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We got very lucky, I think, that we went to our first club, first experience in the Lifestyle and it was pool night outdoors and lots of friendly couples to have conversations with. Even though there was more hard core stuff going on in different rooms elsewhere, for the most part, the experience was about listening to other couples school us in how to be safe and choosy. We could open up with each other about our sexuality with other non-judgemental people. The result of the evening wasn't sex with others just randomly, which is what I thought the Lifestyle was about - and something that turned me off about even considering it. What it was about for us was opening up each of us individually and as a couple about that wonderful sexuality we both have. And - OHMIGOD - we've been naked in our house for four days straight talking and my husband pretty much has a running hard on and we have had sex at least three times a day. I never knew the extent of how much or how often he wanted to have sex until now. At the club, after a couple of hours, I decided to just go for it and strip down to get in the pool and soon a crazy volleyball game ensued with several balls in the air and people in and out of the pool laughing and just having this incredibly joyful time - just existing and being free. Really, truly a wonderful experience that helped us set our boundaries personally since we were fortunate enough to have conversations with three couples who put us at ease about being picky and choosy and safety first. My husband said he is having such a fantastic time being able to walk nude around the house and stroke himself if he wants to - and I'm responding so much to his happiness and joy...truly, my heart is full of love for him.

Obviously, those in my poly family like my tits well enough. Among the three of us girls there is a good variety of me being tiny, Clair being fairly large and Lora nicely in the middle. My point in commenting here though is that of all the other guys who have commented on me being small breasted (at the gym, at work, running partners, etc.) secretly, down deep, really want to have a peak at whatever is actually there.

Maybe, Lioness, "anomaly" is sometimes spelled "fibber." I am old and still have issues with size, but not as much as when younger. For the record, I'm right in the middle of the normal length, a bit larger than average for girth. (Don't you just love that word, "girth?" One of those odd English words like pith, onomatopoeia, ... what's your favorite?). And for more of the record, I have spent all my life trying to get to the point where I "know what I'm doing" as it is a universally described by women as what they really want.

We prefer to be able to trust the couples that we play with and avoid as much drama as possible. Cheaters lack that trust and all too often are a promise of eventual drama...

The lifestyle is whatever the two of you decide it should be. It can be just sex with random people or couples, it can be FWB where you are doing what we call 'couples dating'. It can be full sex or soft (touching only, no intercourse) or same room sex (no touching). It is whatever you want it to be, but the biggest benefit is that it promotes closeness and openness between the two of you. Glad to hear that your first experience is a positive one and we look forward to hearing about what happens now. Best wishes.

The club has to pay for things like rent, light, heat/air conditioning, plus some kind of income for the employees and profit for the owners to live on... at a minimum. Got to make that money somehow.

Because there are not many swingers’ events and they want to make as much money as possible.

We, and seemingly every couple we know, keeps a cordless Hitachi Magic Wand charged and readily available during playtime. We use it during most play sessions. So, apparently, do our friends. For us, it reliably guarantees her multiple strong and sustained orgasms until she has 'had enough'--usually between half a dozen and a dozen. The nice thing about the cordless version is that it is easy to manipulate between us onto her clit regardless of what position we are in at any particular moment.

We would not knowingly play with cheaters. As a semi-retired lawyer, I do not want to attend a potential deposition about my sexploits with a wayward spouse. There are enough couples who are married to each other or divorced and dating. We don’t want to play with people cheating, although you would not always know.

Nice try David….here's some unsolicited advice: Get a girlfriend, build a relationship, discuss swinging with her, join and pay for membership in a couple of swinger sites, got to sponsored M&Gs or on premise swingers clubs, play as a committed couple. I promise you that you'll get way more sex doing that than what you just did above. Single men looking for NSA sex are a dime a dozen and in this hobby it is most assuredly a buyers market.

You make an excellent point. Thanks for the good wishes.