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We have a code expression if we aren't interested in playing for any reason. If either of us say it, then no questions asked and we prepare to leave. Doesn't mean that we won't ever see the other couple again, just that one of us isn't 'feeling it' that night. Also, if either of us aren't into the other couple then we move forward to the next couple (once again, no questions asked, no explanation needed). When a couple is starting out, they have a tendency to take whatever couple they meet...spend some time and find a good match. It takes more time and work, but the end result is much more pleasurable.

Hey guys, it is so interesting to reread your replies after a few years! Wow am i seeing things in a different light now!

We are new to swinging even though both of us have been with others. I don’t think either of us on into going to a club. The question is do you enjoy swinging with the same couple over and over again. We had a great time with the couple we met. They are fun and sexy. Nothing negative to say. We clicked and I think they felt the same way. That being said I think part of the excitement of swinging is variation. I love lobster, do I want that every meal?

Sounds to me that you are more interested in a hotwife/cuckold situation than swinging. Try OHW instead of this site and you will get plenty of advice there - and probably plenty of offers to do your wife while you watch.

What Gold said!!! Let me add that it took awhile but we learned that we owe no one we meet anything more than courtesy, unless the guy works on Mrs Doc's last nerve or tries to lick her toes. In that case we're gone in a flash! This is about recreation and fun for you as a couple and as a couple, if one half isn't into the situation, your first and only loyalty is to your partner, not to people you've met once or twice, EVEN if you've been naked with them.

You went separate on your first full swap? Same room would probably have been the better choice, we save separate rooms for after we have a good connection with another couple, that lets us enjoy each other with a level of comfort. As for the answer to the question, you just let them know in a nice way you would like to explore other couples.

I'm not a medical professional although we do have several here that maybe will chime in with some expert knowledge, but your osteopath is correct that a surprisingly high percentage would test positive for one or both. Basically, a whole lot of people who think they don't actually do. Testing positive and "having" something are kind of two different things though, and that's where the rub is. For example, I remember as a little kid having oral cold sores, i.e. HSV-1. So, there's a chance I would test positive for that I expect. Does that mean I have herpes? Depends how you look at it, but in my mind, no, and I'm not going to pay money to get tested for something I already know the answer to and I haven't had a symptom of in decades now even though I may still "have" it by some's definition. On the other hand, if I did have an active cold sore, I certainly wouldn't be at the club kissing anyone either. So, right now, I think the answer is a definite yes, you should disclose. 15 years from now and this is all a distant bad memory with absolutely nothing in between now and then, then it gets a little more gray area I think. I'm sure some will disagree with that and that's certainly their right, but at that point, I think you would be in that what I read in one study as the 75-80% (of Americans) that carry either HSV-1 or HSV-2. I can say for a fact that I've not have 75-80% of playmates disclosing anything to me.

Not me. Have had athletic masculine female lovers & it was all good.

Thats a major point here, a venue where such things can be discussed and knowledge gained. In fact it was a redheaded GF who persuaded me to bisexuality. So, we have that in common too.

I don't suggest this path to anyone. But this seems like a crowd i can be honest with. Like most things I hate my own limitations. In the case of education athletics and theology...i immerse myself in the subject and let my intellectual curiosity run wild. I felt that sexuality was a box and I was happy navigating in it. In comes an amazing red head who flipped my world upside down. Shared her conquest and told me...love doesn't equate to sex. So we swing...she is my true north and allowed me to navigate appropriately. However the issue of what about size was always in the back of my head. With her not so much...so..in am effort to de sensitive all manner of porm was watched. But coupled with MDMA ( Yeah I know) honesty reemed it's lovely head. And proximity with another man wasn't an issue...which turned into curiosity...which turned into "bi-ish" behavior for both of us. May be a long post but I am still a rookie. I hate to say it. Don't knock it until you try it!

Thank you for the advice chiccouplexx!!!!!! After being topless (the only lady topless, not good) at the Garden of Eden, Julie had a bikini top painted on at Garden of Eden to match her actual bikini bottoms. For street wear, she had a short little school girl skirt over her bikini bottoms with a white button blouse. After the G of E, we checked out Hog's Breath and asked a bar tender. Off came Julies blouse top and skirt. We hung there for an hour and a half or two with Julie in her body painted top, her bikini bottoms and sandals, not a problem at all. We never saw another women with body paint so were really cautious. Rob