me and let me know if she is interested. I'll go over and pretend like I'm competing for her affection. You'll be surprised how many drunk men are willing to share her with me. Sometimes a long conversation will reveal that I'm her her husband willing to share her. We have never had any man being repulsed by that idea. There have been many disappointing adventures where there are either no men flirting with her or the men flirting with her are to unattractive too consider having sex with.

We never tried the bar experience, picked up the guy either on SLS or at a club. But I'm curious. What would happen if the husband was hanging out at the bar, watching her flirt, and she gets some interest. Then she could say, "I'm into you. I'm a little kinky. Are you kinky?" If he doesn't run away after that, they spend some time talking about kinks. Then she says, "Well, here's my kink. My husband loves to watch me in bed with another guy. He's not gay or anything, just likes to watch. We've tried it a few times, had a really great time. How'd you like to have a great time with me tonight?" Nice and easy, sneak up on it. Do you think it would work?