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YOU'RE NOT READY FOR THIS. If you can't talk to her about this, then you're not ready. You both need to spend much more time working on the trust and communication in your relationship. Determine your limits and boundaries (is it ok for you to go and have fun with another woman in a private room as well?) and keep to them. It just seems strange that she would make a comment like that. Is your relationship rock solid and this is just fun and games or is she looking for your replacement? It just doesn't sound like you are in a place to start thinking about this...yet.

Are you a "sugar daddy"or desirous of becoming a cuckold? If you're substantially older than her and she's meeting guy while you're out of town and now wants to play in a swingers club without you, you've already started down that slippery slope. This will not end well for you.

For me it has always been because I'm attracted to a person as a person and sexually. I only am turned-on sexually by someone that turns me on in other ways. In short, they have to be someone I could be friends with for me to want to fuck them. That doesn't mean we have to, but that they have to be that kind of person. So although variety is great, I've never been in it for variety so much as people.

We are Muslim.

We're not here for infinite variation, just an occasional change, so we don't have a problem with just seeing one other couple. We only see each other about once a month so it doesn't really get stale. For us, FWB is what we want, learning another couples wants and needs, not endless variation. At the same time, it's different strokes for different folks and what works for one may not work for another. Just because you can have endless variations, doesn't mean that it should always be tried. Some things just don't go together...like tuna fish in green jello, orange juice and mint ice cream, or popcorn and catsup. Just because you can have some variations, it doesn't mean you always should.