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A heart-warming story: https://www.npr.org/2018/05/04/607764107/this-love-story-started-at-a-nudist-park

I like the idea that she may be wanting an invitation. Or she is just nosy and wants a thrill. One thing I have to remember, always, is that the only way two people can keep a secret is if one of them is dead.

There was another inspirational NPR Storycorps a number of years ago where both where poor, down on their luck, had only 9th grade educations. They met at a stripper bar where he was the bouncer. They got together, married, went to college. https://storycorps.org/listen/philip-susan-mcclinton/

We like separate but nearby rooms where we can hear each other. We will only do separate rooms with people we know. We won’t separate at house parties, unless we know most or all. We won’t separate and go in a closed door room. People have some weird kinks they may trot out on my diminutive wife in a closed door room by themselves. I trust my wife 1000%. It’s the other guys I don’t trust.

A good question and it begins and ends with trust. We started off with -same room only. It later migrated into seperate rooms however for me I truly enjoy seeing my wife enjoying her sexual experience.

I think his approaching me in this manner was just fueled more by curiosity than anything. IF he has any attraction to me, it isn't mutual. Family bonds run deep in our clan, but not like that! No, he probably wouldn't. Like I said, they're both very vanilla...although J is apparently more curious about things than she is. She's naturally jealous - admittedly so - and this is the first place her mind goes. In retrospect, our behaviour was probably a tad unseemly, but at the time was 100% innocent. I would have loved it if she'd stayed up with us; I don't get to visit with them as much as I'd like. We were just having fun, and lost track of time. I guess I just felt like doing something I could complain about for the next few days. I have no idea how that could've come up organically; I suspect it didn't. It's juicy enough that it warranted its own conversation, and it gets categorized as "just guy talk". There's a difference between being a gentleman and being sophisticated. I expect he was in disbelief and was so preoccupied by it that he simply HAD to get it straight from the horse's mouth. And I also expect that the copious amounts of alcohol we imbibed were taken as either liquid courage to bring it up, or as a convenient excuse the next day to be able to brush off any conversation we had the night before. Well if J was dumb enough go looking for nekkid pictures of his SIL, he's stuck with the images in his head now. Some things you can't un-see. I'm really not sweating it. Mr. intuition and I knew that this was one of the risks you run when you put photos of yourself on a swingers website. In any case, we don't have anything showing our faces, and I've worn skimpier stuff to the beach than what was in the photos. Because she says the word "swinger" with a scrunched up look of disgust/contempt on her face. She totally believes the hype. She's a party-girl, herself (or at least was before all the kids and adulting came along), but there are some things she holds sacred. Monogamy is one of them. Like I said...vanilla. J is just being a guy. Swinging is a pretty exotic thing where I come from, so to find yourself sitting at the kitchen table with - to him, at least - the equivalent of a magical unicorn, you don't let that kind of opportunity pass you by without at least asking. Regardless of how inappropriate it may seem. Like I said, I'm really not sweating it. We're not ashamed of what we do. My only concern is that, YES, he does have a bit of a problem with loose lips when he's drinking. Which is pretty frequently. And it IS juicy gossip. The only reason I'd want to bring it up again is just to emphasize that this is not just idle gossip; we're not ashamed, but we are very discreet for a reason. If this got out and everyone started talking about us, it's not Mr. intuition and I who would suffer for it (although I'd be a little worried for his job). It's my family that will pay the price.

Update. My girlfriend talked to me last night. She said she doesn't want to swing in any way. The fantasy of it is great, but she said she wouldn't feel right actually doing it. I told her everything is fine. If she doesn't want to I support her feelings. The one thing I have learned here is communication is key to everything. Our relationship has grown a lot in such a short time. Our relationship comes first. Every relationship no matter if it's normal or in the lifestyle needs strong communication and trust. As for writing my book on the lifestyle, that is now on hold. I was going to use interviews to gather information but no one has responded. I even posted in here. Anyway, I want to thank everyone for your advice. It has helped my current relationship so much. Maybe soon we will be married. Due to our communication we have never been closer.

Drink good vodka. You're lucky a 2 dayer was the only price you paid.

I'm sorry you're in this predicament and welcome you back to these boards; your voice and sage advice have been sorely missed. This seems like something beyond a can of worms with no easily identifiable upside. You are right to tread carefully, I believe if I were you I'd avoid bringing the conversation up again. Does your BIL feel the same about you as you do about him, platonic? This seems like a risky subject to broach with a SIL, especially alone, late and drunk. My list of concerns: 1. Your sister was angry and suspicious about you and her husband getting hammered and staying up all night talking. What is the root of that? As in love with your sister as he may be, she apparently thinks there is some sort of attraction or connection between you and your BIL or why the suspicions? Would he tell her if he was attracted to you? 2. Who was this person who revealed to your BIL that you were in the LS? How could that subject have come up organically in conversation? Why would your BIL not shut down that line of conversation immediately? I would not be interested in having a conversation with ANYONE about any aspect of my SIL's sex life. 3. If the person who told your BIL was comfortable enough to tell him that you and Mr. Intuition were in the LS and Mr. Intuition is correct that he saw profile pictures on a website then it is reasonable to assume he mentioned the site where he saw them to your BIL. Hard to imagine your BIL would have participated in this conversation and not asked what made this person believe you were in the LS. If the pics you posted on this site are similar to what your BIL may have seen on a website prior to the night of drinking he certainly wasn't going to be less attracted to you then he was before to put it mildly. 4. Although I suppose there is no ideal time to discuss this with a SIL, choosing to do so when he did makes me a little suspicious of the intent. You and J stay up drinking while everyone else goes to sleep. After drinking to the point of slurring words, talking for hours and having physical contact at least in the form of arm-wrestling he brings up the subject of you being in the LS. "I knew it!" he said, "Yeah you guys are a couple of freaks, aren't ya?" he teased. "I heard about you two." Sounds like he's been thinking about it a bit to me, bringing it up at the grayest possible moment... How do you know your sister is completely against swinging? Your BIL may be of a different mindset. I hope I’m wrong about your BIL being attracted to you. Even if he does have a big mouth it is hard to imagine him saying anything. How does he broach the subject with your sister without having to explain (1) Where he heard the rumor? (2) Why would he want to discuss your SIL’s sex life? (3) Why didn’t you tell me this immediately after the conversation was had? (4) Why would you bring this up to my sister and especially alone when you’d both been drinking heavily? That seems like just the start of a list of questions he wouldn’t enjoy answering. As always, I hope all turns out well for you and Mr. Intuition.

I wouldn't say anything. It doesn't sound like he is likely to bring it up unless in a similar condition. I think if you bring it up and try to deny it can easily be interpreted as the truth, which it is. I had been accused of doing something I didn't and was told the more I denied it the more it seemed true - by the party making an inaccurate accusation.

I love big cocks in my pussy, and a real BBC from behind as he pulls my hair, but small cocks for anal sex at least the first cock. After a small cock cums in my ass, my husband can take a turn since he is pretty big.

Sometimes group sex is simply fodder for a couple's time alone. Really, swinging in general is no more than an extension of couple sex. If it's hot to think about it, if your sex drive goes up during the hunt, if the anticipation causes tingles, then the goal is met. Group sex is icing, and as sweet as you want to make it.

[HUBBY] oh trust me they are far from a dealbreaker. In fact there are tons of men out there who have a huge fetish for them and don't like big boobs at all. You'll find plenty of people who will be super into them. In my experience men aren't too picky. A guy may say that he likes a tall blonde, with blue eyes and big D cup boobs, but really if he runs into a really cute brunette who is 5ft5, brown eyes and a B cup, you know what? He's fine with that! Cute is cute. I think men are more flexible than even some women are in this regard. In my experience, a lot of girls I know who say they don't like blonde guys, mean it and just won't date a blonde guy unless their preferences change when they are older. I've known girls who prefer tall guys at least 6ft and they stick to it. I've known very few guys that don't go outside of their declared preferences because at the end of the day, if we think you are cute, we're into you regardless of type. PS small perky boobs are super fun to play with in my book. I love variety, big boobs are fun on a different way, but small boobs are crazy fun too.

It takes all kinds to make the world go around! I suspect that even some of those guys who brag about their wives' big boobs would enjoy playing with a spirited, sexy woman, even if she had a smaller chest. I have played with only a couple of women who had augmentation, and those things did feel a little strange... I much prefer natural, whatever size they may be. Given what you said at the end of your post, it sounds to me like you are having an excellent time. Not too silly, but maybe a little spent! Perhaps this is going to turn out to be a non-issue, and something that you needn't be concerned about. That's not to say that you might not run across someone at some point who will pass on playing with you based on your breast size. But it's also possible that some foolish guy might decide to move on to someone else, based on your hair color, or your height, or some other factor that prevents him from "clicking" with you. But if they miss the chance to play with you, it's their loss! I predict that you will have plenty of fun!