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You are correct that the thread as taken a left turn. Keeping in mind that each of us has different views and beliefs, only the original poster can answer how to deal with his beliefs. Every bible is up for interpretation and if you are a believer you interpret meanings the way you want to. Even those who profess to be very religious will interpret “rules” to fit their rules. As that great poet John Lennon said, Imagine.

I'm interested, if you would like to elaborate, on what made it less "successful". For the record I got caught up in using that term early on. I now see success as more relative. We recently had a MFM where the guy so worked up he couldn't perform at a level that I would have liked to see him perform at for her. I was rather disappointed and might lean toward calling it unsuccessful in that she didn't get a great fucking. From her perspective, she got the attention from a nice looking younger guy who she turned to putty in her hands and he was so turned on by her that he just couldn't last very long "because she was so fucking sexy" his words. While she didn't get the best sex of her life her ego sure got a huge boost so she would probably call it a very successful encounter.

First of all, yes, welcome to the board. I think your curiosity about wife sharing will be satisfied here. Your wife is smart to suspect that you're using a possible sharing of her to later ask for your getting to play with another woman. It happens and it happens more than true swingers would like. And if your wife has that concern then it probably means that she might consider joining you in wife sharing but wouldn't be interested in anything else. OK, some would think that would be her being selfish but I don't. She's just being honest. If you truly just want to enjoy sharing her then you need to first make sure that's the extent of your desires. The you need to assure her of it. You might just suggest she comes to this board as well. If you look around, you'll find that there are a lot of husbands who truly enjoy knowing about, watching, joining their wives with other men and don't expect more from them.

Am 64. Use a club site and SZC to meet people, groups, couples, and single women. While some couples & women have been under 35 most have been near my age. Last autumn I had knee surgery & was in a brace for three months. Unexpectedly no one found it very weird. I took a lady to a club and another time met a couple there. In both cases they were all ok with the brace, crutches and tender knee. My first experience with a significantly older person was at age 35. I met and had a few sex sessions with a 59 y/o woman. That was a education, even before we first got naked. Since then age has not been a consideration, just personality and health or fitness.

In my experience on other boards and threads where this topic is brought up it inevitably derails and goes where this one is headed. It never ends well because there are too many belief systems and most everyone passionately believes theirs is the right one. I do believe you are getting off topic and taking the thread to a place it wasn't intended to go, that being a debate on whether Deity exists and proving or disproving it in a logical way...It's a debate that has gone on for centuries and won't be solved on a swinger's board. Next we'll be arguing how many angels can dance on the head of a pin or whether angels exist at all. The direction the thread is going does nothing to further the question of how one deals with faith and swinging assuming faith is an issue. The topic of the thread is how we deal with our faith in a Deity while swinging. Your statements are important to faith in so far as whether or not faith is relevant. The OP makes it relevant by asking the question "How do you deal with your faith in swinging?". He/she/they didn't ask if we were believers or non-believers although that might be good topic for another thread.

One of the posters here asked if this is also referred to as 'tossing the salad'. That is a term used, mainly by the gay community, for rimming. Now the sophisticated term is anilingus. Just thought I'd mention it in case some of you have a medical professional for a partner.

Nothing about porn, wife-sharing kind or any other kind, is real. Have you asked her about her desires? She might surprise you. Have you expressed your desires to her. Women are full of surprises. I see that you are a new member. WELCOME to Swingersboard.

Start with baby steps, watch your own reactions as well as that of the other. Ask your inner self - do you like variety in other things in life - like, different food, different clothes, different places. So what is the issue about different people for sex. Does that make you feel guilty, envious. Everything that you have been taught about morality will go out of the window, as long as it is ethical. You may read more in my blogs a to how I became an ethical slut.

You are all giving answers based on Judeo-Christian beliefs. What about the Gods of Sex? Teicu, goddess of sexual appetite. Tlaco, goddess of sexual longing. Xocotzin, goddess of sexual desire Min, god of reproduction, love, and sexual pleasure Eros, god of love and sexual desire Himeros, god of sexual desire and unrequited love These are just a few Gods that others may look to. Do you think these Gods are made up myths? Oh, are only your Gods real?

No advice except "Enjoy yourselves," and keep us posted.

Why not dinner on a first date? I do think that it is a non-pressure environment to talk for awhile and vet the prospective date. If it is a swinging meeting, I think coffee, drinks or apps are ok, but it looks cheap if a person can't spring for dinner on a vanilla date. Unless the person is blazing thru everyone on match.com and does not care to make an impression. We do not usually play on the first meeting, just to give everyone a chance to think it over and not feel pressure or have an in person rejection. We do not like to eat first and then play. Too much food sloshing around!

It's called dating.

We were one year before we met people with whom we clicked. But here's the thing. After you find an experienced and worthwhile couple, they will introduce you to other people who will introduce you to other people . . . You'll then be off to the races.

We have a couple we go bareback with also though we have not made anything official as far as exclusivity goes. We did agree that if we have encounters with others then we will let the other couple know as far as the bareback issue goes. Don't know if we will play with anyone else but when/if that happens we will cross that bridge when we get there. It is nice not having to use condoms! We just recently got back into swinging after taking some time off to focus on each other so we are moving slowly right now. We've only been with the one couple since we started again.

We are exclusive now with two other couples. We had a serious talk about no cheating, and decided it was what we wanted to do so we could go bareback, do anal or anything else without fear. For now at least, it is enough for all of us. We've agreed that if it ever isn't we'd whoever would give notice first.

We only do MFM and have been in a exclusive on our side for about a year and half but our play partner has a couple of ladies he has known for years and hooks up with them when he travels. He retired quite young and is single, and it' something he has always done so no big deal and he always tells us about his intentions. He also from time to time gets a girlfriend but again he is a single guy so it's to be expected, and for some reason they don't seem to last very long. With being said and that he is not seeking other couples we do consider it to be exclusive, and this is has a lot to do with (As Goldcocouple said)our travel and work schedule, and not having enough time to get together. However this may be changing soon as his last couple adventures have put him out for a couple of months and we have missed a few connections due to schedules, so with his agreement we a seeking others now. Got a bar meeting coming up in a couple of weeks so we will see. Have to say we really like the exclusive thing but as it proves in our situation it would be selfish for all involved to try to maintain.