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Peek: I never said that there was anything wrong with you taking your top off on the boat. In fact, we highly recommend it (and did the same thing last weekend). One thing we do wish is that nudity was more accepted in the U.S. You can show an endless stream of people shot and killed on TV, but don't let any of them show a nipple while it is happening... Violence on TV has been accepted as common place, but nudity is still considered 'dirty'...something is wrong here. We are all nude under our clothes, but we are not all violent. The body is a thing of great beauty, too bad it is treated as something that needs to be covered (and yet so much of advertising deals with sexual themes). The U.S. pretends that we are so open and tolerant of others beliefs/race/sexual orientation/etc but in reality, we can't handle seeing something that has so much beauty. Take away the designer clothes and how do you tell who is privileged and who isn't? And we wonder why so many people have body issues...sorry, but it's just sad. Rant over...

My wife and I were also married for about 17 years before our best friends and fellow nudists seduced us and we both thought it was the best thing that ever happened to us. We have continued to be very close to them even though they eventually divorced and remarried other people we also know. Our male friend's new wife died a few years ago so we became very close to him and have had threesomes and my wife has had a lot of alone times with him. Right now he has found another woman, which is fine with us, but it is a little sad too because, even though he doesn't seem to realize it, my wife detects that she is a bit jealous and we don't want the possible drama. By the way, my wife and I are about 6 months short of being married for 50 years, so the abandonment of monogamy has not been bad for our relationship and has actually added a lot to it.

The Europeans are so much more comfortable with nudity. It seems that it's just a natural part of life. My experience is mostly Germany and France. There's been nothing sexual about it at all unless you visit the spas and clubs set up for it(of which there are plenty). Munich now has urban naked zones which have become quite popular.

It has nothing to do with me not being able to satisfy my wife. It's about her pleasure and I enjoy seeing that. If a guy is bigger than me or can do things in bed I can't, it doesn't bother me at all.

I wrote this for a blog at some point: ~~~~~~~~~ Are you a cuckold? And do you care? In this world, cuckold is usually considered to be a derogatory term. Technically, any husband who's wife sleeps with other men is a cuckold, and society automatically condemns him. (Of course, any wife who sleeps with other men is a ‘slut’ and is condemned, but that’s another blog!) In actuality, there are three different connotations of the word ‘cuckold.’ If your wife is sleeping around, one of them fits you. The first usage is ‘standard’ and has a historical context behind it. The term was invented in the middle of the eleventh century and comes from ‘cuckoo’ - that bird has the habit of using other bird’s nest to lay their eggs. It usually meant a man who’s wife was having adulterous affairs with one or more other men. This was a big deal well into the nineteenth century, because a wife was a man’s property. There are plenty of court cases where men sued other men for improper usage of their goods. Of course, if they brought the Earl to court, the men usually got snickered at. This definition continues into modern time to describe a man who’s spouse is cheating on him without his knowledge or agreement. Now, of course, girls are much more equal than they used to be, and I suspect that many more married women are sharing themselves than used to be before the women’s liberation movement and the invention of effective birth control. (I, for one, applaud the revolution!) In the modern context, the term ‘cuckold’ has evolved. The second definition is used for some men who have the fetish of their wives having sex outside the marriage and humiliating them in the process. The affront can start with simple embarrassment of the man, (“I slept with Jake today, what are you going to do about it?) to the wife forcing him to watch as she screws someone. She might tell him about the large size of the man who’s screwing him, comparing it to his tiny penis. She might make him wear a cock cage so that he isn’t allowed to orgasm except when she’s willing. Often, he tends to think of himself as a sissy. While this isn’t my cup of tea, if it makes you happy, who am I to judge? Finally, there’s the ‘modern’ definition. Today there are many couples who engage in swinging and/or hotwifing. With her husband’s permission and (sometimes) participation, a wife is promiscuous. In these situations, the man is technically a cuckold. But since he doesn’t view his wife as ‘property’, he isn’t upset or threatened by her infidelity. In fact he often encourages it to both their pleasure. Are you a cuckold? If so, which kind?

We have a strict 'condom only' rule. While Ms. Gold isn't going to get pregnant now, it protects against STDs (you never really know if someone has one or not, even if they have been tested) and against emotional issues (keeps the other guy from getting 'too personal'). That's just how we decided to roll...

Great commercial (and that's something I don't get to say very often). Slight shift in topic: the commercial for the drug Farxiga. Am I the only one that notices the one guy (presumably the instructor) is dancing with one of the women, then the two women are dancing together, and then afterwards all three seem very friendly with each other and the go out for lunch...am I reading too much into this one?

I'll admit I didn't read all of the above responses but it seems that gaga keeps coming back to being concerned about jealousy. If you have an awesome relationship with your partner where you totally trust each other, you can talk about everything, and you love each other completely, the jealousy doesn't have a chance to rear its ugly head. I was a very insecure, jealous person when I was (much) younger and would have never thought about swinging with my ex (the love/trust/communication just wasn't there) but with this relationship, it has never been a problem. I KNOW she's coming home with me...no doubt about it. We only play together, same room, and both enjoy having fun with another but also looking over at our partner and seeing that they are enjoying themselves as well. It's, for lack of a better term, a sense of pride knowing that we can give each other this freedom and trust. Now some people just aren't 'wired' for swinging...most people aren't wired for swinging, but when you have an incredible relationship and this is something that the both of you decide to do together, then jealousy just doesn't come into play. Swinging will make a great, strong relationship even better (the sprinkles on top), but it will also show ever crack and flaw in a weak relationship. If you want to proceed, make sure your relationship is a great one first, then see if it is something that she would be willing to entertain.

Bear and I are 51 - we prefer couples from 40-60. Our kids range in age from 22-33 and we agreed it’d be too weird for us to go lower in age than our kids. The other night We met a group of people in their late 20’s and we had some great conversation but it was too similar to talking to our kids and their friends so we kept it light and fun.

Mrs. Alura and I never gave up Emotional Monogamy. We never gave up "Making Love" together. Now, "fucking for fun"? That was different.

No jealous issues and we'd like to try a couple

Not necessarily germane to this situation, but your comment about "especially in women" is so true despite the efforts of the PC crowd to tell us that there is no difference between men and women. Women have that sense, men don't. In my experience.

Thanks for the feedback. The reviews I have seen have been in the last few weeks. Our experience with other non-lifestyle resorts recently has been mixed. Some on the mainland seem to ignore the non membership guests to the point where beach service doesn't exist, concierge service is fine up to the point you decline membership etc. Just wanting to make sure this isn't happening at Pearl before we book a trip. As far as other water sports, I love diving but don't plan on spending that kind of time away from her on a lifestyle vaca. I don't think she would be all that comfortable being left alone. At least not on our first trip. Cozumel is a better diving destination anyway. I've walked through Hedo while staying at Sandals next door. Seems like a pretty wild and crazy party atmosphere and not really the vibe we're looking for. Pearl seems to be more our style so wanted to be sure it wouldn't be a bust.

Mrs two4you and I were talking about that ad campaign the other day. We figure someone involved in the development knows a little something, because the comments were too spot-on in some instances. Anyway, I'd gladly sling with the lead female in that ad series.

You are hot. Would service you for hours.

So we talked about everything. And it went very well. Talked about the potential for disaster if we do this with a friend and she agreed probably not the best idea. I said how since we are both at different levels of what we would allow happen. That we should start off with another couple. And she was like forget the threesome lets just do that. So all in all it went well. Thank all of you for the advice it really helped.

I think you will find a cruise ship the same as any other resort. Unless it is a swingers cruise you will find the same chance on a cruise as a Caribbean vacation.

Probably a couple of years. It started when my husband had some very hot dreams involving me and other people, and us with others joining. He was hesitant to tell me about the dreams at first, but when he did it really turned me on! Since then, we've discussed it more, laid down some rules, and spent many nights with the "toys" we bought pretending to do the real thing. So, who knows? Maybe our first try will be on our cruise in January ?

I think it's freakin FUNNY! Whoever came up with that idea deserves a raise. However the joke is going to get old and they need to come up with a new idea.

This sounds like a situation to pump the brakes hard on. I think you and your wife need to come to a mutual understanding to avoid the feelings of jealousy and resentment that will certainly creep up in a situation that you've predetermined to be unacceptable to you. The fact that the other man is a friend is another potential red flag I'm not sure you've given serious enough consideration to. What if it doesn't go well? Can you trust him not to tell other people, even if he's had a few drinks? If your wife has mindblowing sex with him, are you ready to feel compersion for her or will that create awkwardness between you and your friend? What if you don't want them to do it again but they both want to? I believe the adage around here that it's easier to make friends of swingers than vice versa. I understand the dilemna though, seems like a first experience with someone you know could make it less stressful for all concerned and I certainly have some female friends I'd love to sleep with but in my mind, probably a bad idea in the long term.

Everyone ventures Into this lifestyle just a little bit differently. Most of the time, it's baby steps. A little at a time. When my wife and I first started, she was okay with me having oral sex with the other woman, but drew the line at me having full Intercourse with her. It wasn't until years later that she realized that she really enjoys watching me inside the other woman. The two of you need to have a very open and honest discussion about what your rules and boundaries are BEFORE you take the plunge. Respect the rules you set for each other. After a while, it's okay to revisit those rules and see if there are any the two of you want to change. I'm willing to bet that you make some changes to the rules.

I've been to off-site retreats (Austria, Denmark) with European (mostly German) work colleagues, and guess what? There were nude spas/saunas at the places. About half of the group went on any given day. The only thing that surprised anyone is that an American would take all her clothes off and join in. There was no "playing;" although like anywhere, however, workplace romances happen. It was actually boring and I don't like over-heating, but I did find myself checking out the women more than the men. Perhaps it got mentioned by someone afterwards, but no one there cares.

Just an update on my boat trip last weekend. First off, I should have mentioned earlier that my husband no longer works with this guy. They WERE associates, but he has since moved to a different department and they no longer work around each other. I know there were some words of advice regarding that. Overall, it was quite an enjoyable trip and I had a fun time. I don't know if people have paid any attention to the news, but Seattle has been very smokey lately with all of the wildfires. Its pretty bad, but fortunately last weekend the weather was clear and nice. And, yes, I stripped down when I was on the boat. I read the advice you all gave and I appreciate it, but I decided to just go for it and take my bikini off when the time was right. I just took the top off but the thong I wore was pretty much dental floss anyway. My husband ended up putting tanning lotion on me in front of his friend and I think they both got a kick out of seeing me nude. I even walked around the boat with my top off - no problem. I achieved exactly what I set out to do: to show off my goods and give him my calling card. Nothing more, nothing less. Later on, when my husband and I were driving back home, he told me that his friend told him that he was a lucky man and that my breasts were perfect. Before saying that, he had said something like "What a view" and my husband responded by saying, "Yeah, its a nice day", and he said back "That's not what I'm talking about." That made me smile. I think he liked what he saw and I got a nice tan out of the experience. Win, win. Needless to say, I rode my hubby's cock nice and good when we got home.

My college roommate Terry carefully and privately asked any woman he thought could be interested if she'd like to get together to play. He had more college sex than anyone else I ever knew. We were both 19 and for several months he had a 28 year old state office worker named Tina who came by for sex during the week or when she had time available on the weekend. I was on the sofa snuggled in a comforter trying to study when they came out of his bedroom after a session. She had on one of his button front shirts and he had gym shorts on and they joined me on the sofa. Tina scooted her feet down under the comforter, and as she did, I told her I could see Paris. She started rubbing my bulging shorts with her foot. After a bit, Tina suggested that she and Terry take me to the bedroom. Into the bedroom we go, Tina strips off and Terry drops his gym shorts and climbs on for the second go round of the afternoon. Me, shy and embarrassed, finally lose my shorts and tee shirt and lay next to them feeling Tina's boobs and licking nipple... When Terry finally came, he rolled off and he said your turn with Tina agreeing. Until this point in my life, I figured I just as soon would rather go where no man had gone before. I thought about it about 2 seconds, figured it wouldn't kill me and I climbed on, slipped in for sloppy thirds. It was the best 5 seconds of Tina's life (LOL). 4 strokes and I popped the cork came.... SOOOOO embarrassing........ Rob

I don't think Mrs. Alura and I even thought of the concept of leaving behind monogamy. We were too busy laughing, joking, and having fun with another couple in bed.

I love sucking cock, it so amazing and exciting. It's such a nice feeling guiding his cock into my mouth and feeling it get hard. Such silky soft skin and you're doing the pleasing. The teasing, edging, his respiration changes, verbal response, and watching his body twitching so fucking hot. I love hearing “I'm gonna cum!” and looking up at his face and eyes...his hands on the back of my head and his body trembling. Then the feeling of his hot cum filling my mouth while my mouth is locked on his throbbing shaft.