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When having sex with my husband there is a feeling after orgasm where I just want to stay in his arms and enjoy the moment. This Afterglow gives us time to enjoy the moment, and a time to get our breathing and heart rate to return to normal. A time to really connect, a time to cuddle and snuggle. A time of quiet and a time to giggle. So many mornings we just don’t have the time. It’s a rush to shower, dress and rush to work. The afterglow feeling stays with me during the day. How do you handle Afterglow when you are with another partner? Do you cuddle with others? Is snuggling and basking in the afterglow to intimate to share with a LS partner?

I admit I never heard the expression Devils Triangle or Boof before the SCOTUS hearings. Whether it is the definition given at the hearing, a beer pong game, or from what I know know as being with two men, I guess I have played Devils Triangle a bunch of times. As for Boof I have both definitions covered there. For me the definition given by the nominee is unashamedly more satisfying though I have been with guys who enjoy either definition. This weekend I satisfied both Devil meanings. The only boofing I did was in private. Don’t people understand the women don’t pass gas. So much for that. My team lost. We Are....

I didn't know what to title this . One of my pet peeves is people who respond to your profile with "Hi". That's it. Or anything short along those lines. I took the time to write a profile, take the time to put more thought into your message. I am not good at small talk, so my response will likely either not happen or be "Hi" back. Ask me a question, engage me. Even with my small talk skill deficit, I will still put more into a message than that. Does this bother anyone else, or am I just insanely picky?

News from the vanilla world--clergy assaulting children, a celebrity sexual predator who drugged dozens of women for sex, a peace officer who turns out to be a serial killer of women, a world "leader" who thinks it's just fine to "grab pussies". No news from the swinger world, where respect is intrinsic and consent is foundational to intimacy. There is something wrong with social norms that tolerate the enumerated vanilla behaviors and yet assert the lifestyle to be "sinful".

Perversions are "newsworthy" as they are outside of "normal". Be glad that swinging, MMF, FMF, MMMMMF, whatever, is not shocking as considered to be worth "reporting" on as "news".

This is how my wife fell in love with her favorite. I was happy for her. I was happy that she enjoyed herself. I wasn't expecting her to fall in love. Great sex causes great emotions.

Good answers from SWPA and VSex. You need to communicate with her, find out what her fantasies are, share yours with her. There's a quiz somewhere that both of you take and it shows shared areas of interests. - somebody please help with the website, I forget at the moment -. Both of you should take it. If you do it right, it won't happen quickly. You'll need patience before you're both comfortable enough to actually have an experience with other people. Good luck.

Well I went through with it, I love it and can’t wait for these to heal up so my husband can enjoy them.

Excellent reminder about pacing. The good thing is that there’s no expectations and 8 years feels like it was yesterday. I think what will balance too is that we realize now swinging is not a race but a long stroll through the woods with some side trails. The opportunity will be there.

My husband approached me and wants to swing. I have never thought of it/been interested. Still leaning towards not interested, but I’m trying to be more open minded. I joined to find advice/information. Or maybe find someone in a similar situation that decided to go for it and how they were able to get to that point.

I am curious, when you are with another partner for the evening do you tend to have a new approach to adventure? Does the opportunity to be with someone new give you the feeling that you are free to reach out to new levels that you may not share with your spouse? Do you do things like swallow or go down on your new partner and not your spouse? Do you ever just let go and accommodate the requested new situation pushing the agreed upon boundaries/limits of your spouse? Do you have stronger or multiple organism's with you new partner? Do you have sex more times during the evening encounter than with your spouse? Do you look forward to a specific partner that elevates your experience?

I wrote this for a blog at some point: ~~~~~~~~~ Are you a cuckold? And do you care? In this world, cuckold is usually considered to be a derogatory term. Technically, any husband who's wife sleeps with other men is a cuckold, and society automatically condemns him. (Of course, any wife who sleeps with other men is a ‘slut’ and is condemned, but that’s another blog!) In actuality, there are three different connotations of the word ‘cuckold.’ If your wife is sleeping around, one of them fits you. The first usage is ‘standard’ and has a historical context behind it. The term was invented in the middle of the eleventh century and comes from ‘cuckoo’ - that bird has the habit of using other bird’s nest to lay their eggs. It usually meant a man who’s wife was having adulterous affairs with one or more other men. This was a big deal well into the nineteenth century, because a wife was a man’s property. There are plenty of court cases where men sued other men for improper usage of their goods. Of course, if they brought the Earl to court, the men usually got snickered at. This definition continues into modern time to describe a man who’s spouse is cheating on him without his knowledge or agreement. Now, of course, girls are much more equal than they used to be, and I suspect that many more married women are sharing themselves than used to be before the women’s liberation movement and the invention of effective birth control. (I, for one, applaud the revolution!) In the modern context, the term ‘cuckold’ has evolved. The second definition is used for some men who have the fetish of their wives having sex outside the marriage and humiliating them in the process. The affront can start with simple embarrassment of the man, (“I slept with Jake today, what are you going to do about it?) to the wife forcing him to watch as she screws someone. She might tell him about the large size of the man who’s screwing him, comparing it to his tiny penis. She might make him wear a cock cage so that he isn’t allowed to orgasm except when she’s willing. Often, he tends to think of himself as a sissy. While this isn’t my cup of tea, if it makes you happy, who am I to judge? Finally, there’s the ‘modern’ definition. Today there are many couples who engage in swinging and/or hotwifing. With her husband’s permission and (sometimes) participation, a wife is promiscuous. In these situations, the man is technically a cuckold. But since he doesn’t view his wife as ‘property’, he isn’t upset or threatened by her infidelity. In fact he often encourages it to both their pleasure. Are you a cuckold? If so, which kind?

I am just guessing but I think this is one of a long list of things that she is going to want that are going to exclude your wife. B