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Thanks, all. I really appreciate the responses. I guess I have to remember that if he were thinking about something similar for a long time and it was new to me, it would take me a while to wrap my head around it, as well. I actually probably wouldn't have taken it as well as he did! I also think my first reaction was, "We'll try this soon!" And after reading these responses and other threads on this board, I'm realizing that for many, the conversation happens over a matter of months or YEARS even before anything takes off (if it does at all). So I guess I really need to be patient and start small. I like the idea of pointing out other potential partners and things of that nature. Just to get comfortable talking about other people and things like that. I respect my husband and would definitely never do anything to make him not trust me. As many of you said, we just need to keep communicating.

My late wife once said to me, "If I allow a man to put his cock in me, Darling, I expect him to come inside me. If I didn't want him to, I wouldn't be fucking him." Another time she said, "When I have cum inside me, I feel so sexy! When we swap and I have two men's cum inside, it's even sexier! Did you know that 60% of women have cum in their pussies at any given time?" "I didn't know that, Sweetheart, but I have heard that 60% of statistics are made up on the spot," I replied. "Sloppy seconds" weren't a treat for us, it was a normal part of swinging.

I agree, try a club. Online is online and you really never know... It's not something I would be open to.

Labels are needed to ensure the group of naked people are on the same page. Our brains are wired very differently and each of us has our opinion and feelings about sex. Sure, if everyone was just like you, there would be no need for labels. Bisexual is probably the most widely defined sex term since people fall all over the bi range.

It doesn't sound as if you've talked to him about your concerns. Why not? Is it difficult to bring it up to him? I could be wrong about the lines I'm reading between but if you two haven't talked about what's wrong in your sex life then entering into a swinging lifestyle isn't going to fix whatever is broken. It will expose and magnify it. Good luck.

Yes! haha And I honestly didn't do it on purpose. :/ I'm usually good about double checking things like that, but I think I got too busy with my kids...oops. But in some ways, I was glad I made that mistake because I think it would have taken me a lot longer to actually bring up the topic! I'm so glad he was the one who brought it up first!

To be successful in swinging (as well with any relationship) you need an abundance of love, trust and great communication. It sounds like you could work on at least on or two of these. Start with the communication: talk with him and find out what it is he is looking for. There should be boundaries and rules so you both know what is and isn't allowed (and never violate them). He 'likes' the idea of swinging but gets mad whenever you actually DO anything...that just sounds weird and requires more discussion. Maybe once you start he runs into problems about trusting you? No matter what, the word 'pushing' (as in encouraging/pushing you to do more) sounds less than loving. You need to both sit down and talk about this. What are his fantasies? What is he asking you to do? What limits? Does he want to get with other couples or does he want to only see you with other men? Other women? Talk with him and work together to find the answers and things that you are both interested in making become a reality...but don't allow him to push you into anything you are not interested in. Swinging is a magnifying glass: it can make a great relationship more intense, but it can burn and destroy a weak relationship. Let us know what happens and good luck with wherever you decide to go with this.

Is that the website that says "if you want to talk to your partner about swinging, just leave this webpage open"? No matter what happens from here, the subject has just been opened up for him. He will need some time to think and research the subject before he can make a complete, thought thru decision. Give him that time. He might want to continue, or he might not...or it may just take him awhile to wrap his head around this. You have been thinking about this for awhile, but he started thinking about it last night. If he does say that he isn't interested, then you really need to stop this (for the time being). He might come back later and readdress the subject...or he may never be interested. Some people just aren't 'wired' for this and nothing you do will change that. Give him some time and space (and assure him that you won't continue and/or do ANYTHING without him being on board) and keep the lines of communication open. There's no rush and there really needs to be no pressure. In order to be successful in swinging, he needs to be able to trust you 100%, don't do anything that will give him the idea that you are not being completely trustworthy. Love, trust and communication. Every relationship needs all three in abundance, so work on making sure he feels great about all three (nothing bad can ever happen from having too much of any of them) and give him some time. Please let us know how things go from here and we wish you success with whatever the decision is.

Having new experiences can lift up your sex life. A nice evening at a bed and breakfast. A foray into something new, such as light bondage. There's a wonderful book called '101 Nights of Great Sex' by Laura Corn, available from Amazon and others. Basically, there's a number of sealed 'experiments' for either her or him. You open them secretly, then plan a night of sex. Before we got into swinging, it really helped my wife and I. Having said that, swinging or thinking about it can get your motor running as well. Just make sure you go at the speed of the slowest partner, communicate and have fun. Good luck.

First off. Welcome. Glad to have you. The answer to your first question is yes. It is a normal reaction. Your entire post could have been written by a close friend of mine. She is curious. He is not and very jealous. We don't pursue them because we don't want to cause them to fight. We refuse to play with any couple if we feel it will damage a relationship. I suggest exploring this site together. Search keywords for your questions. I can almost guarantee someone has already asked them. Including the Jealousy and apprehension issues. Communication with your spouse is usually the answer to most of the problems. Sounds like you are ahead of the game in that regard.

It was my wife who didn't like seeing me with the other wives. And, knowing that, it did affect my enjoyment with the other wives, knowing my wife wasn't comfortable with it. But I loved watching her with the other husbands enough that it made it all worthwhile. I just hope the other wives didn't feel a bit cheated. Looking back, we should have simply found a perfect other, single, man. But you've been contemplating, fantasizing, about this for a while and the thought is brand new to him. Take your time and discuss it. And enjoy that prep time because it can be fun and make the actual first event more comfortable. When you two are out in public, point out other couples and discuss, if they were potential partners, how much each of you like them. Getting used to your spouse talking about how hot someone else is helps to mitigate old feelings of jealousy. And time does change things. Now we don't swing anymore but she's fine with me mentioning how hot some gal is and I love it when she says something about other men. Heck, she even points out a girl with a pretty face or great body. And I do the same with some hot young man.

That's because the monopole doesn't exist, ∇⋅B = 0. But seriously, I'm deciding now whether to have another child along with Clair and Lora. But either way, after that I'm going to have myself permanently fixed. It will be a new freedom.

It depends? Don't judge least yiou be judged, so while we don't cheat we don't judge others that do.

We do the "sloppy seconds" thing & I absolutely LOVE it!! My man loves fuking me right after another has finished inside of me. He tells me to stay laying down on my back until he is ready to enjoy me (normally after our company leaves). We stick with a small circle of playmates & he always screens very well for us so we play as safe as possible. I can't get enough of the way he lingers with & admires my body after getting filled by another man. I can really tell how much he enjoys it by how he takes me afterwards! I hafta admit that one major reason I enjoy being with other men is because of how great & sexy he makes me feel after! I also like to clean off my hubby's dik after he soaks it in my filled V. If we play with a female I always hope she is also okay with getting filled up because then I eat my hubby's cum out of her & clean her up as much as possible. However, we do feel like pubic hair is pretty gross & we prefer you shaved. Its cleaner in general but you can also tell if there's any visible soars or what not.

This happened to me the other night...only had a couple beers though. Twice in foursome situations I couldn't get hard. It's never ever happened when I'm alone with my wife...hell sometimes just hugging her makes me hard. I just don't get it....

Ms. Gold used to be a teacher and when we were first dating she told me that teachers (in her experience) are kinky...apparently she was right. Never met anyone we know yet but it will be exciting when it happens.