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Most films (mainstream) that include swinging usually end up with swinging being part of or the entire problem with the couple. I had a thread here somewhere that was reviewing films, but so few come out that I kind of gave up...

I remember my very first time. A friend of mine, we were both about 13, were camping in his back yard and talking about some of the girls in our class that we thought were cute and jacking off. He asked if I'd ever had a hand, other than my own, on my dick. I hadn't. We decided to experiment and I found that my hand on his dick felt just as good as his hand on my dick. After jacking (or wanking as it's referred to in the UK) each other for a while, he asked, "would you suck it?" I, without hesitation replied, "no way". I've often wondered how things might have been if, instead, I'd said, "you first". Sexual enjoyment isn't about sexual orientation at all. If it feels good..., hey? Sexual orientation is about who turns you on, not what feels good.

Hi all. I'm a newbie from Northern Michigan here. What's prompted me to get on various swinger boards is the one most common fantasy my wife shares with me is wanting to be fucklicked. We often discuss fantasies of a threesome or foursome while in bed. Doing so seems to really get her hot. Me too! I'm totally OK with doing a MFM with her, or whatever other combo she's willing to try. I've told her that as well, usually as she sharing her fantasy me responding "I'm ok with that". But that's where it ends. She's pretty conservative in public. A club setting absolutely out. Kind of shy. Mid fifties. Great shape and good looking. We've been married over 30 years. She's a "thinker", so I'm concerned if it's something pre-arranged, such she's expecting it, she will over think it, and back out. That leads me to consider doing some prescreening, arrange a meeting with a candidate, likely a few meetings and let some chemistry start and see where it goes from there. Perhaps find someone with common interests (camping and motorcycling are our areas of interest BTW). Let a friendship develop first. But that seems disingenuous. How do I best move this to the next stage and actually do something? Thanks in advance for your input!

What GoldCoCouple say is true. I will add that Web sites of this kind have facilities called "Hot Date" or "Booty Call" that will facilitate organizing something like this. You put a prospective event onto a calendar and men can answer the solicitation. Also will provide you the time needed to sort through the men to filter those not desirable.

Sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs to find a prince or princess, not every one is compatable, just hang in there. Over the years we have met some fun people had some hot sex and ended up with some funny stories. Kind of like unwrapping a present you don't always get what you want, and sometimes you get things you did not want but find out they are still a lot of fun. Good luck and don't give up to easy. Remember it's better to be easy than give up easy!

Go to the Find Swingers tab on the top of the page and fill out a profile. Steer clear of guys with free memberships, the guys who pay are the guys who are much more serious about it. Once you join, you usually will get a ton of single guys looking to hook up even if that isn't what you are looking for. Finding guys in the L/S is like trying to find cheeseburgers at McDonalds...they are everywhere.

Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice was nominated for several Academy awards. It's a good movie and poignant for the time but probably not the content or outcome I suspect you are looking for. Natalie Wood was such a hottie!

Visiting a swingers club is the most common because it is probably the best option right now. The hardest part of visiting a club is getting the courage up to walk thru the door. After that, nothing will happen unless you both want something more to happen. It really is hot, sexy fun even if it is only the two of you watching what goes on with others (and they usually won't mind you watching...imagine live porn that you can even make suggestions while it is happening or even ask to join in). It will also put her more at ease when she sees that it's not all just porn stars and beautiful people who are there. People of every body type, personality, nationality, economic status, and religion are there and having a great time. Otherwise, you can start interviewing 'prospects' as JandK suggested above. Just because you are interviewing and possibly meeting them in person it doesn't mean that anything will happen (and we don't like to have anything happening at the first in person meeting). This can also be crazy fun knowing that you are meeting a person or couple that you are thinking about possibly having sex with. Just remember, don't move faster than she is comfortable with and that you are doing this TOGETHER. Make sure that she feels like she is totally involved as well and not being dragged along behind you down this trail. Good luck and let us know how things are going.

I guess im a oral bottom. I absolutely love pussy and am not attracted to men at all but absolutely love to suck dick, be it in a mmf situation or Just one on one with a guy. Love swallowing big loads! Im oral only with a guy

Thanks for the help. I never really thought of myself as bi. Not that it would bother me either way if I suddenly discovered that about myself. When I was wanking with mates before it was always just lads being lads and watching porn, rubbing one out. Have to admit I've been thinking about it a lot since and I'm into it. Only found a couple of good sites with info about it but Buddybate is the best one, loads of experiences and stories there that seem to be a lot like what I'm thinking about it all. Anyway, thanks for the advice. I guess he might have been bi. Maybe I am too? lol A lot more introspection is needed on my part.

I have set a few up and it is really hard work. I am very protective and it is hard screening guys....sometimes really nice guys just turn into rude asses. I would build up from MFM and add a guy or two or three until you are where you want to be. Most importantly, be safe about this.

Gang bangs are surprisingly difficult to actually set up. I've heard lots of stories about folks posting online looking for guys, getting a handful of replies and ultimately having only one, or two, or often zero, people actually show up. Once upon a time, we managed to do semi-regular, semi-spontaneous gang bangs at our local swingers club. The club had a TV playing porn with some couches and chairs in the "play area"... so we'd find a seat there, she'd start going down on me and once her performance attracted more attention that what was on the screen, I'd invite guys to join in. Worked pretty well. Sadly, that club closed down and the same trick doesn't work nearly as well at the new club in the area. I've heard of some clubs that specifically cater to gang bangs, or have special "gang bang nights." So I guess what I'm suggesting is check out your local swingers club scene and see if there is a club in your area that works for you. My other suggestion is don't go in with expectations. If you decide the night is only fun if she pulls the whole train, you're setting yourself for disappointment and frustration. Go in with the mindset that a gang bang would be nice, but sex together - just the two of you, maybe with a little exhibitionism - is fun too.