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This might not be a popular answer, but with regards to telling the other people-- if you aren't able/willing/ready to handle the fact that they may have different desires (i.e., keep the baby, they raise the baby, etc.), I would probably not tell them. Especially if you are not 100% certain, at this point, who the biological father is. I am surprised I am saying that as I am very much a direct/honest person, but you have to look at your motivations for telling them. I can't imagine how isolated you feel. It is hard enough with other swinging issues, not being able to talk to your friends about it, this is another level altogether. All of this, and anything anyone else says (unless they have been in the exact same predicament) is moot for you. No one can know exactly how they would respond in a situation until it happens -- they only have how they think/hope they would respond. Good luck sounds so trite....but good luck? and virtual hugs.

from Oklahoma, Nshvlleswingers! Thanks for a thought-provoking question. I won't try to advise you since such a decision is personal. I'm sure you'll do what is best for you and your baby. "Much more than a seed is required to be a father." Monahseetah, The Thunder Moon, 1869 I found out when I was in my sixties that the man I always called "Dad" did not provide the sperm that resulted in my birth. Yes, Dad knew, but it never affected his love for me. I never knew my sperm donor. I can safely say he has not affected my life. I only found out who he was when I had a DNA test done by Ancestry. So far I've learned that he was born in 1899 and died in Oklahoma. If you raise the child, never lie to him about his origin. If you give her up for adoption, never look back. "It's not the blood that flows through your heart, but the heart that flows in your blood." Monahseetah Yellowbird, The Fattening Moon, 2016

Adopted here so I also will tell you that it takes more than sperm to be a father. Never even was interested in finding my 'real' mother and father since I already know who they are...the people who raised me. As for telling the other two guys, HELL NO. This will only possibly cause more problems. Since it sounds like you are going to give up the baby if it isn't your husbands, what is the reason for telling the other two guys? Sorry to hear about your problem and wishing you the best with whatever you decide to do.

Hmmm. Interesting concept. Is it possible for me to develop into a professional swinger?

I guess it depends upon where you are and who is sponsoring it. We participated in several hotel takeovers sponsored by APG in King of Prussia and had a blast each time. Once we moved south, we attended one at the Indigo in Ft Myers sponsored by SDC. That was a good time as well.

Wow, this is a tough one. I think Alura gave very wise advise, as he typically does. If you and your husband are ready to be parents, and it sounds like you are, have the kid and raise it as both yours. If not, you should consider adoption or abortion if neither other choice is an option. Just realize that that is a tough decision that you’ll have to live with forever. Good luck.

it is a very great turn on for my husband to see a man cum in me.

We have 2 couples that we play with and trust them 100% so for us its not a issue plus you feel closer to them and thats what works for us.

I am of the school of thought who does the inviting pays

Hey all, I just wanted to update you all. We went ahead and tried it. At first it was awesome, she loved it and so did he. As eddiem said it was SO damn erotic. It happened when we were at a lake party. They were getting a little handsy with each other, so i told them to get a room. A short time after, my buddy comes up to me with a raging hard on asking if I care if he spends some time alone with my wife. I look at her as she smirks and walks past both of us teasing as she walks by. He grabs her butt as they head into the house. I follow in shortly after since she likes when I watch. I sneak into the room as they're making out, his hands slowly trace my wife's curves making his way to the bikini top straps. I feel myself getting harder as the top falls off and his hands touch her breasts. She moans softly as she goes to her knees pulling his suit down with her, revealing his hard cock. She smiles at him as she cups his balls and licks her way up his shaft to the head. I watch his cock disappear into her throat as he thrusts into her mouth. This goes on for a few minutes until he pulls his cock out out of her mouth, grabs her hips, spins her then bends her over and rips off her bottoms. He puts on a condom and teases her clit with his cock. I hear her moan as he slowly splits her pussy lips and enters her, stretching her out. I pull my dick out and start stroking it as he increases speed and thrusts into her. They switch up position and she climbs onto his cock, slowly sliding down his shaft. She quickly climaxes on his cock yellinG his name as she orgasms. She quickly pulls off him, yanks the condom off and goes back to riding him. She rides him faster and faster, until I hear him say to her I'm getting close, oh god I'm getting close, FUUUUUUUCK!!! I watch his balls thrust all his cum deep into her pussy. I then nut massively as i watch her climb off of him. It was absolutely amazing and we've done it a couple of times more since! Best fantasy ever.

Eleven.

My first was while he was sitting on a couch and I was on top facing the other guy. I was already excited with both of them but once he licked my I lost control and that was the first time I squirted. The guy I was riding had to hold me as I lost any ability to keep my balance as that was happening. It was the most intense continual series of orgasms. I am not going to say too many and too intense but I was literally without control! I have to tell you to try it but be prepared for what was for me the most intense orgasm I ever had!

I think what I need to do is this experience getting out of control, I thought this was about us, not you and SM, and go from there I guess, but definitely no contact with that SM, it’s totally drama, I rather be not in LS then being in this situation, thanks for all your comments, greatly appreciated

Yes! Yes let him cum in her! Yes! You'll probably be happy you did especially later when its your turn!

If you are having sex bareback all the fears of std and pregnancy are already present. Even if he isn’t cumming he is leaving traces in your wife. When we first did this it was with friends. I didn’t know the etiquette. I figured I would pull out at the time. I was already stressed that first time. Nerves and how will I do. I thought we would use condoms and we didn’t. It was also my wife’s friend. There was foreplay and plenty of oral. We got to the point of me in her and her on top. We were both about to cum and I pulled out and she put me back in and started with the don’t stop and her cumming. Told her I was cumming and she held me tight. It was then I noticed my wife had done the same thing. I think you should respect what your wife wants.

Well you have gone a long way already especially if they are discussing it. I too had this fantasy / fetish and TBH with the right person you trust and know well it is HIGHLY erotic. However our ground rules were that we would be in the same room. But to each is own. Our first threesome with an old friend that she normally would not be attracted to turned out that way and TBH it was the most erotic thing I have ever experienced seeing the head of his cock enter her, her expression and then when we was about to cum looking at her and me for approval (giving it) and seeing him tense up and explode in her. I did not examine the cum pouring out but she basically passed out from exhaustion and we lay there for hours reliving mentally the event.

We never tried the bar experience, picked up the guy either on SLS or at a club. But I'm curious. What would happen if the husband was hanging out at the bar, watching her flirt, and she gets some interest. Then she could say, "I'm into you. I'm a little kinky. Are you kinky?" If he doesn't run away after that, they spend some time talking about kinks. Then she says, "Well, here's my kink. My husband loves to watch me in bed with another guy. He's not gay or anything, just likes to watch. We've tried it a few times, had a really great time. How'd you like to have a great time with me tonight?" Nice and easy, sneak up on it. Do you think it would work?

My husband had similar fantasies, and I think that they are very common and normal. As JandK say, you need to let your wife proceed at her own pace. With time and communication, she will likely become comfortable with cuckolding (and maybe swinging) and will even start taking the initiative. My husband and I started with a lot of open communication, fantasizing, and role playing before I finally took the plunge with another man.

Reading this post kinda made me think you are pushing your wife into an uncomfortable situation. It might be best to find out the reason for her being uncomfortable. Some things like a strict father or strong religious beliefs can be overcome somewhat eventually. Other issues, like an inability to have sex without an emotional bond, or when sex causes an emotional bond, can be more difficult or impossible to overcome. Lastly, she may be holding out because she knows that if she lets go, she will really let go and be a huge slut, and that scares her. Try to remember that the woman's brain looks at sex way different than men. You have put your wife in your fantasy but it's not hers. There is probably a lot of unspoken fear on her side.