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Both my wife and I, but especially my wife, likes the newness and variety of playing around. So I expect that each of us will do things with others that we don't do together, and the things we do will be done differently.

We know a couple who we have been friends with and recently found out they are into the lifestyle. But they have a rule that she doesn't swallow. My wife likes swallowing and it helps to turn her on. We haven't played with this couple, but my wife is not really interested already knowing that they have this rule. We realize swallowing is intimate, but that's what makes it a turn on for both of us. I love to see her swallow another man's cum. We don't play with random couples we don't know, but when we do, we like to be able to have the wives swallow the other man's cum or snowball it. Is this a common rule, or is it situational?

Hello. I have always had this topic in my mind but I've never talked about this to anyone before. I'm inexperienced so I've never swing. Thinking about watching my gf/ wife with other guys just turn me on. Have you ever had the opportunity to watch it? How did you feel about that? Did you feel any kind of jealousy after it? What happened after you did it? I'd like to know your opinion about this subject. If you want to you can tell your story as well:)

My boyfriend and I are both interested in the voyueristic side of swinging. Watching and being watched. Is this the right category for us to explore? We don’t think we want to swing, but are ready to explore new things together.

All thoughtful observations. The situation is that I'll mainly be moving around on the west coast, between several cities, in week-long chunks. Free most weekends and also every few weeks. The way we're looking at it, we'd probably get five or six nights a month together this way, plus a workweek most months and our vacations. We do have two couples that we play with, but they are not local. We've talked about that and are fine with meeting them, but it probably wouldn't happen often. We haven't talked about any kind of a "hard limit" on repeat sessions with anyone, but other than the couples we already know well, no intercourse, no sleepovers, and a veto rule for any partners or situations that set off alarms for either of us. I think we're communicative enough to realize if someone is becoming a problem, although I also think we'd need to have the intercourse talk before a "third date" ever came around. For the moment, we're just going to see what we actually do with it. After last night's conversation, we're feeling pretty committed to the idea. No, I get it. To be clear, for the moment, this is not cruising the personals ads for a friend with benefits. We've talked about that, but the first issue is just having an outlet for going out and being social and playful. We'd rather clear it up now that we both realize we're very physical people, that real life gets heated, and that there's a safe way to go have fun away from home with a stopping point that we can walk away from after letting off some steam. If we feel good about it, we'll move the stopping point, but insisting that we spend that much of our year sitting around bored is not fair, and pretending that nothing could ever happen when we go out is not realistic.

WHAT? If they won't do those kind of pretty normal things with their spouse, no wonder someone is cheating!!

Hello. My fiancé and myself are brand new to the lifestyle we haven’t tried anything yet but hope to maybe give it a go on our Vegas trip. My question is what happens if we are with another couple and myself or the other male we are with cum before anyone else is close to finish? Do we all keep going? Does that person step out?

It really shouldn't be a big deal. Someone is going to come first. It's not a porno where it's edited to look like everyone came at the same time. Sometimes you will be first, sometimes the other guy. Just go with the flow. Continue on with fingers and tongue, pause for a big drink of water, chances are your partner will give you clues if you are paying attention.

I read somewhere an open relationship that limited the number of times they would see a new partner before moving on. This way they avoided getting caught in NRE and were still prioritizing the marriage. Are there couples you currently play with she can see while you are away? Together can you find a single male for MFM and for when you're gone? I am not sure if you are staying in one place or will be travelling too. If you are in one location maybe on one of her visits you can meet couples and they may be more open to playing with you separately having met you together. Make sure to plan the time to talk to each other when apart.

Watching my wife enjoying having sex with another man was my fantasy come true. I'll admit that I felt a sense of jealousy when they kissed very VERY passionately while he was fucking her but it was awesome to see. She was very nervous about doing it but after her first time she was more than willing to do it again. We were both hooked!

There is one thing I believe that you're failing to consider - the positive effect this could have on both your marriage and the sex you have together. In my experience, my wife and then me venturing into other sexual relationships (we play with regulars) together and separately has improved our marriage and makes our sex life fantastic.

I think you are being smart talking about things this much first. I do think that a soft play rule would be hard to maintain, especially in the heat of the moment. It would likely limit interested playmates. I like how the apartment will also allow the two of you to get together more. I had one traveler contact me saying how excited he was to come to my city, ending his letter asking me to help him make his visit to another city memorable.

Sorry I didn't really understand what the issue is for Mrs E? Your first point? And also, are you suggesting open relationship (as you mention in your title) or are you suggesting an apartment that you will BOTH use for swinging? Or both use for shagging, individually as well as together?.. There's a lot of possibilities here... If you're going down the open relationship route then the common issue is the realization of just how much of an advantage women have in this scenario. In comparison to swinging as a couple, you would lose, and your partner would win a lot of points. Most men don't care if the woman is married or not (and many get turned on by knowing they fuck someone else's wife) whereas most women care deeply about their partner's marital status and are wary of married or attached men.

What an intriguing situation. Oh, BTW, I got nothin'. Sorry. But I am so admiring of the adult way the two of you are approaching this issue. A lot of us face difficult situations, you are models for facing this together and working something out that is not giving in to the societal norm which is usually, "Suck it up, be unfulfilled."

I have written about my experiences before. Our first time swinging we were in different rooms. We met a couple on a cruise and we swapped spouses. I went to their cabin, my husband stayed in our cabin with the wife. That night was fabulous. It was the first time with someone other than my husband since we got married. I can say we made love. I know have taken exception to that comment. We did make love with kissing, touching and sex. It's not that I did anything new or much different than I do with my husband, it was different because he was different. Looking back, and memories do change, I was totally comfortable kissing and having sex with this new friend. I didn't think about my husband or what he might be doing in our cabin. It was much different when we had sex with them in the same room. My new partner changed. In front of my husband and his wife we had sex. It felt detached and more like putting on a show. The romantic oral from the night before was replaced with him having sex with my mouth. When he entered me the long sensual strokes were gone. I also saw my husband watching us as he was getting a blow job. It just wasn't the same. Even though we have been in same room situations since and I have become more comfortable with it, I still prefer different rooms.