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So, the wife & I paid our first ever visit to a club at the weekend. This was the very first time for us both as we are total newbies to the lifestyle. We had discussed at length over the last few months what we were happy to do, we set boundaries but went with a complete open mind because we weren't exactly sure what to expect but were certain we were not going to go past our limits this time. So we got there & got checked in to our room (this club has separate hotel rooms for those wishing to stop over & it's an hour & half drive for us). We got ready, shirt & trousers for me & our lass in a stunning Basque & stockings under a velvet dress. We were shown round by one of the club staff who was very helpful. By then a few couples had started to arrive so we grabbed a drink & sat down. Now we had already decided about how far we were prepared to go if we met a couple that we liked but we sat & watched for a while just to get a feel for the night & how a club night went. After a few hours a few of the ladies vanished off to the locker room & returned looking stunning....lace, leather, boots, heels ??. There was one couple that caught both of our attention but they seemed very popular with other folk as they arrived so we didn't bother them. We had a look around the play rooms but by then it was getting way too hot for our lass in her outfit so we went back upstairs where she changed into a baby doll & heels & went back down. We found a private play room & went for a cuddle & 20 mins us time & spoke about how we both felt so far & all was great....She felt sexy! That alone made the evening for me as she's ALWAYS been so down & unconfident with her body but seeing her walking around in a club wearing a sexy outfit & not being bothered too much about her body made me so proud of her. She fancied a massage from one of the members who runs the dungeon (his massages are legendary there we were told) so she hopped up onto the table & started to receive a light spanking from this gentleman while I watched (she likes a bit of light bondage so wasn't phased by this). After a few mins of this she beckoned me over & told me to stand infront or her & she gave me the greatest BJ ever whilst she was getting a rub down. To cut a long story short, she ended up naked on her back, with my cock in her mouth, the gentleman playing with her pussy & having both her boobs kissed, sucked & played with by him & another lady that asked to join us. She was in heaven. That was as far as it went other than the pair of us going to our room & having the best sex we've had in many a year. Over all were we happy with how it went??? The answer is deffo yes. It was a great night even if it was slightly daunting to begin with. We know what we want from a night, we know we need to talk to more folk & hopefully that will lead to a bit more fun for both of us. The main thing is Mrs W was happy, her self confidence has grown no end so we can now start on building our experience up. We're planning on going back next month if we can get the time off together but we are in no hurry, we don't want to rush in & ruin the experience. I can see a lot of fun ahead of us both!!!

Sorry haven't posted in a while....Weve talked about it for 3 years now and tonights the night we check it all out. Weve discussed boundaries...taking it slow...relaxing...ect my nerves are all over the place rignt now but in a good way!! Weve agreed that we want to be voyeurs then exhibitionist . my lady's bi curious so she is open to that but not ready for another male in thr picture just yet... Any advice I can give her or y'all can give me lmao? What should I expect? Thanks everyone!!!

My personal opinion is the fewer the playtime rules the better. I honestly couldn't imagine watching how my wife sucks another mans cock, paying attention to how she is doing it to see if she is breaking a rule. That wouldn't be enjoyable at all. If you're watching for that you're not enjoying yourself with your partner. You may not be watching for it per-say but you look over and question, is she deep throating him? That instantly takes you out of your play time. Now you're more worried about the rules than fucking. I think you guys need to sit down and discuss the rules again. Work through why it would be okay to suck a mans cock but not okay to deep throat or play with the balls? Wouldn't it make more sense, be more enjoyable and honestly easier all around if you could agree that if your wife would like to suck another mans cock, she should suck his cock however she feels comfortable sucking it? If both of you are comfortable enough to have sex with another couple or single, why would kissing be considered too intimate? Is it really something that needs to be avoided? I completely understand having rules and level of comfort. Are we a full or soft swap couple? Do we play in same or different rooms? Will we play with friends or coworkers? Will we hot wife or do hall passes? Will we only pay safe or will play without condoms with select people be permitted? The lifestyle is full of things to discuss and to agree upon ahead of time. Having said that, you guys are in the lifestyle to have sex with other people. That means giving and receiving as much pleasure as you possibly can. If my wife is comfortable doing something she will do it. If she is not she will let her play partner know. Once we start to play we have zero restrictions. There is no, you do this only with me or.. you don't do this with me so you can't with someone else. My wife doesn't swallow my cum. She's tried it and does not particularly enjoy it. So I don't cum in her mouth. On two separate occasions she has taken her partner in her mouth and swallowed some portion of it. In that moment, with this person, in this sexy environment it is what she wanted to do. What logical reason would I have for getting upset by that? What you do is completely up to you. That may not work for everyone but it works very well for us. Talk it through, let go of insecurities and enjoy your journey into opening up your marriage.

JandKinBoise, If as you posit and it is a mutual way that they deal with some issue and she is blind to his "cheating" by her choice, and it is an accommodation to help an otherwise good relationship function , then Yes I would mind my own business. If , however he is a cheat and therefore a liar I would steer a wide path around him. I steer the same clearance around anyone who I now lies in any area. A butcher who underweighs, a car dealer who knowingly sells defective cars, a contractor who promises the moon with a track record of not delivering each will lie and cheat in other area as well and I want no part of it. If I have a reason to distrust someone or their partner, then playing is off the table. I know that does not totally eliminate risk. I can always be fooled by a really good story, but that is life. Knowingly stepping into it is , for me, just plain out of the question.

No it's just a rumor. I'm black and ive been getting looked at strange for as long as i can remember because I'm average at most (even thats a stretch). I just recently quit caring about my lack of size according to the stereotype. Race has jack to do with penis size

Good news is that you both meet the most important test and that is you are willing to talk about it. Reasons are unimportant what is important is communication. Talk rool play and then go for if you are both interested. We did long ago, but as I remember when we agreeded to give it a try we also agreeded if it was not something we wanted to do again we would not judge each other. Truth is other than nerves the first time and not know how to get rid of the other couple after we did it so we could talk and make sure we were both still ok with everything, we had a blast and wanted to do it again maybe with a few less gitters. Been doing it ever since and it's only brought us closer, we are still each others best friend and lover, but a little new adventure now and then adds to our relationship and while having sex with others is fun and exciting we have no desire to spend the night sleeping next to anyone but each other.

Blah, blah, blah!! You're in the perfect place to give this hobby a look. Spend a few saturday's at Haulover beach, chat with other naked couples. Swingers are easy to identify when naked. Set a few rules for yourselves and go to Trapeze on a Sunday night. The crowd is smaller and less frenetic than saturday night but it's always a friendly group. Dress provocatively, have dinner, chat with people, relax with a few adult beverages. Then go to the back in the provided towels. Again, walk around, look around, chat with people, stay close to each other and talk about what you're seeing. Stay within your initial rules that first night. You'll have lots to discuss when you get home that night and during the next week or so between bouts of wild monkey sex. Trust me, if nothing else, a night there observing will be a hugely erotic experience

Looks like everyone has their own rules. Kissing, if you read all the posts, is a big rule for some couples. I don’t understand that rule, I think it just is a way for some to think they aren’t being intimate. To me that’s crazy. If I can kiss a penis or vagina why not lips? For not giving your all on a blow job I ask why are you there with someone else. Do you hold back too? I can’t answer on dryness. Is it age or an infection? Does she ever have this at home?