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"Letting her" also, to me, implies that she's a possession, like a lawnmower to be loaned to your neighbor. I've always disliked this term. I don't feel you "let" your partner do anything. They are their own being with their own self-governance and they can do whatever they please. Now if they choose to or not is also their decision. Just because someone has the freedom to fuck someone else doesn't mean they will or even want to. Hell, they could leave you tomorrow or they will stay with you, and it's their choice, not yours. I've always thought that one of the perks of having an open relationship is that the door is fully open for someone to walk away, and they don't. That's how you know they really love and care about you.

That is either a really crappy fantasy or you're a piss poor excuse for a man and a husband. You had an obligation to protect your wife, that's the 1st rule of swinging and as her protector, you should have immediately intervened to make certain that she was fully aware of what was happening and that she was fully capable to make a choice. Instead you watched for awhile and walked away while your wife was being abused and perhaps coerced into doing something she had told you she didn't want to do. You should be ashamed.

We have only been to a few larger parties. We have never been to a club. I was with 3 different guys and I needed a break. After a little rest my friend and her guy friend had a 3some that went on for an hour. I needed to stop at that point. I was getting sore. Mix that into plenty of other fun and oral, I was exhausted. Three is enough, after that it’s not as much fun. I also like playing orally during the party.

We had a GOOD time. She boinked 3 guys, one of them twice, one 3 times and me before the party and after we got home so if you count individually, it was four, if you count penises it was 8! I was a bit behind only enjoying 2 of the wives. We napped a lot on Sunday!

I call bullcrap too. I'll give the OP an opportunity to retort, but it doesn't make sense to me. First time swinging and he left his wife alone, then didn't come looking for her immediately after finishing with his tryst... passing out in the sun? Normal first timers wouldn't do those things, the list goes on

I've always enjoyed both being watched while getting head and watching women give head. Unsure why. First time it ever came up was when I was about 18 - several times in different situations - and it stuck with me. Mrs. E has always enjoyed showing off her body but was usually too shy other than topless sunbathing. Only experience being watched during a sex act was her and her best friend giving head side-by-side once in high school, then not again until we started experimenting. Not as much specifically into being watched during a sex act, but definitely into being undressed.

We went to dinner with a couple we met at a swingers club and we switched partners and the men fingered us at the booth. Neither of us women wore panties so it was easy access and a big turn on to have another guy finger me in public.

My guess is that your sister already knows what he knows... and that may have fueled her jealousy/worry/negative feelings. Personally, I'd leave it alone and not bring it up again. Act like it never happened. You were the one who put the stop to the conversation so there's no good reason to restart it. (always good to see you around these parts)

So you walk into a room and see your wife having unprotected sex with multiple strangers, including anal which she had never done before, and you say nothing? WTF!!!

This has me thinking. I know some women are tighter and I think whose cervix is lower even though I think they move during sex. Now once you are in and as you say stroking some women are wetter which is something you might feel if you are bare. A condom would negate any wet feeing. Ridges and angles might be there, I’m not sure if you really notice during the thrusting. Being blindfolded is interesting. Are lights out with blackout curtains the same as blindfolded. Ones senses change with deprivation of a sense. It can highten your other senses or disorient. The physical sensations are heightened with the visual stimulation. I have been told women can not actually sense size unless a man is either very big or small.

Do not want to panic anyone, but while on T therapy, my PSA score went up a lot. My doctor said if a man has the beginnings of prostate cancer, T will be like pouring gasoline on a fire. The T also helped me lose weight. But I stopped it and I now use Cialis. The T was very effective, but my father had prostate cancer and I want to err on the cautious side. YMMV.

Welcome to the Swingers Board! Great advice above from WesternSwing Swinging needs to be for both of you and something you both found pleasurable. While it's not uncommon for one partner to be ahead of the other when first starting out, for couples who are successful in swinging after a little time that evens out and both enjoy it just as much as the other, and in fact, seeing your partner happy and enjoying it brings you as much or more enjoyment yourself than anything you are getting out of it personally.

Should you let her? Yes, if it's both of your fantasy and you've thoroughly talked it through beforehand. Watching your partner fuck someone else will bring many feelings to the surface, both good and bad, and it's better to cover the "what-if's" beforehand than play damaage control and pick-up the pieces afterward. Second, is she on-board with this massage arrangement and seeing where it goes, also? It rarely works-out when these things are a surprise. Again, talk, talk, talk and then talk some more. Then fuck other people once the talking is done and you are both on the same page about what you want to happen and ultimately what you want to get from this. Good luck.

You're right, there isn't much acceptance of bi men in the swingers community. In the poly community it's very commonplace and not looked down on. I have friends who are bi who won't put it on their swinging profiles because they won't get anyone contacting them. In swinging they just let things happen when swinging and I would say most of the time they find that the other husband is bi also and doesn't put it on his profile. In a community that seems to think it's more evolved than vanillas you'd think this would have more evolved attitudes, also.

We're going to a party tonight, I think there will be 9-10 couples. That means 9-10 erections. Does oral count as a guy or are we only counting vaginal penetration?? Somebody let us know and we'll come up with an almost real time count. Last time I know Mrs Doc boinked 5 (not all to completion) and she had not run out of gas. We discovered years ago that she absolutely LOVES being part of an orgy.

Seems to me that he sees your relationship with your wife as a cuckold relationship rather than a hot wife relationship. There is a big difference. Because you have allowed him to have her whenever he wants and saying nothing he sees you as the beta male and himself the alpha. You already said he disrespects you. In his mind that's his pussy now and he can use it whenever he wants. I suggest taking charge, standing up to him, and kicking him to the curb. I bet your wife will be a little turned on by you taking charge of the situation. After all, that's what turns her on about him. After that, look for a play partner who respects your marraige. That's when the hot wife relationship starts.

I do understand the whole "benefit of the doubt" thing. I also very well understand looking for the source of the problem within ourselves first. These are both laudable and civilized. They are also sometimes NOT the best response, Be Careful.

My wife loves to orgasm. As long as she is having orgasms and not getting sore or having leg cramps, I think she could go forever. The most she ever had was at an adult resort over a fourth of July weekend. The total was 27 men not counting those going back for seconds and more. She was give out and tired when we got home. She said it was fun, but she would rather have intimate sex.