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We like parties as described above By Chocc. Its kind of an all you can eat sex buffet.We tend not to wonder off to different rooms but are ok if it happens. We LOVE when there are limited beds and so each room turns into a little orgy. We attended one a month ago, 8 couples, late 50's to early 60's in an upscale home and we had a blast! 6 of the couples stayed in one room, 2 others were in the other and there was some individual switching off of rooms. In the end, I boinked 2 women, and went down on 3, got my cock sucked by 3 (one to completion). Mrs Doc boinked 5 guys, blew 2 others, got fingered orgasm by one of the women and finally blew the biggest dick in the place till he came on her tits. We left tired, sticky (she was anyway)and very satisfied and had a LOT to talk about the next day by the pool. There is another party in May…we're counting the days. This was different from one of those parties where someone throws open their house, advertises on SLS and charges admission. Here, we knew several of the couples including the hosts and those we didn't know were known to another of the guest couples. The first time we attended, we were assured that each couple were perfectly safe, had no weird kinks and were comfortable in same room or separate and that they all played well with others. Turned out to be absolutely accurate. Maybe OP, the group or the group dynamic doesn't fit into your comfort level. Mrs Doc says "If I want a one on one swap, we'll meet a couple from SLS or SDC for drinks and go from there. At a party I like a pile of bodies and a smorgasbord of playmates to choose from." Damn!! I LOVE that woman!!!!

This couple didn't end up working out with us. We found a new couple not long after I posted this thread. They are amazing people, and it's turned into so much more than swinging. We met them for the first time, alittle over a month ago, and connected with then instantly. It's been intense! We've spent time with them every weekend since we started chatting, and even took a roadtrip to Galveston last weekend. We were sure we wanted friends with benefits, but we've all come to the conclusion that this is a poly relationship. It's not what we were looking for, but it's what we found, and it's wonderful!

We have gone to parties where it’s not a one for one swap. Some parties threesomes are big. It hasn’t happened that Mike was alone. If I saw him by himself I would most likely motion for him to join in. I trust him and he trusts me. I know he has gone to a room for fun and so have I.

I have been thinking about your question since I first posted. Just saying that I have no problem didn't really answer you. I used to have a jealousy problem, this is before swinging. During the time of transition from Vanilla to swing I owned that my wife was not a THING (wife ) that I owned, but a PERSON (WIFE) who gives herself to me freely. So much of what most of us learned growing up was the possessiveness of relationships. MY boyfriend , MY girlfriend etc. We were taught that this was the good and human way to be. When we step outside of that training, I can see how one turns around to check if they are right in proceeding. Giving up the ownership idea freely was a good thing for our relationship. I did have to convince my wife that I was not crazy and was serious when I gave her a no strings attached green light. I was not certain that I would maintain on that path until the first time that I saw her with another man. I was very happy with myself that I could enjoy her joy. The end result is that the bad remnants of the ownership mentality are gone. Along with them went many of the subtle poisons of ownership that had been dysfunctions of which we had been unaware. ( Small example: Each of us expecting something because it was owed not joyfully receiving what was freely given. I think this is what most people refer to as "the rut") For us we have fallen back into courting behaviour, without the uncertainties of courting.

Well many of us men like watching our wives with another male getting pleasured so... not sooooo weird.

That is our most fun thing to do. Sky gets on the bottom and the other man takes me from behind. if I am lucky, I can suck another man at the same time. Sky likes it because when the man cums in me he can clean me up and all I have to do is sit up. Deb.

Congratulations! You have clearly described a common pathway in the LS. From the outside looking in (aka vanillas, interesteds, just about to dip the toe, breathless reporters,.. )the LS is all about sex. That's what is talked about, envied, disparaged, ... From the inside looking out, the LS is all about your primary relationship with your spouse or S/O, and how that journey unfolds. For a few in the LS, it really is "all about sex". For many others, it is about building relationships with like-minded couples. The friendship piece really does matter. Trust, intimacy, honesty in a space where no one is embarrassed to be having fun\. Compare that to the issues of ordinary life.

I've had my husband lick me while another man is pounding me. I agree that it is a great feeling, and I usually come very quickly.

All the bi guys we know are respectful in that if your straight - they don't come on to you. Having said that, there has been a few DP's we had a "oops" moment where some dick has touched the other one while lining up the girl lol It's not a worry in our book even though I'm straight.

My husband is similar in the sense that he's not attracted to another male but he enjoys bisexual acts during sex. We have played with plenty of straight people and we respect their preferences. He has never grabbed any part of another male knowing that he plays straight. I can't speak for others, but it's not an uncontrollable urge. Just like other fetishes, it's simply a matter of not doing it if the other partners are not into it.

Couple N Ark wrote: What I find most interesting is that so many men admit to not having a problem doing this. In most all of the other threads that suggest any male/male contact the consensus by most men is NO...NO WAY. I think it's all in one's mind, Couple N Ark. Since the focus is on the pleasure of the woman, any contact between the two men is of no importance. At least that's the way I feel. Mr. Alura