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My wife has recently brought up this scenario. We are excited about the prospects but realize that in our club environment it may be a little more difficult to pull off. Single guy night is limited to about 5 guys.

I have organized a couple and been to several more. They are a pain to organize. The best bet is a club. Phone ahead and see which nights are best for unaccompanied males. The setting is safe and there is no need to recruit. The club might have a gang bang night where entry requirements for males is relaxed. If you can't get to a club you have to start with advertising. Dating sites can offer GB sub boards. AFF has some by locality. Craigs List was the the place to advertise, but no longer. If you can set up an ad state the date, time and place such as a hotel. Insist that the players provide voice phone numbers and are available a few hours before. Speak to each one, give him the room number and any time window. One event required the players to be in place so the lady could make an entrance rather than wait all evening on the bed. Hotel rooms can get crowded and players might be expected to bring their own towels and safe sex supplies. A lady interested in a GB needs at least one gentleman to control things, to watch her back. Two men isn't bad. When she says no she has friends to reinforce the decision.

Is the lack of confidence because you don't feel like you've had as many experiences as you thought you might? njbm and SAMnTINA are both right. It's not easy. We've left our club several times without engaging with others any more than conversation. When it doesn't happen you can still enjoy each other. If you lack confidence in general then that probably is dragging you down. If you're comparing yourself to others and feel like you don't measure up for whatever reason, just stop it. Sounds like you've got a good woman and a great relationship. She obviously sees something in you. Together the two of you have made it to the point of wanting to do this together. I'd say you have a lot to be proud of and a great deal to be confident in.

The best hitters in baseball only get a hit three out of ten times. Swinging odds are similar. If you want to be involved in this hobby, you are going to see a lot of wacky behavior. Be happy that you have a good primary relationship and forge ahead!

We deleted online profiles after a major disappointment and realizing we were spending way too much time sorting through all the fakes and flakes. We also weren't looking for friends and are pretty much homebodies otherwise. It's not that we don't enjoy meeting people and getting to know them we just don't need to be lifelong friends with people we want to swing with. We found that we can go to our club when the mood strikes, meet and socialize with like minded people and have a good time. We can also have variety and not be tied to specific people. We like the variety a club offers whether it's another couple or a single guy. The not knowing what you're going to get is kind of exciting. Sometimes we don't get anything but each other and possibly an audience and that's fine too. We have fun. Confidence is a major factor in this lifestyle. It's a turn on for us and lack of it is a turn off. If this is something you're lacking in it may be the reason you're not being as successful as you would like. If you happen to try a club make sure you aren't wallflowers, get up and mingle. Get yourselves some sexy new clothes that make you feel attractive or maybe find a club that has a theme night that would encourage you to go in costume or at least in character. Sometimes stepping outside yourself is a way to overcome a lack of confidence and it's not really lying about who you are if everyone knows it's playacting. With success will come more confidence. Good luck!

Sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs to find a prince or princess, not every one is compatable, just hang in there. Over the years we have met some fun people had some hot sex and ended up with some funny stories. Kind of like unwrapping a present you don't always get what you want, and sometimes you get things you did not want but find out they are still a lot of fun. Good luck and don't give up to easy. Remember it's better to be easy than give up easy!

Hello, new to this site but I would say still in rookie mode to the lifestlye lol. My man and I always talked about the thought of him watching me have sex with other men since he expressed to me numerous times that it turns him on. Long story short I saw a lot of "my wife gets fucked" type content on his phone history when he watches porn so I guess that was his fantasy. We have only tried this once with one other guy and my hubby ended up joining in anyways, it was both electrifying and exciting and the pleasuring it for me is seeing my husband happy. e has expressed that we bring more guys at once in the bedroom so we shall see how it goes lol

Do you mean she will do an MFM with two other guys and you just watch? Since we mostly do couples swaps (and threesomes within couples or alone play depending on who's available), the situation where my wife has done MFM with me watching has happened only three times. And each time I couldn't wait to jump in and get mine afterwards. Fortunately, she was very willing for one more go.