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I know I have posted before about partners who finish before I do. We made plans to meet a new couple with drinks first. We met them and they were very much the couple we expected. Friendly, funny and I would say we could be friends with them. Easy to talk to we exchanged stories and had some laughs. After two drinks the husband suggested we go back to a room they already checked into. After agreeing things moved quickly to the beds. I could tell Mike was doing well in the next bed. In my bed things were going slower with plenty of foreplay which just wasn’t getting me anywhere until I took out a small toy I travel with. I could tell by the sounds being made the wife was having several orgasms. I had one more by toy than my partner. I wanted more and told him. He enters me and he finished before me. Mike noticed that I turned on my toy again and decided to stop doing what he was doing and ended up with me. I don’t think they were happy that he stopped with her. Was Mike wrong?

Everyone's been so nice, and I guess there's no better place to ask, so... My husband says his biggest turn-on is seeing me do things, watching me watch things being done to me, and overall seeing/hearing me go crazy during sex. A little more graphic now - the idea of me sucking another guy's cock (or multiple guy's cocks), getting my tits sucked and worked by men AND women, and me sucking another woman's tits drives us both wild. I'm not sure I like the idea of him doing something to another woman though, or another woman doing things to him. Is this selfish? We also agree we wouldn't want anyone but him to fuck my pussy, and neither of us are into anal at all. Would this prevent other "swingers" from wanting to get with us?

A bare pussy makes me feel like I'm a pedophile. Pubic hair is an age-old symbol of sexual maturity. Besides, most of the things I read say that being bare is not the best from a health standpoint? Shouldn't have probably said that last part as I'm not a medical person, but I am usually not hesitant to talk about stuff having little or no knowledge!! LOL

I'm going to be really interested in the responses to this one because, not being there, I have to say I can't answer the question. Just not enough information, and I can imagine myself being in something similar and doing various things. One rule though, my spouse and our relationship comes first. Second rule, I can't control others' feelings. If Mike did what you and he needed, that would be "right" in my book.

If your pussy is off limits - yes, many couples will 'pass'. But, many will happily play within your boundaries - focus on them.

My husband wasn’t sure if he was ready for me to play with another man. He wanted me to play with other women and he wanted to play with women as well. We had lots of discussions and we agreed that he has to be okay with me doing whatever he was going to do. If he was able to play with a woman then I would be able to play with her husband. He agreed and we set up rules. We only play in same room and we do everything but penetration. It has been an amazing adventure together And we only go as fast as the slowest person.

On a related note, we found that early on in our exploration of this hobby, we had difficulty differentiating between meaningful sex (that which we shared together) and recreational sex. Consequently, we looked for a strong connection between us and both parts of another couple. Most new couples do this and while it does happen occasionally, it's a rare occurrence. That kind of expectation really limits the erotic possibilities for new couples. We've since refined our selection process to where we are pretty sure that when we meet a couple from one of the sites, they fit within our parameters and at least appear attractive to us both. The intangibles, personalities, bad breath, dumb as a box of rocks, etc will still end an evening quickly. However, since we decided that we're not looking for couples to introduce to our kids or to tour Europe with and recognizing that our goal is fun sex, we try to view a couple as "doable" or not. This has led us to more than a few erotic encounters and even a couple of lasting friendships. We tend to shy away from couples who say, "friends first". We both think that is a backwards approach if you're simply looking for fun sex and a little variety.

For those of us old enough to recall the Soup Nazi on Seinfeld: “Next!” This is a tough hobby for snowflakes.

Those letters weren't REAL??? Say it ain't so!!!!

As gently as possible, Gaga, the person who wrote that comment is saying that he does not find the post in question to be a likely telling of real-world events. It is specifically a reference to a column that years ago ran in Penthouse magazine. It consisted of staff- and freelance-written sexual fantasies that lightly pretended to be from the magazine’s readers.

Dear Penthouse...

Although I enjoy the emotional intimacy of bareback and semen inside me, I limit bareback to close friends because of the concerns over infections that many others have noted. Even so, my last Pap smear did suggest that I might have been exposed to HPV.

I'm happy going bareback with friends and people I'm familiar with. I'm not keen on bareback with complete strangers but I have done it.