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My husband and I, even back when we were dating, started out in the swinging world by being exhibitionists and voyeurs. We both always loved having sex in front of open hotel windows (yeah, I know, I don't necessarily recommend it). Its good fun. We eventually upgraded our play to soft swaps (touching, etc), MFM and the very rare full swap (only two times so far), but 90% of our experiences are simply having sex in the same room as another couple or couples. Watching and being watched is a great starting point. I'll never forget our first visit to a swinging club when we just simply watched people and eventually got it on ourselves in front of others. Even now, when we get a hotel somewhere, we often get double beds just in case we meet another couple or somebody to bring back to the room.

For whatever reason couples make their own rules. Either you deal with or you move on.

We know a couple who we have been friends with and recently found out they are into the lifestyle. But they have a rule that she doesn't swallow. My wife likes swallowing and it helps to turn her on. We haven't played with this couple, but my wife is not really interested already knowing that they have this rule. We realize swallowing is intimate, but that's what makes it a turn on for both of us. I love to see her swallow another man's cum. We don't play with random couples we don't know, but when we do, we like to be able to have the wives swallow the other man's cum or snowball it. Is this a common rule, or is it situational?

The title says it all. I’m considering getting my nipples pierced, but I have a few questions from people who have already done it before. 1, I’ve heard it takes about 1-2 months for them to fully heal and they weep while they heal, is this true? 2, did anyone here have complications with having them done? 3, did anyone do it, then regret it afterwards? And upon taking them out, did the nipple heal itself back to normal, or was the scar tissue an issue?

Hello. My fiancé and myself are brand new to the lifestyle we haven’t tried anything yet but hope to maybe give it a go on our Vegas trip. My question is what happens if we are with another couple and myself or the other male we are with cum before anyone else is close to finish? Do we all keep going? Does that person step out?

When we first started playing we didn’t have a discussion about limits. Was I supposed to kiss or not? I let my partner decide. I had no problems kissing, I saw my wife kissing too. My wife has no problem swallowing. It didn’t matter the first time playing. Neither I or the other guy came from a blow job. The first time I was about to cum in her mouth I warned her, not knowing how she would react. She had no problem. I have always warned any partner who has brought to that point. The fun thing is that all the partners do something a little different.

There is a whole forum on this board dedicated to this topic https://www.swingersboard.com/std-and-safe-sex-issues/ You'll get a ton of opinions on right/wrong, good/bad, risky or not. Most of it will be biased in some way. Additional info can be found here https://www.cdc.gov/std/healthcomm/stdfact-stdriskandoralsex.htm It's best to inform yourself with facts and make decisions based on that information.

We had a very similar experience with our first date. The couple was not at all who they represented themselves to be online. This is not unlike vanilla dating. Guys and gals say what they think you want to hear based on your profiles in hopes of getting laid or even getting married. You spend hours crafting a perfectly worded bio that leaves no room for misinterpretation. Then you spend hours browsing other profiles looking for a match. Then you spend days flirting and communicating back and forth, finally setting up a M&G and the other couple isn't who they told you they were, don't respect your limits and act as if you did something wrong. It can get frustrating. It did to the point with us that we just don't even go online. That wasn't said to give you despair rather it was said to give you hope. We originally(me more specifically) referred to these obstacles as failures but that's been redefined. We don't have failures anymore. When we get to have sex with others it is a payoff but overcoming these obstacles and growing as a couple and individually because of it are the greatest successes in this hobby of ours.

Sounds like she was fully satisfied and you weren't. Your husband was just doing his job. If their feelings are hurt, they will probably talk about it themselves and if they cant reason the problem through, they may not want to do this again. I think though, that this problem lies with them (him) and not how you handled it.

As someone who used to travel extensively for work realize it gets old very fast (and I was home for the weekends). Working and traveling during the day and then trying to find playmates at night...I think you will find that you will eventually find out you would rather just be at home. Don't have much more for you than this...

The "no kissing" rule is not unusual. If that rule is a turn-off for your wife, then give that couple a pass. Swallowing rules are a little more complex. Every woman is different -- some will never swallow, some will always swallow, and some will occasionally swallow depending on how comfortable they feel with the guy. This applies whether the woman is a swinger or not. Feel free to ask about this in advance if this is important for your play.

What an intriguing situation. Oh, BTW, I got nothin'. Sorry. But I am so admiring of the adult way the two of you are approaching this issue. A lot of us face difficult situations, you are models for facing this together and working something out that is not giving in to the societal norm which is usually, "Suck it up, be unfulfilled."

Our first full swap, I had her friend bent over the bed and she was on the opposite side getting it from behind by the other husband. They're long time friends. The intensity of the eye contact was totally off the charts between them watching each other get groped and roughly fucked by each other's husbands.

I've watched and participated quite a bit at this point. The only real "what happens after" is that we have twice as much sex as usual for week or two. I do think it requires having total confidence in each other and that there are no ulterior motives at work, that the relationship is the priority and this is just for fun. People struggle with that both with general baggage about sex and fears about their relationships. As for what it was like, it was just extremely intense the first time. It was just soft swap, but when you've cum in a woman's mouth a couple thousand times, you know her technique inside and out and watching it is a far more vivid kind of voyeurism than you're going to find in any pornography or stage show, up to the moment when she starts working hard to finish him off all the way through to those few protracted gulps and wiping her mouth. I had been too stunned to even pay any attention to my own erection, but got some help with that halfway through. I was rock hard but totally distracted, until she joined in, visibly a mess from sucking off the other husband, and was mingling tongues with the other woman sucking me. That was when I had to stop and walk away for a minute to get a beer because I wasn't going to last another minute if I didn't. Point is, it was just fun. Since then, we've had a number of visits with those same two couples, and done plenty of full swap with them. Never any drama, and any doubts we've had before we jumped in always turned out to be over-analyzing. We always treat whatever happens as a warm-up act for whatever happens next and just have fun. Sometimes that means one of us is sitting out while the others screw and it's fine. Finding the right mix of attitudes helps.

It is a farily common male fantasy. I too had this for a long long time. TBH there is a mix of emotions for me it was when my SO started focusing on the other guy, I was a participant but opted to take a step back and enjoy the sites, the next phase of emotions was when I saw his cock tease her pussy and then when he thrust in and the last was when he was about to cum and she grabbed his hips pulling him deeper as he came. It was a true "WTF" moment but was amazing!

My wife and I have been frustrated in this area as well. We tried some of the random sites and mostly found must single men and a lot of empty promises. We only want anonymous web chat and live video sharing so other couples can watch us and we watch them. We will watch this thread if anyone has suggestions.

njbm is correct on the numbers. Studies have shown maybe 4% of the population swings. On a ship with 1400 couples, that is about 60 couples out of the population. Now find those 60 and break them into the age group you are looking for. Take that smaller group now and hope there are one or two couples you can hit it off with. Those are your odds. No secret sign or handshake. All of the ankle bracelets and black rings have become a fade to wear. We have met more people wearing black rings that had no idea it could mean they were swingers. So if you really want to try this, book a swinger cruise. And while it is a target rich area, it can still be a challenge to find those couples you connect well enough to have sex with. But we have never failed! Happy hunting... And BTW - If you do decide to book, best spot to look is The Swinger Cruise site since she is the only one that books ALL of the cruises. Others are limited in their options. We have taken 9 and have 2 more booked through her.

Thank you! We’ve also just learned what “vanilla cruise” means lol

My partner and i have been together for four years this year, we are engaged and happily living together in sydney. But we don't seem to crave sex anymore? we hardly do it once a week if that, and he has never been one for trying new things or instigating sexual actions, but in all honesty i haven't pushed too hard, he knows that i crave passion and intimacy but he says he simply does not know how to be simply more... i am just wondering if anyone can give some advice, i am considering taking him to a swingers club just for a walk through? any ideas?

My college roommate Terry carefully and privately asked any woman he thought could be interested if she'd like to get together to play. He had more college sex than anyone else I ever knew. We were both 19 and for several months he had a 28 year old state office worker named Tina who came by for sex during the week or when she had time available on the weekend. I was on the sofa snuggled in a comforter trying to study when they came out of his bedroom after a session. She had on one of his button front shirts and he had gym shorts on and they joined me on the sofa. Tina scooted her feet down under the comforter, and as she did, I told her I could see Paris. She started rubbing my bulging shorts with her foot. After a bit, Tina suggested that she and Terry take me to the bedroom. Into the bedroom we go, Tina strips off and Terry drops his gym shorts and climbs on for the second go round of the afternoon. Me, shy and embarrassed, finally lose my shorts and tee shirt and lay next to them feeling Tina's boobs and licking nipple... When Terry finally came, he rolled off and he said your turn with Tina agreeing. Until this point in my life, I figured I just as soon would rather go where no man had gone before. I thought about it about 2 seconds, figured it wouldn't kill me and I climbed on, slipped in for sloppy thirds. It was the best 5 seconds of Tina's life (LOL). 4 strokes and I popped the cork came.... SOOOOO embarrassing........ Rob

Wouldn't seconds squared be fourths? (2^2 = 2 x 2 = 4) In our poly family there are three women and two guys, so we have all had sloppy seconds a lot. We women now also share another guy (Frank) outside our family and occasionally play with Lora's ex-husband (Walter) when he is back East visiting his family. Several months ago our poly family had one of our now infrequent (kids take time from everything) Saturday night family sex all-togethers and we included (at the women's insistence) Walter since he was here, and Frank. (Finally more men than women.) I had sex vaginally with all four guys that evening, and although it was the second time cumming for two of them, it was quite a mess down there afterwards. As I am now in my thirties, such a thing makes me feel good. It's strange that I have only ever had sex with five guys, and four of them were there that day. I guess you could say that in my own way, I am faithful . I have had two guys one after the other cum in my bum, but since I can't orgasm from just that way, hubby still had to take care of me.

Before we were married, my wife was dating a gentleman (Andrew) who was living in an apartment with two other guys (Bert & Charlie.) After dinner with Andrew, they went back to his room and made love. They came out, it was fairly late, and they all got into some kind of a strip game. Bert won, so with Andrew’s approval she went into Bert’s room and did him. When she was done with him, Andrew & Charlie had gone to bed. She liked Charlie, even though he was sort of a nerd, so she crept into his room and bed. She told me that afterward she went back into Andrew’s room and he was excited for her and they went at it again. It was her best night, she said, until we started swinging some twenty years later.

My first wife, long story, and I reconnected on a high school website about 12 or 13 years ago. We were dating in high school and got married, and divorced, really young. Anyway, she told me a story about her second husband. She'd been with her lover in the morning and then her husband, unknowingly, had sloppy seconds that evening. I had to wonder if, during those two years of our marriage, did I have sloppy seconds a time or two? LOL! Now, hey, I've knowingly enjoyed them a few times with my current wife so I didn't ever ask my ex about it. I'm guessing, the way she fondly remembered that event, that I probably did. And I never blamed her for cheating on me. During those two years that we were legally married, I was in training. I was an Air Force Combat Controller and we were gone most of the time.

My husband definitely enjoys watching me get fucked by another man than I enjoy watching him with someone. Consequently, we've had several more MFMs than FMFs but I do enjoy both. Just depends.

My threesome configuration preference is MFM. I've done many of both, but I get more turned-on watching my partner having a good time and being part of her good time. We're not alone by any means. Cuckold is a top search keyword year after year. Now most men wouldn't consider themselves cuckolds because they are having sex with their wife too and a true cuckold does not get to fuck his wife unless she lets him, but the general idea is that to find good MFM porn, especially amateur, "cuckold" is what is searched for. As far as myself, my wife and I always had lots of sex, and we had lots of threesomes with other men, and there were times I was "Pass me the popcorn, I just want to watch tonight". Many men will tell you that their wife is their favorite porn star, and watching her have sex with someone else provides a view we never get to see when we're the one having sex with her.

My wife loves cum - in her pussy, in her mouth (always swallows) or in her ass. Since having some minor prostate surgery I have retrograde ejaculations (it goes the other way) - in other words I have dry orgasms. There's only one way she's can get come now - from another man.

Me too!. You are not alone. My dreams of her having sex with another man became an obsession. The only way my wife agreed to try it (MMF) was that I wasn't doing it just to have sex with other women. She couldn't bear the image of me having sex, making love, with another woman. That wasn't my motivation. I just wanted to watch her getting fucked by another man like in my dream. I wasn't interested in reciprocation. You are not alone and you are not abnormal. You have come to the right place. I think that there are more people that have these thoughts than are willing to admit to or talk about (except here of course) or to act on.

The way I see it used most often, The Letter in the middle is the general focus. MMF implies MM play. MFM nether impies MM play nor explicitly eliminates the possibility. The letter in the middle, it is implied, will play with the two on the sides. Analogous criteria is applicable to FFM and FMF.

To be absolutely honest my personal preference would be MFM + me watching..... also a gangbang.

Both my wife and I prefer couples swaps. Yeah, it can be exciting watching my wife doing another guy, but it's even better while my dick's in another woman. If I had to choose a threesome, it would be MFF. I can lick and fuck at the same time. My wife's bi, so it happens.

Call me what you want, but I like seeing a guy's cock going in and out of my wife or any woman and his sack bouncing around. There are guys who want to "steal" my wife, but she doesn't put up with that shit. It's just amazing to me that so many guys want a slut for a girlfriend or wife. I thought I was the only one.

Not odd at all, and certainly nothing to be ashamed about, I LOVE it! So incredibly erotic to guide my husband’s cock into another woman’s pussy, love to spread her pussy lips, lick her to get her nice and wet for him, look right into his eyes as he’s sliding in and out of her, grrrrrrr so fucking hot!! It’s one of the reasons I slightly prefer threesomes to couples play, because I feel like I can really devote the amount of attention I’d like to watching him

My favorite threesome is the MFM variety. It's always been a bigger turn-on watching my wife be the center of attention than being so myself. That said, my wife or partner (depending on my relationship status) has always been my favorite porn, and we all know watching live sex is better than watching it on a screen. My advice is just let the other guy know that you don't have a cuckold relationship and that you just want to watch, that watching your wife do her thing is something that turns you on. For me it has never been about watching another man fuck my wife, it was always watching her do her thing from a third person perspective that I don't get to see when we're fucking.

I loved my wife having an MFM. I wasn't a cuck in that I'd let anyone humiliate me, handle his dick, etc. I'd help my wife set up her date, shaving her legs, picking out the outfit, etc. We'd usually meet the guy in a bar and if she wanted to bring him home while they were getting comfortable with each other I'd get them a drink, set up the bedroom with candles and music. Then I'd observe for awhile, taking pictures if the guy didn't object. I enjoyed watching the seduction, the first contacts, and then them making love. When he was beginning to run out of steam, I'd join them on the bed, screwing my wife while he watched and helped. Usually, that led to more sexy thoughts on his part, which led to more sex between them. We were very comfortable with that scenario. Perhaps that could be your niche.

I just got a post from SLS Admin. It looks like the free members are locked out permanently. I experimented and they cannot even see galleries if you open them up. So paid members have no way of making contact with unpaid members, as they can not read our posts to them, and even if we could they could not answer back. I predict very few people joining up as newbies. Goodbye SLS We are lifetime members

Not sure why so many people refuse to pay for SLS. What does it cost, $49? I am sympathetic to the plight of those less economically advantaged than we are, but if you want to participate in this hobby, you may have to participate in (minimally) underwriting the means of communication. We have little interest in meeting free members. It shows a lack of commitment.

It started out as something very specific for me, that I wanted to watch her suck cock. That does a lot for me, and it was kind of an odd thing to throw out there since it didn't necessarily have the obvious appeal of full swap for her, but she was game. It took a long time to work up to that, but once we did it, it evolved literally overnight into exactly what you're describing: we were just having fun having fun.

Hi, I'm a small-built lady and also fantasize about this, feeling both of them cum. I guess most men will shy away from something like that. Never dared to suggest this to a boyfriend anyway.

I would like to have a mask or blind fold group sex

mine and my wife's favorite is more her to be in a 69 with me on the bottom and another man fucking her from behind. we have done this a lot and love it. When she cums this way it is almost earth shaking.

Nothing sexier then two people cumming together, so I can see that as a total turn on. However. I love kissing while fucking. But I don’t like anything about make cum. I don’t like my own even. But I love the naughtyness of kissing passionately after a good oral filling of ejaculate. It’s just kinky and dirty and I love it. But another guys cum, no way I could. But watching her get turned on from making a guy cum on her face while my cock is pumped her pussy would be freaking hot to see yes.

OK.. no longer a fantasy

What is is with us humans. Some of us love to put our mouthes on other peoples privates lol. As kids we're taught dont touch. Those are yours only. As adults we eat it. Lick them, suck them and fuck them privates lol.

Impossible for me to think of a "best", but for a while, a few years actually -we got into a groove that seems like one long happy orgy to me now that I looking back on it. My favorite time. We use to roller blade along alki beach, (we lived only a couple of blocks off that beach) run, fly big kites, play v-ball etc, so on the weekends anywhere from two to eight couples we played with all the time would congregate at the house, and basically share all that with us. Sometimes new friends would wander in too, usually there was quite a bit going on. It was a very organic, relaxed thing, and especially in the summer time when we had weekend long 'partys' (nothing planned , all very informal) everyone having sex with everyone else in between all the fun on the beach. We would go out to this funky yummy little place for breakfast all together, go back home for a mid morning romp or to complete facinations unrealized from the night before. Then we might go blading or something fun like that, then go to lunch or all help make it naked, then more sex, maybe a nap -and between having sex -having fun out and about and blading or other fun was like long never ending foreplay with each other. Sensuous, hedonistic, horny and hot times. Relaxed, sultry sexy times. The only rules were have fun, play nice and share. Toward evening we might have a BBQ in the back yard or a tiki party with goofy Don Ho music playing. Once in a while we would all rent a limo (or two- cost no more than a cab) in the evening just to go a few miles to have dinner at a cool little seafood place, then maybe limo off to the sleepy little local tavern to have a couple of beers, dance to the jukebox and shoot a little pool. Then back to the house all horny again and ready to suck and fuck the night away in what amounted to a big slithering naked pile. People might drift in and out during the day and evening as the weekend progressed, and who knows who's arms you would end up falling asleep in -exhausted, bare and happy. The house was two story, but smallish (cozy!!!..lol!) and after any morning waking ya ya's, we would shower four or more at a time (only one bathroom per floor). Then the cycle of the day would begin again, and eventually we would all head out to breakfast and another perfect day. I think how natural and easy and how things just flowed is what makes that such a fond memory for me. Also, it is such fun to do everything in a group like that, and to feel life be that integrated.