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We are a married couple. We like to play with couples who are married or committed to each other. We find that they have a long term interest in their partner’s happiness. We’ve met “couples” who are only a couple for the purpose of swinging. We have had limited success with them. We find that the man is gung ho and the woman is blasé/disinterested in a few of our meetings. No offense to “couples” in this arrangement. We just find it hard to connect with couples with this arrangement.

I often wonder if the partners in the FBCs have sex with each other. I guess it varies.

You apparently have an emotional bond with the guy that hasn't been broken by miles or the changes in the relationship between you 4. If you go to the party you should whisper in his ear, "Find me when playtime starts, I want to start the party with you". 20 minutes, a couple of orgasms, then get up and move on. Don't lay there and cuddle and engage in pillow talk. Just pat him on the thigh and say, "that was great, maybe I'll come looking for you later". Keep it light and make sure you find another partner or two before the evening is over and get lost in the eroticism. If you dwell on what's changed, you'll miss the fun right in front of you.

I like any kind of shapely boobs. The other curves are a bonus. I am a little on the heavy side, so if the woman is too, no problem , who am I to complain. My wife on the other hand is super fit. I agree that it is more about the smile, personality and innate sexiness that attracts me over one body part. Huge boobs are not a turn on for me. I don't think that I have been with a woman with enhanced breasts, but if it is ok with her, it is ok with me.

Well, she's done it and she's happy and it's her body. I think there might be some need for the procedure for some women who feel that the parts are so large/wide/long that they are uncomfortable just walking around and existing. That's probably what the procedure was designed for. But...internet and porn being what it is, women have been exposed to pictures of what "ideal" pussies are supposed to look at...yet another thing to feel self-conscious about. I'm like what one poster said - I like my parts...there's stuff to suck on and play with and my partner loves all of it - and cums like a racehorse whenever we have sex BECAUSE he's fucking a lively partner who digs the hell out of him. Bottom line - at some point, the person or people worth having sex with are the people you connect with as a human being, not as a sex object.

I shaved for about 2 years. I had conflicted feelings about it. I'm trying to be my free and happy self and didn't feel that shaving my pubs for the benefit of someone else's comfort was accomplishing that. Trimming is okay - but I need some cushion and protection down there. As we approached the idea of swinging, my husband for the first time mentioned that maybe he should trim, etc. I freakin' love his hair. It's beautiful. One of the things that I realized was going to concern me with swinging was if being natural was going to be a deal-breaker. It may for some people and not others. It's certainly not very inviting to think that others in a club would be gagging over "Oh, God, I just saw BUSH!" That would be sad because we are looking for open-minded, accepting and free-spirited people. There's enough judgement in the world.

I think this is the REAL issue. You want swinging to be something that you do, a piece of your life but not the focus or the "be all to end all." At some level you define that by how willing one is to hook-up. I think you want to have a life WITH swinging as a small part, but not have swinging BE your life. You are looking for high quality hook-up which you define partly by appearance or physical condition and he wants a lot of hook-ups. I don't mean to be politically incorrect, however sorta like we think of the difference between men and women. Men are dogs and women are more, shall we say, discerning. I think it's totally fine to prefer quality to quantity and to be discerning. I think you should talk to your BF about it. Maybe hook-up less often and enjoy being in the swinging scene more often without actually hooking up. We, my wife and I, find the energy alone in group situations is an aphrodisiac and then we turn that energy towards each other for great sex. No partners needed. Then once in awhile, adding another person or couple is wonderful as well. Fewer hook-ups, lots of sexual tension leading to great sex. Hope that makes sense.

My wife gets very wet and excited when I mention another mans cock but has said mine is enough for her. What can I do ? Please help me with solutions. I am not the jeaslous type been together for 13 years and I’m happy with her as she is happy with me. I want to spice things up on the bedroom

I don't suggest this path to anyone. But this seems like a crowd i can be honest with. Like most things I hate my own limitations. In the case of education athletics and theology...i immerse myself in the subject and let my intellectual curiosity run wild. I felt that sexuality was a box and I was happy navigating in it. In comes an amazing red head who flipped my world upside down. Shared her conquest and told me...love doesn't equate to sex. So we swing...she is my true north and allowed me to navigate appropriately. However the issue of what about size was always in the back of my head. With her not so much...so..in am effort to de sensitive all manner of porm was watched. But coupled with MDMA ( Yeah I know) honesty reemed it's lovely head. And proximity with another man wasn't an issue...which turned into curiosity...which turned into "bi-ish" behavior for both of us. May be a long post but I am still a rookie. I hate to say it. Don't knock it until you try it!

Great store that's kinda the way it start for me and my wife great story

I think couples that are fairly new to the lifestyle naturally have feelings of jealousy in the beginning. It seems to me most of that passes with experience, for most couples. The good news is with swinging you can choose what you enjoy and are comfortable with, it usually is a good idea to keep the pace of the slower partner. Too often than not, some male partners are just into the LS for their own satisfaction, and it ends up putting pressure on their spouses to keep up. It's really important to ask yourself if what you are doing is what you really desire, and not just bc your spouse wants it. If it is too damaging for you it will end up hurting the relationship, and you may not want to continue in the LS.

Well I think I should give a little history. We have been with a few couples where we have all enjoyed ourselves. In the beginning my bf was clear he would not get it on with just any couple so we were only choosing those who were a great match for us. We have also had the mmf which of course I really enjoyed because I had a great say in who we engaged with. Fast forward and now it seems like any couple will do, almost like it just doesn’t matter who they are, more like it is just desperation to get in on with others. Everyone has some idea in their minds what works for them, but as of late all of that has gone wayside. I do enjoy the lifestyle but I don’t need to play with every couple we meet. I do not want my life to become all about the LS, for me it is a little thing on the side to have fun with once in awhile. But as of now it just feels so desperate for him.

I'm straight & have sucked cock & had mine sucked. Was a great experience, making him cum.

Same room is like a party. You hear and see what the other couple(s) is doing, it can be very erotic. If part of the reason you're swinging is that you want to see and hear your partner as they enjoy themselves, this is the way to go. Separate room in more intimate. You get to concentrate on the person you're with, without distractions. If jealousy is an minor issue separate rooms can help the situation. Both are nice.