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My favorite threesome is the MFM variety. It's always been a bigger turn-on watching my wife be the center of attention than being so myself. That said, my wife or partner (depending on my relationship status) has always been my favorite porn, and we all know watching live sex is better than watching it on a screen. My advice is just let the other guy know that you don't have a cuckold relationship and that you just want to watch, that watching your wife do her thing is something that turns you on. For me it has never been about watching another man fuck my wife, it was always watching her do her thing from a third person perspective that I don't get to see when we're fucking.

Should you let her? Yes, if it's both of your fantasy and you've thoroughly talked it through beforehand. Watching your partner fuck someone else will bring many feelings to the surface, both good and bad, and it's better to cover the "what-if's" beforehand than play damaage control and pick-up the pieces afterward. Second, is she on-board with this massage arrangement and seeing where it goes, also? It rarely works-out when these things are a surprise. Again, talk, talk, talk and then talk some more. Then fuck other people once the talking is done and you are both on the same page about what you want to happen and ultimately what you want to get from this. Good luck.

So you walk into a room and see your wife having unprotected sex with multiple strangers, including anal which she had never done before, and you say nothing? WTF!!!

I've always found them different, I'm sure women find all cocks different as well.

Thats a major point here, a venue where such things can be discussed and knowledge gained. In fact it was a redheaded GF who persuaded me to bisexuality. So, we have that in common too.

A woman customer says to the pharmacist: Does Viagra work? He says: Yes it does. She says: Can you get it over the counter? He says: If I take two pills, I can.

Breaking the rules once can (but not always is) a mistake...breaking them a second time is an 'on purpose'. He is being disrespectful to you...and you are allowing it to happen. Neither of you are ready for this lifestyle and should take a break until your relationship is much stronger and in a better place. I know you love him, but I remember an old story about a man having to break up with tequila. See, he loved tequila with all of his heart, but the tequila didn't love him back and treated him poorly. Not saying that this is what you need to do, just saying sometimes you loving someone isn't enough. Until he loves you and RESPECTS you enough to put you ahead of everything else, you both need to stop. When my SO (or anyone for that matter) leaves the room for any reason when we were playing, we all stop until she returns. We always play together meaning everyone has to be there. If she were to leave without saying something, everything would immediately stop and I would want to know what was going on. That's the way this has to work. He needs to be told this (point him to this board). You should come first always. He seems to know that you are having issues, but he doesn't want to talk about them is not good. You need to have trust and communication on an epic scale. Not wanting to talk is a lack of trust and/or sign of poor communication. Finally, while some couples have been successful with playing with friends, we strongly advise against it since there is already a connection of some sort between friends, but also there is the risk of everyone in your group of friends finding out if things do go south. Bottom line, you need to stop until you both can work on the relationship and he is better at understanding what you want and need. Not for one talk or a week or two, but until the relationship is in a much stronger and better place. Good luck and let us know how things progress.

In my area there is a fair amount of overlap between the BDSM and swinging communities... but on the whole I've never encountered anyone who insisted on BDSM play as a condition of swinging. The BDSM folks we've played with are usually just very clear on setting out their limits and boundaries before we play. The idea of exploring anything kinky didn't come up until we were discussing the possibility of playing again... and even then there was a very clear concern for what our limits and boundaries were.

I wouldn't say anything. It doesn't sound like he is likely to bring it up unless in a similar condition. I think if you bring it up and try to deny it can easily be interpreted as the truth, which it is. I had been accused of doing something I didn't and was told the more I denied it the more it seemed true - by the party making an inaccurate accusation.