This is interesting. The husband would love for me to go to the swingers club by myself and see if I have more luck by myself. I haven't done it. Firstly, that removes the "it's about us" component for me. Secondly, I am sure there would be an expectation of quid pro quo at some point, and I am not comfortable with that (at least right now). For now, I am just trying to get him to meet me in a bar and pretend like we don't know each other. We aren't good at role playing, but I still think it might be fun. I wear a dress (I never do), knee high boots (if they match), and no underwear. Slyly show him the no underwear... you get the drift. I thought it would be a fun way to spice things up without involving others. He nixed it. I was actually going to do this for his birthday. Back to the drawing board.
I am not someone who gets "hit on" or "picked up", so it would be interesting to see if I could make that happen, especially in a bar.