Well, the very first time we went to a club, we ran into the mother of one of my wife's former students. Also, during a vacation to New Orleans, we went to Collette's and talked to a friend of a friend, so you really just never know who you might encounter. But for the most part, they are there for the same reason as you, so probably will be discreet. You could also try Hedonism 2 in Jamaica, but there are people who go there from all over, even from near here. Or, since it appears you're my neighbor, come on over. lol