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We host parties and try to keep an even number of men and women. That means if we invite a single guy, we invite a single girl. We realize that a cancellation at the last minute is always a possibility so the single guy is always someone that we know is respectful. We only invite about 8 couples and it has never been a problem. Single guys are not a problem, per se, it's the way they handle themselves. If they are respectful, they are respected!

Oh, please!! No human can cum half a liter that's a huge exaggeration!! That's just over a US pint!! You would be hard pressed to piss that much. (Trust me, I know all about bladder size and workings having had green light laser prostate surgery and my urologist and I have had several conversations about the subject of ejaculation since the surgery can result in retrograde ejaculation - it goes the wrong way into the bladder - no big deal compared the alternative.) According to the WHO the average human ejaculation is about 3 ml- just under 2/3 of a teaspoon. Hyperspermia - exceptionally large ejaculations - is defined as anything over 5.5 ml or just over a teaspoon. Men and circumstances differ but the total range can be up to 10 ml or 2 teaspoons. It may look a lot spread all over someone but collected together it's not. A pint/half a liter is just not physically possible - not even close.

I use the ELMAM diet. Anybody heard of it? ... Eat Less, Move Around More

Once upon a time, before cell phones, it was acceptable to knock on someone's door to see if they were home and wanted to visit. Even in vanilla circles, that is weird now. Showing up drunk is especially weird. A play partner showing up drunk in someone's vanilla world is so tonedeaf I can't imagine why you'd want to try to salvage this. ( I always liked this comedy bit on the subject of "dropping by": ) I'd chalk it up to someone having too much anxiety and overthinking the sex, which isn't noise you need in your life.

That is a tricky phrase he used there. It could mean that he does a better job or satisfies her more thoroughly than her husband. It could also be that he satisfies her differently. In the first case I would have to step up my game, and I would want to. In the second case, that is part of the reason we do this.

Get a restraining order! You really don't need someone like that and if your wife really doesn't like him disrespecting you, why does she still have sex with him? She should turn him down and backup her words. Also, I'm curious, you say he's right about you not being able to satisfy her like he does...is that your wife's opinion too?

The guy has a blood volume issue. He doesn't have enough to allow both his dick to get hard and his brain to function simultaneously. Add to that, he has no respect for you or for your marriage or even for the sanctity of your home. I can't see why you even want him involved with you two. He's clearly nothing but trouble. The man to man talk should consist of 1 sentence. "Don't ever show up at our door uninvited again and don't expect an invitation any time soon."

I've had very few problems with married men at parties, but when they did occur they were resolved quickly, usually with the hosts intervening and asking the couple to leave. I absolutely will not attend parties where single males are present. Some are just too pushy and won't take "no" for an answer, but most often they just make things awkward. When I was younger and first started going to house parties that allowed single males, I found that they couldn't leave our sexual encounters at the party. So many times they would ask me to go on dates with them. They were obviously looking for a relationship with a lifestyle female and couldn't understand that I wasn't looking for dates or a relationship, or that I was in the lifestyle just for no-strings-attached recreational sex.

I always paid close attention to the invited guy's cock. Size was never a concern for us but erections were. We had to modify our approach several times until we found how to avoid stressing a guy out. Moving too fast was always our problem. My wife enjoyed walking into a room, shedding her dress(her only piece of clothing)and hopping on the bed. Wet and ready. A little intimidating for a guy who is trying to remember what she said her name was.

I have written about my experiences before. Our first time swinging we were in different rooms. We met a couple on a cruise and we swapped spouses. I went to their cabin, my husband stayed in our cabin with the wife. That night was fabulous. It was the first time with someone other than my husband since we got married. I can say we made love. I know have taken exception to that comment. We did make love with kissing, touching and sex. It's not that I did anything new or much different than I do with my husband, it was different because he was different. Looking back, and memories do change, I was totally comfortable kissing and having sex with this new friend. I didn't think about my husband or what he might be doing in our cabin. It was much different when we had sex with them in the same room. My new partner changed. In front of my husband and his wife we had sex. It felt detached and more like putting on a show. The romantic oral from the night before was replaced with him having sex with my mouth. When he entered me the long sensual strokes were gone. I also saw my husband watching us as he was getting a blow job. It just wasn't the same. Even though we have been in same room situations since and I have become more comfortable with it, I still prefer different rooms.