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So, you want to swing. You’ve had all the discussions and you think now you’re ready. But wait, how do we get started actually finding people to have sex with us? You could always ask a close friend that you are comfortable with but this is not recommended by most. Some have had good luck with it and others have lost friends by even mentioning the fact that they are interested in exploring an alternative lifestyle. The two most popular ways are placing a personal ad on one of the many different adult ad sites on the internet and attending a swinger’s club or event. Both have their advantages and disadvantages. Geographic location also plays a part in which of these will work best for you. The club route: If you live in an area where there are clubs available this is a very good option to start meeting people with. Clubs come in many different forms...Off-premise, On-premise, Socials and Meet & Greets...you also have house parties in the mix but they are not something I would recommend for a newbie. Off-premise clubs are basically like any other night club you would attend, with the only difference being that everyone there is a swinger or is interested in becoming a swinger. They are great places for new people to check out the scene, interact with others and ask questions in a no pressure atmosphere. There is a sexually charged atmosphere, lots of dancing and talking and getting to know people. No sex occurs at an off-premise club, if you meet someone for playtime you have to leave the club and obtain a room or head out to someone’s house before play can occur. On-premise clubs are the same as off-premise with the exception that sex can and does happen on-premise. Usually in rooms that are provided specifically for playing, which range from private rooms to group rooms. Socials are basically like off-premise clubs, but are usually held at a hotel that has a large meeting room or ballroom, and are usually held only once a month. You will find dancing, socializing and lots of flirting going on. Sex does not occur at a Social but the advantage over an off-premise club is that you are only a walk away from a hotel room if you happen to meet someone for playtime. Meet and Greets are basically just a group of swingers who get together only for the purpose of meeting face to face for dinner and conversation. Hook-ups can and do occur but it’s not the main focus of a M&G. All of these have the advantage of getting to see the people you are meeting right away, there’s no waiting for pictures to be sent and no time between e-mails and/or phone calls trying to arrange a time that is convenient for all to meet. Play can and at times will occur the same night you meet someone, if everyone is in agreement. The disadvantages are that you can be overwhelmed at times with numerous people vying for your attention as well as having those you would rather not play with asking to play and then dealing with having to turn them down gracefully. The ad route: Ads are a way of meeting people when you don’t live in a place where there is a club close enough to visit and/or you’re just not a club type of person. By placing an ad you are able to spell out everything that you are interested in exploring. What type of people you enjoy spending time with, if you’re just looking for a one time hook-up or if you’re looking for long term play partners. When placing an ad you’re able to tell what type of experiences you have had, what type of experiences you want to have, what you like to do sexually and with whom you would like to do it with. You are also able to search ads and find people you are interested in and contacting them. One of the things that you will have to deal with when placing an ad is answering the responses you get. Some will be from people you might have no interest in. You will have to write back and let them know. Another possibility is that you might wind up playing tag with those that you are interested in trying to find the time to meet. Also, you will have to deal with those who are not really serious about swinging and those that will stand you up once a date has been made. No matter how you decide to meet people for sexual play, be it via the ad route or attending a club, you will only get out of it what you are willing to put into it. You must be able to put effort into your search. If you’re at a club get up and talk to people, don’t wait for them to come to you. If you have an ad out and you’re not getting the response you want, look it over and see what you can do to make it more appealing to others as well as looking for those you’re interested in and making the first move with contacting them. Always remember, there is no right or wrong way to go about it. Find the way you’re comfortable with and have fun in your adventure.

SLS and SDC are popular.

The guy has a blood volume issue. He doesn't have enough to allow both his dick to get hard and his brain to function simultaneously. Add to that, he has no respect for you or for your marriage or even for the sanctity of your home. I can't see why you even want him involved with you two. He's clearly nothing but trouble. The man to man talk should consist of 1 sentence. "Don't ever show up at our door uninvited again and don't expect an invitation any time soon."

This weekend i got licked and fucked by the same time. It is the best feeling ever! I had my good sub licking me and my bull was fucking me.

Aha we have a winner! Your mileage may vary or it's intimate... This past weekend all the men were together with 3 of us wives. So I took a survey of sorts. Of the 8 men: 1. We have 2 men - my husband and another who can deal with the occasional male contact from the result of group sex, they can both handle cum swapping with the ladies and can handle eating us out after sex, neither say they crave it but enjoy the extracurricular while all hot and bothered and can occasionally really get into it, especially when the wives get into it. 2. 2 other husband's that have no problem with anyone performing oral on them as long as they are not watching it and are preoccupied, they can handle guys handling them as well but again as long as they personally are focusing on one of the wives. 3. The other 4 husbands in our group are bisexual, they have no problem with handling men, oral either way with men, cum, anal sex - though 2 prefer to receive more than the other to do and the last 2 do will do whatever, they love anal however with whomever doing it whenever or getting it done wherever and all 4 let the women do them any time. 4. None do oral anal with a guy but with the ladies it is an entirely different story. I love these hubbies. 5. And Not a one is into kissing another guy. 2 of them had it happen accidentally, 2 of them tried it intentionally, grossed them all out. The way they explained it wound up sounding like a chorus. In a nutshell it wasn’t natural to them – they are not into men per say, just sex with multiple partners and variety. They all explained the sex is sex is sex thing pretty much the way I put it. They all love sex, a body is a body, a hole is a hole, a finger is a finger, etc. and kissing is not sex, it is sexual but it is not sex. They view it as more of a connection not an act. Sex is an act to them. For example they all love anal sex, it brings incredible orgasms for them, multiple like women instead of a simple single shooting ejaculation orgasm. They can have these with toys, machines, dolls, strap-ons, and other males. It is variety, not gay, not into men, just another form of sex to them. The men want sex more often then their wives so as one of them put it, do the math, crunch the numbers, on average a normal female is into sex about 1/3-1/4 as often as the typical male. It makes sense to have more partners than the women and who are the best sex buddies (also as they put it)? Other men with the same desire in frequency. The wives are fine with it and happy that their men are getting taken care of enough (I spoke with all the wives this week about it all), it also freed some of the wives up mentally to explore females with no guilt, AND the husbands get deeper more massive richer multi-orgasms more often to boot. In addition every single wife in our group loves to watch it. There is just something about men who love raw sex for sex sake no matter what just enjoying uninhibited with regards to sex acts. So though they will do pretty much anything else – kissing other men is out. Not a desire. Not a sex act. And by the way our group does not kiss for kissing sake unless it is your spouse, we kiss when swapping, exchanging, in the middle or group sex but not what most people would consider normal one on one kissing. Oh I almost left this out. When it comes to receiving anal sex all 4 men said that men are better at controlling what is happening than a female with a strap-on so the sex is a bit less scary, not failing to point out that the real thing back there feels pretty amazing. We also all agreed – (us ladies and the 4 men) that having someone cum in your backside it pretty darn HOT and feels incredible! One of the 2 that is open to pretty much, whatever, and the most effeminate stated, “he loves women, desires women, that he will have sex with a guy but has no yearning for males. He said that sucking a guy gets him hard just like eating a woman (it’s the act not the visual), but the sight of woman does and a guy does not. He says he sees the other husbands naked and it does nothing, but see them in a sex act and he’ll get hard as a rock. I asked the other men about it and the same was true for them all even my husband and the other one similar to him. They are not in the least into guys but watching other men having sex gets them turned on. My husband said when he first saw some of the other guys sucking each other along with some of the wives it turned him on – not the men sucking men but the sex act in itself. Does that make sense? Someone getting done anally is huge turn-on for everyone in our group regardless of gender. Most of us are anal addicts. I do not desire females but I can turned on watching them with other women and men. Heck I even get turned on watching just women and women but I still do not want them. I’ve even had sex with other women this summer (my husband’s fantasy finally fulfilled – woot woot) but still have no hunger for females though I did enjoy it. Anyhoo I thought it was all pretty interesting and as I keep saying for some people sex is just that, sex, give them a willing body and they are happy all the night long!

I know that might sound strange coming from me but I am a weird thinker. Yes in the heat of sex I can see my husband being near other penises. I've seen them pretty darn close to his mouth and face, had a few guys help the ladies suck him and play around with him even anally. He doesn't know who's doing what because he was always in a 69 when it happened. None of it bothered me a bit and was quite the turn-on to be honest. He had never been or done anything with a guy for the most part, yes he has had to help stuff the other guy back in during DP, etc. Again we are in the heat of the moment and it's all about sex! We all kiss with cum in our mouths, swapping it all around, no biggy. He is not so much into that but will oblige us ladies. He has eaten it our of many of us many times, no biggy. But I could never imagine him kissing a guy - euuwwwww. #1 that is not a pretty sight - not attractive in the least, #2 that is not masculine at all (I like masculine men), #3 even the bisexual men in our group do not kiss. Yes I have seen them do Everything else, but they NEVER kiss other guys. You know never thought about it, I wonder why? I'll ask them all next week when we get together, I'll let you know. I'll take it one step further, I could never see my husband doing a guy anally. Never could see him wanting to, desiring it, that is leaning a bit to far for me. I guess if it happened I'd have to be okay with it but I simply do not see it happening, he likes the ladies WAAAY to Much! GREAT post BTW - You really got me going on this one now - can't wait to ask the men in our group.