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As women we tend to focus on what we don’t like about our bodies. I remember a female friend and I discussing what we each saw when looking at Playboy. She saw large breasts, I saw flat tummies- what we each desired different in our own body. I am at the point that if that’s what someone else is focusing on then they aren’t for me. More important is that you are enjoying yourselves. Please don’t waste your energy on insecurity.

This is a great point and something we discussed afterwards. We usually stay out until around midnight these days. But, the fun really didn't get started until after midnight on saturday. We finally got to sleep around 5:00am (after playing at home) and pretty much slept in the entire day on sunday. So yes, going out like that again will need to be a weekend event Still, we both said it was worth it. I can see the next time being unscheduled, when we are already out on the time and decide to pop in after midnight.

Update post: A couple of months ago, I posted seeking some advice regarding my shy wife’s a few new experiences. We both are originally from South Asia and almost two years ago moved to Europe. She is Muslim and used to be quite conservative with her living and dressing style. Since being here, she has become just a little bit more adventurous with her dressing style. I always encouraged her and also she enjoy going to parties. At one of those parties, she met a guy (say Adam) with whom she kinda hit it off. They danced, chatted and became cozy with each other. They remained in touch and subsequently they again met in another party a couple of weeks ago. They decided to go on a small day trip to be away from the known surroundings. For me it was a mixture of anticipation, nervousness, caution- everything. Here is the update after that. It was her first date ever with someone apart from me. She had already been close to him in a couple of parties (as I mentioned before in my posts), but nothing extraordinary happened. Although it was quite clear that they both liked each other and enjoyed the company. So, they fixed their first date for last weekend. She went to meet him at around 11:00 and returned home before 19:00. I had to wait until it was the night to get to know what exactly went down. Before she went out, I joked with her that Adam would definitely want to kiss her, which she said not much chance of happening. So I asked her that how far would she willing to go. She just replied that she’d just want to spend some time, enjoy the company and see how it’d turn out. At night gave me the detailed account of the day and here is how it went: She was a little nervous in deciding what to wear as she didn’t want to look too fancy yet nice. Finally, she decided to wear an angular sleeveless top (like halter neck) with a fitting stretchy pant. Underneath she wore a nice pair of thong; while as under the armpit the top was a little deep cut, she wore a regular bra. They took the same train to the city next to theirs, but from different stoppages. After getting down from the train, at around 11:30, they met over there at the station. The greeting was apparently cordial but simple, only a hug, and no kiss even on the cheek. They directly went to a festival and spent some regular cozy time without worrying someone known might spot them. After having lunch, they went to a park to enjoy a little bit of sun. At that stage, Adam asked her whether she told me that she was spending the day and having a trip with him. When she said that I know, again he asked whether I knew that she went out with him like a date, to which she responded again in the same way. He then asked whether she’s in an open marriage type of situation, which she responded to by just saying that I always encourage her to explore her sexuality. After the conversation, right there while chilling, he kissed her on her lips the first time. She told me later that she was so shy and nervous that she didn’t reciprocate. It was the first time she felt someone’s lips on hers, who wasn’t me. Within a few minutes, he kissed her again and this time she kissed him back. Then the kisses went on for a while (she actually loves kissing a lot) and those were quite hot and passionate with tongue and everything. Then they walked around the city a little and at around 16:00, went to the train station for the return journey. This whole time apparently countless kisses happened between them, with which she was visibly shy but happy with. On the train, they stood near the door as it was only a half-hour journey and exchanged numerous kisses. After asking I came to know that being outside, while kissing, his hands didn’t get much adventurous apart from occasionally grabbing her ass a little. They both down at Adam’s stoppage as she needed to take another train or tram to her stoppage. At that point, he invited her to his place for a coffee, which she declined. But, figuring out it was a weekend and the next train would take a little while to arrive, she then agreed for the coffee and went to his place which was just a minute or so away. After getting to his place, he turned the tv for her while he made coffee. When he saw that she was still wearing her shoes, he just asked her to take them off and relax for a little. Right after she took off her shoes, she turned around and felt that he had gently grabbed her. Instantly they started kissing and fell on the couch. He was on top of her and kisses were way steamier than before. He started kissing her lips, shoulder, arms, everywhere. Over her top, he continued kissing her belly and her tits. She told him to stop but didn’t actually want him to. In a couple of minutes, she regathered herself and figured she should leave. She pushed him a little and sat down to catch her breath figuring that was it. At that point, he kissed on her lips again and went on top of her on the couch for once more. She told me that she didn’t know what happened, but over her pants, felt his throbbing cock being rubbed onto her pussy. At the stage, she couldn’t control herself anymore and just kept enjoying the kissing and rubbing. Suddenly she felt that under the armpit, into her low cut top, reached his hand inside her bra. He was grabbing a tit of her and kissing. She didn’t know what happened and the next thing she noticed that he had unclasped her bra inside her top. She remembers that she took her hands higher and Adam just took both her top and bra off. She said to me that she couldn’t believe that she was with another guy while being half naked! He kissed and fondled her tits for god knows how long. She grabbed his cock over his pants and kept stroking it. Afterward, when he started sucking her tits, she knew that she had to stop; otherwise, she’d do everything. She barely got up in time for the next train and dressed up. He mentioned that she was leaving him in such a state, but didn’t want to rush it. After she had dressed up, he grabbed her tits inside her top under her armpit for once more. They just exchanged a short kiss and she ran to catch the train. Upon returning, she made me wait until it was the night when she was extremely shy to tell me about the things that happened. She said that it went way too far and never expected this from herself. Still, she can’t figure out why she agreed to get to his apartment in the first place. I have assured her time and time again that if she had enjoyed it, there was nothing wrong. She says that she definitely enjoyed everything a lot, but is feeling a guilty and shy afterward.

As newbies, my husband Peter and I have learned so much here. We greatly appreciate the community at Swingers Board. As we are seeking to become more involved in swinging, one of our concerns is pregnancy. We are both fertile. If I were to become pregnant, either by Peter or another man, it would be easy for me to have an abortion. However, if he impregnated another woman, it would be up to her to decide what to do, without us having any say. Peter does not like condoms, and of course they can fail. I am urging him to consider having a vasectomy. We are wondering what more experienced couples have faced in terms of pregnancies, vasectomies, or tubal ligations. Also, what situation in the poll best applies to you?

For years (and years and years) I never knew that there wasn't anything other than "larger inner labia". It wasn't until much later in life I found out that there were "small" ones. It doesn't really matter, however, since both are beautiful...and just being able to see one is a great gift. Don't waste another minute worrying about this. Same goes for the 'scar'. We all have scars, they just show that you have lived life especially since you call it a 'light scar'. Most scars (the worst scars) are not visible and are found on the inside. Personality is more important than any small self perceived 'flaws', especially ones that you notice more than others. You're beautiful just the way you are.

tldr; You're perfect, don't worry about it. Now, I'm a man, and I don't pretend to understand the concerns that many women have with their body image. But I've seen it many a time, and often I think it's unwarranted; and probably, in your case, you have absolutely nothing to worry about. I've swing for decades and have been with way more than my share of women. I loved looking at the area below the belt, finding out what was new, what was different. It was a turn on for me. For other men, I would imagine that they just wouldn't care. Go, have fun, don't make a big deal out of it and you'll find that either nothing will be said, or they'll compliment you. (And if anybody is uncomplimentary, Fuck Them! or not.) Many, many women have scars. If you had to have a perfect body to swing, none of us would be swingers. There. Now go have fun . . .

Thank you all so much for the great advice! I feel so supported (and not alone!) in this community.

Take your top off in our pool and you'll get a lot of interest…..from both of us!! Sounds to me like you just need to move on and find a new couple.

It's the Japanese that are really in the forefront of the sex doll/sex robot development. I think you might be able to buy one at there going out of business sale

check out Swinger Zone Central you will find a large number of Indiana and Ohio couples as well as listings for Indiana parties/meet & greets. We use the site and have had good luck with it so far.

I myself enjoy watching my wife with a single guy and not participating. I have MFM a few times and just don't enjoy being that close to the guy, so I would rather just watch. I do jump in on occasion though.

Yes! haha And I honestly didn't do it on purpose. :/ I'm usually good about double checking things like that, but I think I got too busy with my kids...oops. But in some ways, I was glad I made that mistake because I think it would have taken me a lot longer to actually bring up the topic! I'm so glad he was the one who brought it up first!

Thanks, all. I really appreciate the responses. I guess I have to remember that if he were thinking about something similar for a long time and it was new to me, it would take me a while to wrap my head around it, as well. I actually probably wouldn't have taken it as well as he did! I also think my first reaction was, "We'll try this soon!" And after reading these responses and other threads on this board, I'm realizing that for many, the conversation happens over a matter of months or YEARS even before anything takes off (if it does at all). So I guess I really need to be patient and start small. I like the idea of pointing out other potential partners and things of that nature. Just to get comfortable talking about other people and things like that. I respect my husband and would definitely never do anything to make him not trust me. As many of you said, we just need to keep communicating.

Hi, Petra here. My situation was the reverse - hubby let me have a boyfriend, but I couldn't stand the thought of him being with another woman. Long story short, after about two years, I came around. Not only am I now addicted to what used to be jealousy, I enjoy my Lesbian side. My advice if you're up for it, start with FMFs and your husband playing, or you soft swapping. Eventually, he will see that letting you have fun too is its own reward. Best of luck and keep us updated.

In reference to clean up, a quick napkin swipe at best or her hand. It depends on the position I would say. She never, nor have I asked her to stop “playing” to clean up. We both really enjoy that piece of the fun for all things mentioned within these post.

Relax. Early on it will come up. Be upfront about where you are on your journey. Guess what, most of us have a similar story . The first couple we met were perfectly content to just talk. They explained, asked us questions, gave advice and took us to a dance. After them we were more confident of the path we were on. You never have to step beyond your comfort zone. Anyone who pressures you needs to be dismissed. The two of you need to be first in your own eyes. Anyone worthy of your time will appreciate this.

So I said I would never do this. I was out with some friends the other night and my wife had her male friend over our house. I wasn't sure if they would play or not since things have gotten more vanilla with him lately. He was gone by the time I got home, and they did play. I was jerking off while my wife told me the details... next thing I couldn't resist and stuck in in her for sloppy seconds!!

I prefer to go second regardless if it's my wife or his. It's not because I want him to enjoy the tighter feel. It's that after I blow my load, I lose interest in watching what they're doing. So it just gets me more excited watching them first. You're right on both counts - a sloppy cunt has hardly any friction, but the thought of her doing this sends me off quick.

I've never been the one to even think about swinging until my wife and i started talking about 3 and 4 somes. I never felt secure enough to even bring up the thought with ex's.But we talked about it and she said if she ever wanted to bang someone else it'd be my buddy who had a rep for being a good lay. Anyways, we went to a childhood friend's house for a party one Friday night and it went pretty normal she talked with the girls and I went to play beer pong with some friends. As the night went on, my buddy called me over. I went over behind the bar where he and my gf were tending bar with his hand on her waist playing with her thong and his growing erection. He then blurts out "Dude your gf is so hot I'd totally fuck her." (remember him and i have been friends since pre school). I replied back yeah i see that. And point down. Our friends laugh and continue on. I then walked outside and started chatting with some buddies who were smoking. Shortly after my tipsy but still coherent friend walk out sitting next to me, turns and asks if i would be okay with him banging my girlfriend. I looked at my girlfriend and asked her if she was interested in fucking him since i remember her saying he's the one she would try it with. She said she would as long as i was also going to participate. We proceed to go to his bedroom where it was agreed they would start with each other and i would watch and eventually join. They started off making out his hands running over her butt and up to her boobs (36ddd) pulling her shirt up over her head. She then felt his cock that was rock hard at this point. Unbuckling his belt and undoing the button letting his pants fall revealing his rock hard cock. "Should i suck it?" she says as she pulls down his boxers and caresses him in her hands stroking up and down his shaft. At this point i feel my dick getting hard, so i pull it out and start playing with it. She then sits on the bed where shes dick high and starts teasing the tip of his cock with her tongue.I hear him lightly sigh as she wraps her lips around his shaft and begins to blow him. He then pulls his dick out of her mouth stands her up unhooking her bra and removing her tight jeans and thong exposing her soaking wet pussy.She slides up the bed looking at me noticing me stroking. "You like what you see baby? Ready to watch another man fuck me good?" "Yeah baby." I reply, she smiles looks at my buddy and tells him to fuck her brains out as she spreads her legs waiting for him to enter her clean shaven pussy. He turns to me"Dude shes a freak!" he then proceeds to slide his cock between her pussy lips getting his dick wet. He slowly slides his dick into her as she softly moans to his cock entering her. He gradually picks up speed and her moaning gets louder and louder as he thrusts deep into her. "Oh my god (friend) your cock feels amazing.Don't stop!" he starts thrusting deep hearing his boys pelvis slap against her. "Fuck your pussy feels so good! He replies. He begins to thrust harder and faster into her as she climaxes then orgasms all over his cock.She pulls his cock out and tells him to lay down shes going to ride him like a bull. She then climbs on top and puts a condom on him. She then slides down him, putting his hands on her boobs as she gyrates on his dick. "You going to cum in my tight pussy baby?" as she begins to fuck him. "I'm going to cum in that pussy." "Mmmmmm cum in me right now gimme that seed" she begins screaming his name as he buries his cock in her. "Oh fuck (girlfriend) I'm cumming I'm cumming!" i see him pump deep into her. At this point I've shot my load, and she climbs off of him pulling the condom off his cock. "Well that was fun!" she says as they get dressed. We then head back downstairs and continue to party. It was pretty awesome.

I think I would prefer the cock to be neatly trimmed, or shaved

I am one of these men. I started a thread about circumcision and foreskin restoration a few years ago. I'm convinced that the "problem" is at least partially due to the vicious circumcision techniques that were practiced in the fifties and sixties. I started restoring with a stretching device and my weiner has increased in length by an inch. (6 to 7 inched, fully hard) My "self-abuse" as a young man may have added to my orgasmic difficulties, I will freely admit that. I was married to a woman at the time who I perceived as a cold fish and I had to take matters into my own hands. I was turned down for sex at least 2/3 of the time. Much of the time I wanted it but didn't even bother trying because the rejection was more than I wanted to deal with. I think the foreskin resto is helping. It takes a long to get coverage of the head, I've been wearing the device for over a year and I'm nowhere near coverage, but at least it's not painful to have a woman play with my cock without lubrication any more.

I love sucking dick especially with a woman. Rubbing dicks together is especially intimate. Once I had a female friend take me to gay bar. I was kissed buy a man. It was the first time it made me feel strange. The way he handle me made me feel feminine. It was the wildest thing I've ever known. Laying on my back and being fucked up the ass was a whole nother experience. Women never tell you how powerful a penises is. Feeling feminine is very addictive. I don't want to be feminine but it felt strong and I liked it but I'm not a feminine guy. I never felt feminine doing anything else with a guy even going down in front of them.

Love to try that on for size!

So I am 44. I have always considered myself straight although I do not have an issue with those men who are gay or bi-sexual. My second wife and I are in the lifestyle. She was bi-curious until our first play date with some friends when she was able to experience and play with another woman. She loves me and loves dick, no doubt about it but she also wants to play more with the ladies and gain more experience. I think it's hot as hell to have a bi wife as well. We have played with toys between ourselves. I love having my plug in my ass and pumped until I can't take any more. We even bought our first strap-on and she gave it to me hard. It was awesome. During sex, we talk dirty to each other. VERY dirty. I tell her what a slut she is and she tells me how she's going to fuck any number of guys I bring home for her and how she wants multiple loads from each guy inside her pussy and ass. I have expressed how I'm looking forward to having her fuck me again with the strap-on. The other night, we were going at it hot and heavy and she told me she wanted to find a guy that would fuck both of us along with his wife/girlfriend. She was saying "I'm going to have him fuck me until he gets ready to cum then make him put it in your ass so you can feel what it's like to have a load of cum in your ass." "I'm going to tell him to fuck you hard and deep." All of this talk set me off. I started talking along with her. Agreeing to be fucked while I fucked her or eat her pussy while his wife sucked on her giant tits and kissed her deeply. I think it was the hardest I have every came. So, the question. I know this puts me in the category of being "bi-curious". Here's the problem. I am NOT gay. I love pussy. I love eating it, fucking it, fisting it. I can't get enough of it when I'm eating it. I give her many orgasms before she just can't take any more. But where do I go from here? What other questions do I need to ask myself if I want to "try" another man. I can't visualize myself sucking dick. Taking it in the ass? Possibly. Sucking dick? NO. Has anyone else ever been in this position that can tell me what you did, questions you asked yourself, something?

Your situation is almost like ours. My hubby too does not like condoms. He has also got his vasectomy done, yet we use condoms to ensure safe sex

If I was condomless with someone I usually sit in the toilet for a minute before clean myself with the Baby-Wipes and resume actions. In very rare occasions I have taken two loads inside me in one go one after the other. Overflow ? -> well, I don't know if is overflow or not, but comdomless sex with me is always a mess, It doesn't mater if is hubby or another guy, I can't hold cum inside me, immediately after the penis loses erection everything starts coming out.... I always need a towel next to me

I don't think anyone likes to use condoms but it is a fact of life for most in this lifestyle. We are still considering having children so permanent solutions do not work for us yet. I've been on the pill for a long time, and while nothing is foolproof, it does the trick for me even as I go bareback with some partners.

I think it's totally normal. It just shows that you are very comfortable with the couple you were joining and was having a lot of fun. I find MFM threesomes where the guys are homophobic is pretty much boring and ridiculous. When I join a couple I expect to be joining both of them, and I'm 100% straight.

If you only have sexual desires for women and do not have any attraction for or desire for men you are not bi or gay. Men are fascinated by cocks and like to watch cocks ejaculate...period. Even strictly heterosexual men like to see cocks get all hard and shoot. Don't believe me? How popular is porn where you don't see any cocks and don't see any cumshots? Is it strictly women that are keeping the porn industry alive? Do you think all those guys buying/renting/watching porn are all gay or bi? Nope, straight guys love to see dicks and straight guys love to see dicks shoot. That ain't bi, that's just being a guy.

Here is Kinsey's actual scale. Again, thanks TNT. 0- Exclusively heterosexual with no homosexual 1- Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual 2- Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual 3- Equally heterosexual and homosexual 4- Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual 5- Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual 6- Exclusively homosexual Wait till my next interesting thread. I hope it works out to be a good one!