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Sorry that I prattled on, but once I got started... I would never say that. I came to the Swingersboard over ten years ago looking to see if anyone else was in a situation similar to mine (being openly romantically and sexually involved with two men). Members were all patient, helpful, and shared even the most personal details. So now I try to do my bit. I expected to find on the Swingersboard men who undeceptively had multiple women sex partners (isn't that the cliché?), but not so many women with multiple lovers. Turns out that many women have multiple partners even when married, some are romantic, but surprising to me, many were just for the sex. Swingersboard reassured me as my guys, then I, opened up to playing with other women and couples. I find it is important to understand the complications of all this. Sex is personal, it is romantic and it is for making beautiful babies. But as I've found in my development, sex can also be a social activity, it can be as intense with other women as with men; and as I have come to realize, it can be simple fun without anything further. Since before puberty, I have had intense sex with myself by myself, creating fantasies, feeling good inside. In lonely hotel rooms far from home, I still find my sexual fulfillment by myself, just two fingers moving inside and a thumb above, ideas in my head. Fulfillment while at home in bed deep kissing her pussy to make one of my women orgasm while one of my guys is behind me working us to orgasms. Fulfillment in having group sex as social bonding with the few outsiders we share such intimacies with. Sex is also my drug. In the morning it makes me enthusiastic for the day; at night it prepares me for sleep. In the middle of the day, sex renews a day going badly. But I control the drug, it doesn't control me; it waits for me to summon it whenever I want. Or because of the wonderful relationships that I am in, I can give in to the desires of one of my partners whenever there is a hand on my breast or down my pants, or a tug to the bedroom. Sex may not have been on my mind at that moment but my arousal is immediate and the acts satisfying. Indeed, we are a mature bunch. But everyone ultimately has their own self interest at heart, and I dare say that each of us is getting more out of our arrangement than we could find any other way. We have multiple people who love us so as to take care of all of our children. The older ones have asked who their mother and father (biological parents) are. We told them and with their curiosity settled, they just moved on. Who better to rely upon to take care of those with whom I am intimate should anything happen to me than those who also are intimate with them? There is also the self-interest of having the sexual variety of multiple partners, and the financial benefit of the economies of scale. Another characteristic of our poly family arrangement is that everyone stays humble and grounded. If two of us fight, the combatants will stomp off into the arms of other family members, who inevitably will both console them and talk sense into them. Being told that you may not be 100% in the right, along with seeing your adversary seeking and being given affection by another family member tends to make arguments short-lived.

I don't like being viewed as a toy. Just be real clear what you are looking for in meeting other women and that your wife may not reciprocate.