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I don't think you're alone in thinking that. I personally try not to overemphasize any one criteria (unless it's a definite deal breaker) but in isolation, yes, a committed couple is usually more predictable, more transparent and more in tune with each other's feelings. At the end of the day though, if they're hot, that's all that matters!

My wife and I don't have rules, and we talk a lot about what she does when we're apart (I only play when she's around), but we just talk about what we want to. Sex with others is supposed to be fun. Why mess it up with lots of baggage?

My husband is the only one who gets to lick my pussy so we do what is best for us. I shaved for a couple of years that I will never get back. It was a huge hassle to me. It was itchy, sweaty and for the amount of sex we like to have, the area got irritated more easily. I like having that cushion - and I freakin' LOVE his pubic hair - it's beautiful. It's not on his cock, for heaven's sake. But his hair gives me something to stroke and gently pull, which drives him crazy. LOL As for my husband, he doesn't care if it's shaved or not - he's passionately, wildly fucking every day and that's just the two of us. If someone else gets pulled into it, I doubt he's going to complain about that either.

Listen, if you want to get into a hotwife or cuckold relationship, than you're doing all the right things. If not, grow a pair, say you will only swing with a couple where you at least get something. If she still wants you to wait for her, at home or at the club, while she fucks a single guy in private, than it's time to find a new gf who will really care about you. If any of my SO or gfs had said that to me, since just saying it shows intent to have her cake and assume I'll be there waiting when she's done to keep on taking care of her other needs, there would have been no discussion, no negotiation, just the door! When will people realize that sometimes their SO is just playing them and pretending to care when they really do not give a shit about them?

Well, she's done it and she's happy and it's her body. I think there might be some need for the procedure for some women who feel that the parts are so large/wide/long that they are uncomfortable just walking around and existing. That's probably what the procedure was designed for. But...internet and porn being what it is, women have been exposed to pictures of what "ideal" pussies are supposed to look at...yet another thing to feel self-conscious about. I'm like what one poster said - I like my parts...there's stuff to suck on and play with and my partner loves all of it - and cums like a racehorse whenever we have sex BECAUSE he's fucking a lively partner who digs the hell out of him. Bottom line - at some point, the person or people worth having sex with are the people you connect with as a human being, not as a sex object.

I shaved for about 2 years. I had conflicted feelings about it. I'm trying to be my free and happy self and didn't feel that shaving my pubs for the benefit of someone else's comfort was accomplishing that. Trimming is okay - but I need some cushion and protection down there. As we approached the idea of swinging, my husband for the first time mentioned that maybe he should trim, etc. I freakin' love his hair. It's beautiful. One of the things that I realized was going to concern me with swinging was if being natural was going to be a deal-breaker. It may for some people and not others. It's certainly not very inviting to think that others in a club would be gagging over "Oh, God, I just saw BUSH!" That would be sad because we are looking for open-minded, accepting and free-spirited people. There's enough judgement in the world.

I've had many conversations with my husband about his lifetime of partners and he has never expressed any kind of aversion to any body type. One partner with pretty much just nipples, he said he just loved their erectness and it was just as much of a turn on...she also had other turn ons about her...slim, soft legs, etc.

Swinging, as my wife and I understand it, is a team sport. We are both having sex. Usually at the same time in the same room or reasonably close if we are with people we know and trust. You have a partner who is going rogue. If that’s ok with you, ok. It would not be ok with me.

I hope this goes well and you both have a good time. But in my opinion you are on very dangerous ground.

Personally, I love to see a woman with large labia and find it a real turn on. Plus, they make great handles to open her up when muff diving.

I was “conned” into taking a female friend to her appointment for one (she needed someone to drive afterwards). When I found out, I tried to talk her out of it, but she’d already paid and was determined. I saw it before and after and I gotta say, I prefer the before. It was all tidied up, but I just didn’t see the point. But then, I like “danglers”, “mudflaps”, etc. She was pleased. Seemed to me the money could be spent for better things.

I adore hairy pussy. It's makes a woman the sexiest she can be. In clubs, I've only ever seen one hairy pussy (2016) in a club in Paris & it was divine & she knew it. So did all the men pleasing her. Please please please, stop shaving pussies.

I was never crazy about MFM, did a few of them in my swinging years so my GFs could experience it. The presence of another cock never bothered me but the sex for me was completely void of pleasure. I had no problems getting hard but very rarely had an orgasm. When we swapped it was 1 on 1 with my partner(the other woman) and that is what I love, to be 1 on 1 with a woman. During MFMs I could have never sat back and watched so I directed and controlled everything. In group situations I always had a tendency to kind of run things, in sex I've always been dominant (no BDSM....lol)except if I was with a woman that I trusted, then letting her dictate activities was not a problem. You must find what works for you or stop the 3somes.

Maybe, maybe not. We're still new and learning.

Maybe this isn't a good hobby for you two.

Personally, the sweet smell of a woman's sex is amplified by the tangled garden that is her pubic region. We have done both shaved and unshaved and they are two different animals altogether.

Either way, but stubble is no fun for either of us. We go off and on as to shaving. Having started out in the 70's, we really only had full public hair for both of us. In fact, we don't recall any of the nudist resorts with anything other than full hair. We did run into one couple in 1976 where the pussy was shaved. It was really more of a stubble field and not at all fun or oral sex and for the fellows, they literally felt like they were sandpapered. Shave technology has come along way since then. But, the nude look as a whole different appeal these days. Guess we agree with others in this thread...hygiene is most important and the presence, or absence, of hair.

When I first encountered a bald pussy (did I just express an oxymoron), it was a remarkable novelty. It now seems pedestrian. What is more important and more socially engaging is the life-support system for the pussy.

We haven't seen it, but I know it's something some people do. I would pass on oral if it had to be with a condom, and I think I can safely speak for her and say that if you are going to go down on her, nothing from the household aisle is going to be involved.

To answer a question you haven't really asked... male bisexuality and male-on-male sex is, in my experience, still very taboo in many swingers clubs. While clubs are usually fine with the behaviors of consenting adults behind closed doors, public displays of male-on-male are generally discouraged and finding a male bisexual encounter at a club is difficult and often closeted. Yes, it is a double standard (since female bisexuality is almost expected), and in my opinion a deplorable one, but it is a reality.

This has always been a curious topic for me. Why are people more concerned about getting an std through their penis/vagina contact than they are with their mouth? Isn't it all the same? Educate me please

I think everyone needs to do what they want to with their own bodies...shave it, laser it, grown it down to there, HAIR! (Almost broke into song there...) If your would be play partner(s) don't like your choice, find ones that do.

Not all, I think pubic is a great turn-on both visually and to feel.

Personally, I love it all - shaved, furry, whatever. As long as she pays attention to her hygene, I'll stay for the day - or night, as the case may be...

I'm one of those men that really loves hairy females, for some reason a shaved female doesn't do it for me. Call me old fashioned, but I don't know why in these times almost every woman shaves.

I've tried waxing a few times, looks pretty good. But now lately I have been going all natural on my bush, seems some ladies do like a hairy man but some prefer bare, so I'm going to stay a la natural for now.

We both like bushy bush, shaved just don't do it for us. But, it is the sign of the times. So ya gotta go with it if it comes up.

Mine is trimmed but far from being shaved off! I have never once been rejected by a guy cause he preferred totally shaved. As a matter of fact, I've received quite a few complements over the years from guys that hate the totally shaved look! Do whatever works best for you and trust me, people will get over it!

Let us know how it goes.

I would leave the whole thing alone for a while and focus my mind on something or somebody else. It all sounds very fresh. After some time, it'll be easier to see what's right for you. It's totally possible to downgrade and still enjoy it, but breaking up completely isn't wrong either, particularly if you're not satisfied with the casual relationship.