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So you would like to host a swinger party at your house. A number of things you need to decide: - Invite only people you know? - Invite people you know, but perhaps allow them to invite another couple? - How many couples do you want to invite? - Invite people you don't know? - Do you have areas in the house appropriate for play? Do you need to purchase blow up mattresses, sheets, etc.? - Are there areas in your house you don't want people in (typically closed doors take care of that)? - Are you going to ask guests to bring a snack to share? Are you serving food? - Do you have accommodations (bed/air mattress/sheets/pillow) for some people to stay over if needed? Parties we host as well as attend are typically bring your own booze and condoms. We'll supply soft drinks, water, and usually a few bottles of wine. Window coverings...you don't want neighbors and passers-by looking in. Noise...keep windows closed. So of course first you need to invite people, not much of a party without that The invite list is hard to put together as 1) There will be a number of people that decline right away, or accept and don't wind up attending for some reason and 2) If you account for no shows and create a larger invite list, you may find that EVERYONE shows up so you need to make sure you have room. Here's how we prepare, your mileage may vary: - Clean clean clean. - Prep food, soft drinks, get ice, etc. - In each bathroom have mouthwash and disposable cups. - In each bathroom have a bundle of clean washcloths, and a bucket/basket to put the dirty cloths into. You can get washcloths pretty cheap a Wal-Mart, Target, etc. - In our upstairs bathroom have towels available in case anyone wants a shower. - Clear our areas where we as going to put blow up mattresses. For us that means moving a few coffee tables. - Put sheets or comforters on any beds that are used for play. - Have towels available in the play areas for covering the bed...for the wet spots! - We have a hot tub and ask people to bring towels, but will put out extras in case people forget. - Though people usually bring their own condoms we will put a few out here and there. After all of the guests have arrived, and people have been talking a bit, but before play, we go over any "rules", bathroom locations, play area locations, etc. The only "rules" we go over is no means no (especially if your spouse says it! lol) and areas of the house not to go in. A closed door on the bedroom means do not disturb. Since we may be outside in the hot tub, remind people that the neighbors are not that far away so avoid any sex sounds!

This whole thread made me sick to my stomach. Fetishizing Black people is so yuck.

I'm not sure "determined to pursue it" is the right description. I am curious about it and turned on by the thought, but if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. If it does happen, it will be 100% because she chose to pursue it. I'm not going to beg or pester her. Just talk about it and take it very slowly.

I don't like being viewed as a toy. Just be real clear what you are looking for in meeting other women and that your wife may not reciprocate.

Blah, blah, blah!! You're in the perfect place to give this hobby a look. Spend a few saturday's at Haulover beach, chat with other naked couples. Swingers are easy to identify when naked. Set a few rules for yourselves and go to Trapeze on a Sunday night. The crowd is smaller and less frenetic than saturday night but it's always a friendly group. Dress provocatively, have dinner, chat with people, relax with a few adult beverages. Then go to the back in the provided towels. Again, walk around, look around, chat with people, stay close to each other and talk about what you're seeing. Stay within your initial rules that first night. You'll have lots to discuss when you get home that night and during the next week or so between bouts of wild monkey sex. Trust me, if nothing else, a night there observing will be a hugely erotic experience

My wife and I first time was with a 46 year old black single neighbor. We lived across from him for 5 years. After we got to know him, we found him to be very kind and well liked by a lot of people. He began inviting us to his social parties. He and my wife became close. I had wanted to share her with another man, but she refused. One night at one of his parties the moment was right, my wife and I stayed behind to help clean up and after awhile I noticed I was a lone. In his bedroom I found him with his pants unzipped and my wife on her knees enjoying his penis. I watched them undress and have sex and things for over an hour. They were exhausted. They fell asleep. I went home because I had to pay the baby sitter and be sure the kids were in bed. She spent the night with him which became very common over the next three years. She came home around four the next afternoon tired, her privates sore and well satisfied. After that, we met many swingers at his parties and we have been swinging ever since.

Friends throw a periodic intimate party at their house, generally 6-8 couples and one single male. They assured us upon our initial invite that the guy was very respectful and fun to have around. We had our doubts but since we knew the host couple and one other couple in the group, we gave it a shot. Turns out that "Bob" was all that and more. He's a tall, thin guy in his 40's, very nice looking, with a bigger than average penis and is a guy who believes in the concept of ladies first. He didn't cull out one of the women and pound her silly in a separate room and then angle for the next, the guy paid attention to the group dynamic and initially was the 2nd dick in a 3-some with Mrs Doc and me. He moved off after a bit but came back when invited but was never pushy and clearly respected the husband/wife relationship with everyone there. We joked later that Bob had broken the code. He came twice, bonked 4 middle aged women, and was a part of somewhere around a dozen orgasms, some of Mrs Doc's included. We have since been to several additional parties and found that the guy was an absolute gentleman. He's a far cry from some of the trolls we've encountered at other house parties and some swingers clubs. We would invite him to our home and that's saying a lot.

Well, there’s the method used by this cowboy buddy of mine. He walked into a bar the other night and happened to see this good looking young lady sitting alone at the bar. He walked up and sat down on the stool beside her without saying a word, he just gave her a warm smile and a nod of his hat before diverting his attention back to his watch. As he was totally focused on his watch the young lady kept taking furtive glances in his direction, attempting to figure out what he was doing. Finely curiosity got the best of her, “excuse me, I don’t mean to pry but would you mind telling me what you’re doing?” With a warm smile he replied, “oh it’s nothing really, I’ve just got this hi-tech watch and I’m testing it out. It telepathically communicates with people near me and relays that information back to me.” The young lady was now intrigued, “that’s fascinating, did it tell you anything about me.” The cowboy replied with a sheepish smile, “yes mam it did, it said that you weren’t wearing any panties.” The young lady chuckle as she replied, “well I hope you didn’t pay too much for that watch because it’s giving you faulty information.” The cowboy feverishly goes through the functions on the watch for a few moments before stating, “Oh here’s the problem, the damn things an hour fast.”

Oh, yes! We just bought a barn style double lofted shed “the dEluxe” kind. It just happens to be 20’ long, that is the solid wall of the biggest cabana area. So, there is the shed, a U shaped cabana, open garden area and “outdoor kitchen” next to our outbuilding that is my shop / laundry room (H2O & power!) We have free WIFI, room for an RV or two (ours is 39’ long)and are rural. Maybe we’ll become an attraction in the Arizona events mag! Pole barn! Big common area pole barn!

As a single female I never attend parties alone based on my experiences with both single and married men at parties, and I will only attend with a well trusted partner.

"predatory males are unfortunatly the norm; that's how it is because that is the male nature" I disagree. I and my ex attended many a house party and went to swinger's clubs. In general, I would characterize single males at those places respectful and reasonable. Not all of them, there's always a jerk or two. But most of them were quite nice to talk to.

In our youthful days where we went to house parties (large), we only saw one single fellow. He was the bartender. The night was essentially over with only a few of us diehards still managing to get it back up and go for some more. Mrs Afterwork was somewhere in the house, but a trek from party room to party room had her not found. I went to the main party room where she was finally seen straddling our host's face while the host's wife was straddling his cock. Mrs Afterwork was deeply exchanging lip and nipple kisses from Mrs Host. Everyone was naked. I sat down a few feet away from this sight using a wall for a back brace with my cock becoming quite hard watching these two ladies pleasure and be pleasured. Then walked in our only single fellow, the Bartender, a black young man sporting an extremely thick and large hard on. As he started to walk past Mrs Afterwork, she grabbed his cock and began stroking it towards her face. At that moment, a young lady that I had no notion as to who she was sat down beside me saying, "Looks like you are enjoying the show." She began stroking my cock (I was really young then) for its third effort of the night. I saw Mrs Afterwork dismount the face of the Host and pull the bartener down onto her saying, "Go gentle with that big black beast and fuck me." I guess my reaction was gratifying to the young lady as she said "Oh my, you just harded up really well." She started pumping me with her mouth and I stroked and fingered her cum soaked pussy. She pulled her mouth off and took hold of my cock pulling me out to the action saying, "Lets get a better look as Sid and your wife." I had no idea his name and I still didn't know her. She knelt down at an oblique angle toward the missionary pair of Mrs Afterwork and the black bartender. Mrs. Afterwork was reaching up with here tiny legs trying to give him greater access. My new friend said yelled stick it in me, to which I obliged. It really wasn't his skin color, or his being single, it was the huge size I saw Mrs Afterwork taking. The two of us watching this moment were nearly on top of them, when my new friend reached underneath the mass of a cock and stuck a finger in Mrs Afterwork's ass. She began yelling at Mrs Afterwork to fuck him and fuck him hard just like her husband was doing to her. Perhaps I misunderstood, by I took that to mean I was to pound as hard as I could and at the same time I stuck two fingers into her ass. She screamed so loud that it caused Mrs Afterwork to do the same with all four of us coming at the same time. My contribution was minimal having spent myself twice before, I pulled out and started to remove my fingers when she glared back at me yelling keep them in and keep pumping. She was doing the same to Mrs. Afterwork. The bartender had enormous load and it was still spewing from his cock. He moved up to Mrs. Afterwork who did her best to swallow what was still coming out but she could not concentrate as my new found friend was lapping up the cum left in Mrs Afterwork's pussy from the bartender. I so wanted to be hard again. So, in general, we don't like single men or women at house parties. But on that one and only instance, wow.

...I've been a single guy at house parties many times, always at invitation...so one can conclude that I've been "vetted" as a single for parties, at least in my locale...I have no interest in going to clubs and being another "sausage" on the sidelines...house parties are intimate and casual; most of the couples know each other and everyone is extremely casual and likeminded...and that is what I love most about the house party environment...conversations are always fun/interesting...and people are REAL...