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Why were you embarrassed? I think he gave you a great compliment!

First and foremost, welcome to the community. Second, keep the questions coming, they are all good. It's well to understand that the dance floor at an on-premise club is a bit different than the dance floor at vanilla event. There is an understandable assumption that everyone at the on-premise club is interested, on some level, in the LS. Both of you are, otherwise you would not be planning to attend. You interest at this point may be interest in looking and watching. That's fine. What's important is to not send mixed signals. Let's assume that your wife (and you) have "put your sexy on". Well groomed, attractively (if not provocatively) dressed. You (plural) are in the dance area and one or both of you is approached by a couple and invited to dance. 1. It is perfectly okay to say 'no thank you' at this stage. (It is perfectly okay to say 'no thank you' at any stage, more on that in a moment.) If you (singular or plural) do not want to dance with him/her/them, just say 'no thanks, we're going to sit this one out'. No one will take offense. 2. Alternatively, let's assume that you (plural or singular), have at least some curiosity/interest in dancing with this couple and say yes. You have just agreed to some level of physical contact in an on-premise club. Dance is, after all, something that is done with a partner, and you have agreed--on some level -- to a partner exchange. In a vanilla setting, there is an explicit limit to how far the contact will go. In an on-premise club, there is no explicit limit. 3. In principle, escalation should occur only with clear consent: "May I touch/feel/kiss you?" (True gentlemen in the LS develop ways of asking such questions gracefully, sexily, exquisitely, yet clearly. Practice on your wife. She will tell you what sounds reasonable and even endearing. ) Sometimes, there is an alternative statement, "Please stop me if I say or do something that makes you uncomfortable." More often than not, the man will simply explore the boundary until he is--gently or firmly--asked to back off, stop, or whatever. Your wife should be prepared for this. And she should feel absolutely no discomfort in saying "no" at any time. That is part of the social contract of the LS. 4. Touch is often used as a surrogate for asking permission. A light touch on the arm that is not gently pushed away, an arm around the waist that is not pushed away is a signal of comfort. Pulling the "toucher" closer is a signal to continue. 5. A light kiss is hardly unusual and might even be expected. All of this is readily manageable. Here is what is likely to happen, assuming the other couple is more experienced than you are. This might not happen with the first couple you dance with. Or the second. Or the third. But it will happen. One or the other of them might invite you to have a drink with them after the dance. One or the other of them might ask if the two of you might like to find someplace 'more private'. Among experienced couples, it may well be the wife who says something to you. Really. Women run the LS. What has happened is that the other couple has already somehow communicated that they like you enough to 'get to know you better', and they have just thrown the ball into your court. At this point, you have a decision to make. Stop. Or continue the exploration. This is easy if there are no sparks, there is no chemistry felt by even one member of the foursome. But remember, they asked you to dance, so they already have shown at least a flicker of interest. And by whatever prearranged signal, you agreed that you found them attractive. And then you danced. So there is some probability--again, maybe not in the first or second or third couple but at some point --that all four of you found your dance partners interesting, intriguing, attractive. Here is where it gets interesting. You wrote: My wife is not at a point where she is comfortable with the idea of soft or full swap, (I am but have realized by reading up on this forum that the name of the game here is to go at the slowest partners pace so thats my intent, no pressure on her) so our intent is to go and have a great time and just be with each other sexually in the play area. You have already established that you are comfortable being in the play area and playing in the play area, and others will be watching in the play area. To a high degree of probability, both you and your wife are thinking--"it would be really nice to have this couple be the first to watch us in the play area, as opposed to some random strangers". So here's the advice: 1. Make sure that you have some prearranged non-verbal signals to verify that BOTH of you find a particular couple attractive enough to want to dance in the first place. Both of you should have veto power, no questions asked. And practice declining gracefully. 2. If you are invited to have a drink or more, again make sure that you have some prearranged non-verbal signal to verify that BOTH of you want to move forward. Again, BOTH of you have veto power, no questions asked. 3. When you decide you want to go to the play area, take advantage of your newbie status and say--quietly and clearly--"This is our first-time in an on-premise club. We'd like you to be the first to watch us." If the other couple is at all experienced, they will say "Sounds wonderful. Would you like to head to the play area together or meet us there?" This gives you a chance to confer with each other one more time, if you want. 4. Expect the other couple to be playing nearby in the play area. For the first time at a club, we would suggest that you two stick together as a couple. If there is no couple that you connect with on visit 1, do not fret. It will happen on visit 2. Enjoy the journey.

Just watched "Palm Swings" on Showtime. It is a very accurate portrayal of a new couple first getting into the lifestyle and what happens when rules are not laid out from the beginning and love/trust/communication are not established from the beginning. Some of the acting is somewhat cheesy but the story line is excellent. It is a very accurate portrayal of how drama can occur in the LS, but it does have a happy ending. Showtime is currently having a free weekend preview on DirectTV at least and I figure the other providers have it as well. I highly recommend that you DVR this movie while it is available and then watch at your convenience.

We do the "sloppy seconds" thing & I absolutely LOVE it!! My man loves fuking me right after another has finished inside of me. He tells me to stay laying down on my back until he is ready to enjoy me (normally after our company leaves). We stick with a small circle of playmates & he always screens very well for us so we play as safe as possible. I can't get enough of the way he lingers with & admires my body after getting filled by another man. I can really tell how much he enjoys it by how he takes me afterwards! I hafta admit that one major reason I enjoy being with other men is because of how great & sexy he makes me feel after! I also like to clean off my hubby's dik after he soaks it in my filled V. If we play with a female I always hope she is also okay with getting filled up because then I eat my hubby's cum out of her & clean her up as much as possible. However, we do feel like pubic hair is pretty gross & we prefer you shaved. Its cleaner in general but you can also tell if there's any visible soars or what not.

With one couple we really trusted, after a few months we decided to go bareback. After we had a session and they left, my wife and I often had reclaiming sex, as we did after couples and men where they used condoms. My wife was a freak about using tissue on herself after sex, but still when her insides were coated with our friend's sperm, it was always much silkier, lube wasn't necessary at all. Yeah, it was hot and wonderful. But still, don't let this fantasy get away from you; worry about STDs and pregnancy; play safe.

The easy way to do it is to just do it without thinking about it. How do you think women swallow cum, it is not as gross as you think.

Free to go... Well not really. My husband and I have gone with others alone for one reason or another but there are some limits. We play with others to enjoy our sexuality not to exclude the other. My husband leave the room while I'm with others but not because he feels left out or unwanted, maybe he's tired or he found other holes to fill, and the same goes for me. We may go play with others on our own but there are still limits. He won't run off and leave me at home feeling down about the situation or hurt. I've stayed home because I didn't want to play or I was playing with others. If your true partner can be pleasured and not care how your feeling have been hurt than they shouldn't be your partner at all. We don't play into the sad pathetic cuck sitting useless on the side just to be insulted.

When Mr. Mimi and I met, I wasn't at all interested in male bi play. However, a post on this sight regarding male play got me so turned on that we have now added that, with the blessing of the Mr., to our repertoire. I have seen him get his cock sucked while I was riding our play partner and I almost rode that poor man in to the ground, I was so turned on. Next, I can't wait to see the Mr. suck cock. So excited that, because of this board, we are able to explore this fantasy together.

Yummy. I love watching gay porn, makes me SO wet. My husband has sucked and been sucked. He isn't bi at all - just open minded about what feels good. Lately he's been talking a lot about wanting to get fucked in the ass by a real cock (and not just me with a strap-on LOL). I hope we can make this fantasy of his come true!! MY fantasy is for him to fuck me while he's getting fucked in the ass. Talk about orgasm!!!! Lol

Brian and I are both bi. I love to watch him with another man either as he is being fucked or when he is fucking the guy himself. It is a huge turn-on for me I must admit.